I thought it would be romantic to ask my girlfriend to marry me and already have the engagement ring. Some people say to not do this and you should shop around together. I have put alot of time into researching diamonds and believe I have found the perfect one. Additionally she is not picky when it comes to jewelry. Should I go ahead and buy one or wait to ask her then shop around together?
2007-10-07 03:54:25 · 14 answers · asked by footlongtoothpick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
tradition is that you have the ring when you propose and i hate to admit it but i kinda like that tradition. i'd hate to say yes and then have to wait to go shopping for a ring! it would kinda take the spark out of the entire scenario.
so my vote is buy the ring!
good luck and have a great life!
2007-10-10 16:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by itsjustyouandmebabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it all depends on if you two have discused the idea of marriage, find out how she would like it. Sometimes a ring can look beautiful in the case but once she puts it on it may not compliment her finger. Another way is to "accidently" stop at a store one day and let her show you a few that she likes so you can get an idea of the type of ring she would like and then go from there or you can even go as far as to let her pick out her top 3 or 5 and then you go back and pick one out of the ones she really loves. The ring is a big deal, she will be wearing it for the rest of her life and you want her to fall in love with you all over again every time she looks at that ring. A great ring store is robbins brothers,they have very unique rings as well as trafitional and they also can help design a ring just for her we went thru them and they are amazing, they are located through out the country. Plus if you buy a ring thru them you get great wedding day services like discounts on flowers, dinners, honeymoon destinations ect. But then again im sure your girl will be happy with whatever you choose. Good luck and congratulations!!
2007-10-07 12:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by jennababe_68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say get the ring. If you're nervous about your choice, enlist one of her friends or her mom. If you've been together long enough, she's probably dropped hints about what she likes.
ps: not all women want a 1+ carat diamond as someone said above. I would far rather have a high quality smaller diamond! In fact, I tried on a larger one when I had my own ring sized and didn't care for it.
2007-10-07 12:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well traditionally its the man buys the ring without the girl knowing and proposes with the ring. i think its a very cute and romantic idea to propose and pop out the ring that she has no idea about. because if you go lookin together for rings she is goin to kno ur proposing and its not as cute and romantic and surprising. plus if your getting ready to propose you should have an idea of what ur girlfriend likes and you researched it and everything so i think your set.
good luck
2007-10-07 11:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by bballbabe725 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tradition says that you present her with the ring at the moment that you ask her. More couples nowadays do shop together after discussing marriage to find exactly what she would like. You sound like the more traditional proposal type of guy. If it is in your heart to buy first and present it to her when you ask then go with your heart. You will not regret it either way. Congratulations!!!
2007-10-07 11:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my fiance proposed he did it without the ring and now we're ring shopping together. I love it because he's letting me choose my own ring and he loves it because he realized had he just bought the ring like he intended to he would have spent too much because I'm very simple when it comes to jewelry and the ring i want is well under 1000 dollars. But what ever you do I'm sure she'll appreciate it. Best wishes
2007-10-07 15:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Tiara J 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
when my fiance proposed he gave me a chocolate heart (it was european chocolate and the same thing he gave me our first date just not in a heart form so he made a cute little line aobut giving me his heart and r life being as sweet as the chocolate inside...ill never forget it!) then we got my ring. personally i always thought i wanted the ring with the proposal, but i loved my proposal and i wouldnt change it for anything in the world! i would never ask for it to b another way.
no matter how u do it shell appreciate it and itll stay w/ her forever.
altho she might like to have the ring the same day or very soon after. so mayb propose a day ur both free and able to go shopping then. ;-)
2007-10-07 11:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it would be romantic to ask her then present the ring. Go ahead and buy the ring you've been thinking about!
2007-10-07 11:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and buy it and then propose. IT's more of a formality when you put the ring on her finger after asking. And so romantic! :) Whatever you do, make sure you get down on bended knee!
2007-10-07 11:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I would love to be totally suprised and swept off my feet romantically by the love of my life.
I say go for it. Every girl dreams of this kind of proposal.
Follow your heart and just dont tell people. Also you better hurry up with it too, cos someone you tell might tell someone else who might spoil the suprise.
Good luck, I am sure she will be happy with the ring and the proposal. If she loves you, she will love whatever your present her with.
2007-10-07 19:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋