Do You Think Goodnites Are Degrading For Bed-Wetting Children?

Question

I have a son who's 11 and still has accidents a few times a week.
I try not to make a big deal about it b/c I had a problem as a child.
We just do all the things like no or limited liquids. Waking up to go, etc.
I saw a commercial with children my child's age saying oh yea they help.
I sometimes wish they had them when I was a child b/c theres not much worse for a kid that waking up with soaked sheets.
I just can't see saying to my son, here wear these.
Honestly, I think the embarrassment would make a bad situation worse.

Answer 1

You could always ask him if he'd like to wear some...

However, I agree with you. But you should at least give him the option before assuming they'd make it worse. You yourself could see having liked them as a child, maybe he would too.

Answer 2

I think it would be more embarrassing for your son to wake up to wet sheets than to have some extra protection of a night time. Besides it's not like anyone but the two of you will know. Sit down and talk to your son about this. You are the parent and it's up to you to help your child all you can. He may be excited to try the Goodnites. They have them now that look like boxers.

Answer 3

I believe many children who do wear them prefer the Goodnites to dealing with wet pajamas, sheets, even mattress in some cases. If parents don't make a big deal about wearing them, it shouldn't be a big deal to the child. My son is 10, and to him, it is just a natural part of his life. Would he go around school announcing it to his friends? No way, but there are a few trusted people he has discussed it with. He understands it is not his fault, and he doesn't let it stop him from doing things he wants to do, like sleepovers. We have tried everything else, from waking him up to bed alarms to medication, and it is a traumatic situation for any kid affected. Our son would much rather wear the Goodnite, than to wake up at a friends house or in his sleeping bag soaking wet, which is going to happen 99 % of the time. As a parent who has been there for many years, I would highly recommend at least offering the choice to try it out for a while. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

Yes, I am sorry to those here but it is embarrassing. I would buy a few packages and place them in your sons underwear drawer. I have a sit down in his room and tell him that I know your embarrassed and I am sorry, these are for you. When your done place them in a kitchen grocery bag..have a few in his room and throw them in the trash.. Tell him you love him and that you guys won't ever talk about this again unless he brings it up and leave... the talk is going to be embarrassing for him so be short and get out. He is 11 and he knows he is a little to old for this but odd are he wont always do this.

Answer 5

My pal's brother wore the pull united statesuntil he grew to become into around 10 years of age yet he had a clinically determined problem that the dr. stated he would improve out of, I forget the call of his difficulty. He grew to become into very embarrassed approximately this (the only reason i understand is using the fact I helped sparkling his room one time and located them under his mattress and asked and he felt ashamed). in case your son is over 5 years of age, i'd seek for a dr's opinion with regard to the incontinence. otherwise, attempt waking him up each and every 2 hours. We try this with memory impaired citizens at our assisted residing facility. I understand he's not memory impaired however this is going to certainly decrease decrease back on the injuries. in case you arent keen to try this, then i'd recommend the two the pull united statesor, the pad/blankets that they use for incontinent adults in hosptials. The mattress protector may well be much less bothersome for him, however this is going to nonetheless saturate his outfits. perchance one time isnt sufficient, while you're in basic terms toileting him as quickly as at night... perchance each and every 2 hours and then each and every 4, as quickly as you think of you are able to desire to purpose that long of a time in between potty journeys. solid success!

Answer 6

Don't tell him but ask him if he would like to wear them.When a commercial comes on just say would they help u to wear them.Plus a plastic cover before the sheet works good too.Good luck

Answer 7

I have 5 kids. 4 of the kids used pull-ups, training pants, or good-nights. After doing the routine several times with different kids, I don't think they are degrading...but they enable correctable behavior.

I just answered this in a different question, but we had the same problem with my oldest son. He wet the bed from the time he was 3 until his 8th birthday. He wore pull-up/good nights the whole time. As parents we were concerned because his sister 3 years younger had no problems and was done bed wetting before she turned 4. His younger brother was done bed wetting at 3yrs.

Anyway, my son was being invited to sleep overs and he was hosting them as well....so we were concerned about his friends being less than polite about the situation.

I took my son to his pediatrician, and it was the best visit we ever had with him. His doctor set us up on a course of bladder exercise that wiped out bed wetting within a month. After my son went a whole month without wetting the bed, his reward was my monthy good-night pants budget (about $30).

What we did was start the process by over-hydtrating during the day. Lots and lots of fluids. Filling the bladder to full several times a day. While going, the doc coached my son to try to stop the flow mid-stream once or twice. This process of overfilling and eliminating...combined with pinching off midstream helped reprogram his internal alarm clock that was supposed to be telling him his bladder was full.

Next was the night time routine. He had to abstain from ANY fluid after 7PM. (with all the additional fluid during the day, he wasn't thirsty anyway). We had him go just before bed, trying to squeeze every last drop out. Then I had to wake him up at 11PM before I went to bed to make him go, and again at 3-4AM and make him go.

Getting him up in the middle of the night to go was a challenge, but it payed off. Within 2 weeks his night time accidents were GONE! After about 3 weeks of waking him at 4AM, we didn't have to do that part anymore. I continued waking him at 11 for another 2-3 weeks and we were done.

My son has had 3 bed wetting accidents since then. He was just turning 8, now he is 10 1/2. At least one of those times, he had the flu.

There are several gadgets and a couple pills that could aid in night time training...but this exercise required none of that. All it took was my son and I agreeing that we were both frustrated with the problem and wanted to work together to fix it. It helped that his pediatrician related his own childhood bed wetting problem to my son. I don't know if his story was true or not, but it helped my son realize he had nothing to be ashamed of......but we could fix the problem.

Answer 8

Im sure waking up with wet sheets would be much more to deal with then using "protection" Ask him how he feels, and if he would like to try them.

Answer 9

I think that you should approach it exactly like you told us. Explain that it was something that you went through and how common it actually is. You can tellhim that you will be descreet about it and won't mention it around to friends and relatives so that it's just between the two of you........make sure you don't leave them around his room where his friends might see them.........

Answer 10

first ask him if he feels comfortable wearing them to go to sleep then let him wear them.