2007-10-07 01:05:55 · 22 answers · asked by AnnieG 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I am not being mean or bad mannered, I do offer whoever to join us, it is when they say no thanks then sit for hours!!
2007-10-07 02:04:25 · update #1
You are wrong Mofty, love visitors but I like to be prepared.
2007-10-07 02:15:26 · update #2
I hate it when people turn up unannounced full stop.
2007-10-07 01:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by G 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It really would depend on the age of the visitor at my house. The older relatives "remember" when we would gather after church and the women would cook a huge meal..remember the movie "Soul Food"?..well, we cooked so much that it really didn't matter who stopped by-we always had leftovers! Also, during those times, relatives or "company" (as some called it) would stop by unannounced because they knew that everyone was at home and it was a chance to actually catch-up with the family on the porch.Those lazy days with iced tea, friends, and family after church; I remember it well! If the visitors are younger, I would think that they would call first-especially-if not a relative. These traditions haven't carried over as strong now as the older people pass on-. My relatives STILL just drop-by but it is on Sunday only-so it's not so bad! If they are truly people you care about, and you explain to them that you have a problem with their "popping in", they should understand. Some people just don't know any better! BUT if you don't say anything, how are they to know?
2007-10-07 08:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by southernluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to say something which might annoy some people, but it has to be said.
I do not like it when people turn up unannounced full stop. I need to be totally tidy and in the right frame of mind for someone to come around. If anything is slightly out of place I go into complete overwhelm and notice it and wonder if the person has noticed!
I also find it difficult when people turn up unannounced and say they won't keep you long and then stay until the end of the night! I need to eat because of my illness, but then I have to feed the visitor as well - and notice the difference between visitor and guest!!
2007-10-07 08:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by zakiit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on who pops in. If they where family or close friends, I would open my doors wide. If it was someone that I didn't know to well, I would invite them in and offer lunch, because that is the polite thing to do. I would make the comment, that they will have to give you advanced warning, the next time they stop in, because you where just having a quick lunch, and on your way out the door. That should get the idea across to them.
2007-10-07 08:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will be honest Sunday is our one and only family day when we are all together and we love our peace and quiet, our chill out, scruffy clothes on, no make up, sunday lunch, pudding,watching our fav films or just tv and falling asleep so YES I hate anyone arriving unexpected especially if they expect to be fed on a Sunday!!!
2007-10-07 08:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by momof3 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
and to make it worse you come on here and ignore them,lol
My husband knew a guy if in our area he would always call in around dinner time it was a right pain last we seen him was after getting fed up i said oh ordered Chinese isn't enough for you sorry you better go ... it was very rude of me but then he was deliberately calling for food .
Just politely tell quests you are busy today even run about doing the washing most people only have the weekend to washing /tidying etc maybe they will say oh better go
2007-10-07 08:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Nutty Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually it is better if they tell you that they'll be visiting. However, sometimes, friends just like to surprise visit you. It happens and you just have to adapt. You may be mad, but what if it's a friend that you haven't seen in a long time? Surprise! OK, you're cooking and cleaning so? They'll understand and you shouldn't worry too much. Just enjoy their visit.
2007-10-07 08:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Len 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So presumably you have left cooking and your Guests to come and moan about it here?
It does of course matter who exactly the people are, but in general I'd be delighted.
I'd insist they stayed for dinner. Then I'd sit them down and open a bottle or two of Shiraz and busy myself making extra food....Its Fun.
2007-10-07 08:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate that. So I show them my bad manners and tell em to get lost.
2007-10-07 08:15:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you should always call before visiting someone. It's not hard with mobile phones? I would tell them to wait out side.
2007-10-07 08:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by daboss 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋