2007-10-06 23:48:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Authoritative means to show kids that parents are in charge and do whats best and right for them. Children who have authoritative parents are usually better behaved than kids with non-authoritative parents.
2007-10-06 23:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by kiwichickie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the parent is TOO authoritative, the child will eventually rebel against everything. If the parent is authoritative, but still gives respect and love to the child... the child will grow up to be a stable, and well-mannered individual.
2007-10-07 07:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by MARI 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is a myth that parents can only have power over their children until they're 18. In reality, they have power as long as the child is dependant on them. If the child lives at home with them, that right there alone counts as a dependency on them. If the parents are paying the bills, or at least most of them (like if the child pays a third, and the parents pay the other two-thirds, this would mean they still pay most of the bills)...even if the child did not live at home, if the parents were helping pay the bills...if the child is a college student, if the parents were helping pay their tuition...as long as even one of these are the case...then they can do that, they can call the shots. The child always has the option of moving out, and supporting himself/herself other than on his/her parents' money. THEN, and ONLY then, will the child be exempt of their parents' power. Only then will the child be free to call her/her own shots. The child's age alone will NOT emancipate them from this. It alone will not exempt them from their parents' power. Only the aforementioned will.
2013-12-18 11:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by JP C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, "authoritive parents" is what the majority of the teenage and child population need these days.
Because, obviously this "BFF" junk isn't working.
It will make kids respect people and themselves more. Think about it. If you didn't have an authority figure in your life, you'd do what you want, when you want to do it, wouldn't you? I know I would have.
2007-10-07 07:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone that has mention that kids will end up respecting you and being well rounded adults are correct. One thing that hasn't been mentioned is that you probably need to start showing authority at an early age. Because if you did start later during their pre-teen years, yes, they probably will rebel. But that doesn't mean give up. I am sure there are a million examples of teens rebelling and then being wonderful adults.
I would also talk with your other caregivers and relatives to make sure that they understand that they can tell your child no. Grandmas and Grandpas are very good at spoiling grandkids, but is that what we really want?
2007-10-07 08:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by Corbin's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young children do not know any better the concept of right and wrong. We as parents need to teach them what is right and wrong. Sitting down with them and talking to them in a loving, but exercising and telling them what is right from wrong.
You can praise the child for doing very well in whatever they are doing. Like picking up toys to doing good in school. You can be an authoritative stern figure if say: your child darts out in the middle of the street when the car is coming...You drop everything, and grab your child, and take your child to the side of the road...
This happened once. He never did it again. I went down on my son's level to talk to him. Saying that he will be very hurt if he gets hit by a car, to the point where he has to go into an ambulance. He didn't do it again. I never need to hit him nor spank my child. Communication is the key here...You have to sit your child down, and talk to them. In a stern voice with a loving heart.
As with older kids, they really want you to be there in their lives. As they are getting more and more independent in life they start to stray more and more. Establish a good relationship with the kids, in the long run they will respect you for it and they will be close to you later on in life. Kids need their parents regardless of age...from birth on....
2007-10-07 08:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parents have to give a bit of authority to let their children
know how to behave. Children NEED guidelines and want
someone to show them the way.
At the same time, if you are too strict it will backfire and they
will rebel.
You can only guide your children and hope that they heed your advice. Minxy.
2007-10-07 08:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They often rebel. If their childhhood/young adulthood rebellion failed, when they become parents, they become authoritative like their parents.
2007-10-07 06:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Authoritative with tender loving care...result of this..
BEHAVE AND FINEST CHILDREN.
2007-10-07 07:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by jhulia g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They grow up and have respect and know responsibility isn't a dirty word.
2007-10-07 06:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by txpyxie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋