Should i have sex with him?

Question

i'm 15 (not going to lie about my age)

i've been going out with my boyfriend for over 7 months now. and i've been talking to him and we both want to have sex but there a problem...

i don't know if i can trust him.
i live 20 miles away from him and have no idea about what he does when i don't see him. we both go to a club called young carers because we both have desabled parents,
my friend (who also goes to the club)let me go on her mobile and i was looking through her text and found she had been texting my boyfriend,
asking him if he was still going out with me. they both said love you on severil texts.

i dumped him straight away, shouted at her. she said it was all him. he said it was all bull ****, and he says love you at the end of a text to every one. so i started going out with him again. he said that he did mess around with someone after i dumped him (not my friend) but it ment nothing...

should i trust him completly, i don't know if i can.

thanks so far to every one who's helped but here's a few extra details.
yes i love him.
befor we were going out and we were just friend he'd always end text with love you.
he's 15 as well.
and she has not been at the club for ages and is'nt answering emails or texts

some one siad he wants another trophie.
he's never had sex either, but nearly did after i dumped him

also i have no religous veiw point although i've read the whole bible. i already know about 'abstain from fornication' and 'do you not know that your body is a temple of the holy spirit, there for honour god with your body' but i am not a beliver in god

Answer 1

Do not trust this man, he has disrespected you

please do not have sex with him, keep your virginity for some1 who will love you and respect you, believe me it will be worth the wait

Take care

Lx

Answer 2

Basically only you can answer your question. It seems that you know him pretty well, and what you saw on your friend's cell phone doesn't mean that he cheated on you. So I guess you can trust him. Young people your age, both male and female, tend to go after "trophies" to some extent, and you have to live with that, but you should be able to find out whether you mean more to him than just that. If you find the answer is "yes", and the same for yourself, just ask yourself whether he's the man that you want to be your first (because that does mean a lot and will remain a significant memory for the rest of your life). If you can again honestly say yes, and you want it - don't be frightened by some of the messages you get here but go ahead and do what you think best expresses your feelings.

Answer 3

No, no, and no again. You have enough on your plate with your parents to get yourself tangled up emotionally with this boy. He is a liar with no respect for you or any other girl. Dump him, you deserve someone who is going to treat you with respect. You will NEVER feel happy if you are with someone you cannot trust, and if you sleep with him, it is not only illegal for a start, but you will end up a heartbroken mess with regret.

Find an interest outside the disabled enviroment that is for you alone, and meet friends that live near you, and give yourself a proper break, even if its once a week.

Answer 4

Don't have sex. Stay with him if you want to and try and give him a chance to earn back your trust, but I would definitely be wary. Did the friend he texted say if she believed he was going to dump you for her? Did she think that he said "I love you" as you would just a close friend or that he meant it romantically?

I say "I love you" to loads of people, so that can be normal, but my friends know that I say this and I always tell any new partner that this is part of my way of going about things. If he didn't tell you beforehand, I would be very very suspicious.

Answer 5

Okay, that is a lot of backstabbing. Dump him and move on. You deserve better. He is lying to you and just wants to get you into bed. You are a minor and shouldn't risk that kind of thing with that kind of low-life you have described. You don't know what he does when he's not with you, and you've been together for seven months - why would you want to sleep with him, give him a great gift from you when you barely know him? What you do know is that he has cheated. What you need to know is that you need to break up before you get hurt.

Answer 6

First of all, you are 15 years old. Second of all, despite what society says is "ok", having sex outside of marriage does not have "love" written on any part of it.

Look at the big picture! Step out of your raging hormones, out of your lustful desires and see what your choice is going to do for you. Yeah, the media and even society show it to be "romantic" and "fulfilling", but what is the reality of giving your body away to some guy who has no commitment to you alone for the rest of his life? You are precious. You are worth so much in God's eyes! Why throw your virginity away for one night's pleasure? I'd say, save yourself, it's going to be worth it! :-)

Answer 7

Look, ur 15, and besides all the he said/she said drama, you need to save yourself for your HUSBAND one day... and I HOPE someone has told you how important that is... at your age, 20 miles between 'b/f & g/f' is too much. I wouldnt be going out with him at all. Find someone closer to your area, and start slow, and dont have sex til your married!!! Let that be important to you, and you will be able to say you havent given yourself to ANYONE except your husband! Its a gift, a pleasure from God that He gave to MARRIED couples!!!

Answer 8

well this is two questions here.. have sex? trust him? first of all you're 15. obviously you're too young to have sex or even perform sexual activities. if you want to like show him that you love him or just wanna fool around with him, try flirting or kissing most often when you see him.

also since he's 20 miles away, try to call him on his cell or ask him for him email or myspace (if both of you have one).

Answer 9

don't have sex, parents should lock you 15 year old girls up, you do not know what life is about, you give your bodies too freely, keep your legs crossed and closed till you have found the man you will marry then keep them closed till after the wedding, men will lie about anything and everything just to get between your legs

Answer 10

Sounds like he is trustful he could have lied again but atleast he was honest. I would give it a trial basis, but be careful and dont let him play with you.
Also about the sex thing id wait a while but its entirely how you feel.
After 7months maybe could have led him away to someone else. So its up to yourself