[GUYS!!] Why is it that the guys i know only care about physical appearances?

Question

Most, if not all, of the guys i know are so SHALLOW. I went to school with them since elementary, and now that i've grown out of my 'ugly duckling' stages [in high school now] they're NICE to me! These guys used to ignore me &act like they didn't know who i was, but now i'm in my junior year of high school and the jerks now treat me like a queen bee. Is this just human nature or are those guys just shallow and mean?!

I'm a naturally polite person, so it's hard for me to ignore them and hold a grudge, but should i just act like they have been nice to me this whole time? They made me feel like an invisible "friend" ...

Answer 1

because the guys you know are shallow idiots. Many guys are more interested in the "package" than the "whole item." and as such they look only on the outside.

Those guys are shallow and mean. write them off. Or better yet confront them on it. Call them. See, now that you have "developed" they think you are attractive and they want to get to know you better.

pay attention to the guys who were your friends when you were still the "ugly duckling" because those are the ones worth your time.

Answer 2

Think of it as an onion. There are layers. Beauty is just the first layer. The measure of the quality persons you are questioning is whether they will look passed the first layer. To put a title on the first layer, let us establish perspective. We are mammals, animals. Sex, by nature, is entirely based on reproduction. Would you rather have children with someone hideous or comely? With money or without? With ethic? And I did mention the first layer first. That is the first motive of why people look (emphasis here) for their mate. It is not wrong to be concerned with your partners, or potential partners, looks because it is the first layer.

Assuming everyone likes onions, some have appetites (emotional and libido). Some get all they need from the first layer. Some go through all the layers before they can be satisfied.

What it comes down to is that looks are just a beginning. For some people it is also the end. Neither is right or wrong, just different. However, of course, one may not work for you. Don't drive a screw with a hammer. Don't get your hopes up when you know that the person in question has but one layer, but don't lose hope that they aren't ripe yet.

Then there is a whole other can of worms - what if one onion isn't enough? lol, I'll abandon this before getting into swinger rhetoric.

Answer 3

Perhaps your attitude changed since junior high school and the guys are more attracted to you. ( it has since you thought of yourself as in an ugly duckling stage., and you probably notice more now that you came out of your shell. ) Please take no offense; the fact that you have outgrown that stage and probably learned a few things along the way, I think you should leave that behind you and not hold grudges! After all; what good would it do to your life here and now?
Holding grudges would only hurt you and don't you think it would be better to rise above all of this. Just be nice, smile, enjoy the present, be merry, laugh, forgive and forget about that period. I believe you had to go through that period to learn your self-worth, and learn to love yourself.
Remember the saying dear Heart " Smile; and the whole world will smile with you! "

Happy Colombus Day to you.

Answer 4

I believe it goes both ways. Its kinda goes both ways. As a guy I do not consider myself good looking. And growing up in a society where people judge you by your looks. I as a guy feel that women do ignore me because I may not look like a hunk or have the body. Or just in general look hot. That I am invisible and do not want to affiliate with me. Guys do the same with girls too. My friends would always be joking and ignoring someone that may not be at their standards. I think it is cruel but it is in fact reality of peoples thought process that is almost imbedded in their thought process that makes people shallow. I am not a psychologist or have any background in it but that is what I honestly think. I hope that helps. And I do know how that feels.

Answer 5

You're right; most guiys (i'll say 90-95%) are shallow through high school and lower-division college education. But many females are also. It's a two-way game and it sounds like one that you don't want to participate in, but are being affected by. Looks drive relationships in yours and my age group much more than intellectual depth and personality. Guys and girls keep it up because the other side responds to it positively for whatever reason. What that reason is is beyond me and something I can't begin to fully understand.

Answer 6

Face up to the truth. Guys notice girls based on their appearance- that is just how things are in the real world. If you want guys to appreciate you as a person have sex with him and see if he sticks around afterwards. If there is some connection he will get past the "physical part" once you sleep with him and then if the connection is there it may turn onto a relationship. But get the sex out of the way first because until; you sleep together that is ALL he will be thinking about. That is the honest truth- especially if you are talking about high school/ college aged boys.

Answer 7

As most of us on Yahoo wouldn't know any of the guys in your school, it's doubtful that we could say anything specific.

But consider that both you, other females and the guys have gone through some very significant changes in the last few years. There are a number of explanations that we could point out i.e you could have changed socially or physically, the guys have obviously changed physically and are more interested in females, etc...

I'd not dwell on the past to much but seek to learn more about yourself and the people (guys and girls) around you.

Answer 8

Physical appearance adds so many things to life. If a guy has a wife to wake up to that looks good, what does he have to complain about?

Women seem to be just as concerned with appearances, or money, anything that a guy can't really create for himself but either already has or doesn't have.

The only thing all of us are born with is our personality, but that is not usually enough for either men or women.

Answer 9

You make it sound like you're so perfect and never judge anyone on their appearances either.

Trust me, you do. You can say you don't at all and that since you were an "ugly duckling" you would never treat anyone poorly, but you do.

So just get over it. That's how the entire population is like and it's not going to change anytime soon.

Answer 10

the two. i'm interested in very type, considerate females with a stable humorousness. She might have a social unsleeping and psychological area. A volunteer with a library card. looks? often, i admire petite, short females with a appropriate face. human beings fluctuate on what's seen appropriate. i've got been advised I actually tend to prefer unique looking females.