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I have been dating my boyfriend for 15 months, and we recently just had sex for the first time and we suck. It doesnt feel good for us, and it hurts me every time. I really regret having sex and i really dont enjoy it. Everyone always tells me how good sex feels, but i dont really kno what they are talkin about bc it doesnt feel good. im sick of my boyfriend complaining on how we suck.

2007-10-06 17:44:11 · 6 answers · asked by curioussssss jackie 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

What i ment to ask was.... how can we get better? are we doing something wrong? please help.

2007-10-06 17:44:52 · update #1

It seems like he is loosing interest in me. How can i make him want me more?

2007-10-06 17:49:42 · update #2

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It could be that your just not wet enough so it hurts when he goes in. You could use some KY jelly, that would help. If your lubricated and it still hurts than it might be a phsyical problem and you should see a doctor. I had a friend who had that problem and the doctor was able to fix her problem right away and she was fine afterwards.

2007-10-06 17:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You are not ready for this part of the story. Please talk to a doctor to be sure you are ok.
Accept what is, there is a reason for the situation and all will be well. You do not suck at anything, you are good at dating, 15 months is a good record for dating.
There is so many details involved with love making, first real love, second passion, third soul mate, fourth desire....etc......it takes time to find the one...please, you will know when you get there, do not live with regrets, let it go, try to talk positively about it, learn from it and find something funny about the all situation. Remember the first time you try a bicycle, or cooking.....who said it has to be perfect......learn together....his complaining bothers me, he should be concerned, loving and caring about the matter.

2007-10-07 01:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sabine F 2 · 0 0

Maybe you should see a doctor and ask if you are alright. You should also try using lots of lubricant. Does your bf spend enough time with foreplay before sex? If not, that could be your problem as well...

2007-10-07 00:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by indian_prinzessin 1 · 0 0

Some women feel pain every time they have sex not just the first time. Try some lubricants and if that doesn't help go to a doctor.

http://www.medem.com/medlb/article_detaillb.cfm?article_ID=ZZZCYQ7I27C&sub_cat=9

2007-10-07 00:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by DoLz 6 · 1 0

i would suggest you are (or he is) trying too hard and being too quick --- sex is not about how quick or hard or fast --- its about tenderness romance eroticism ---- you are not being aroused at all by the sounds of it and he is probably going like a bull at the gate ---- slow down take your time enjoy all the sensations (and there are many) ---- HE should be only trying to please you --- and its not a quick kiss and grope and do you like that??? ---- if it takes less than an hour you are far tooo quick ----- best wishes (and when you do it correctly --- you will be like a limp rag on the bed --- unable to move --- for real)

2007-10-07 00:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0 0

if it hurts u mayb yall should try extra lubricated comdoms and you try bein on top that always eases the pain cuz you have all the controll hop my advice helps

2007-10-07 00:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by papaige 1 · 0 0

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