Is it OK to see a friend make a mistake and not to warn this friend in time ?

Question

And when many friends see that, and none says anything, before it's too late?

Thak you for your answers!

Have a wonderful Sunday and week ahead!

Aunt Carolyn - Thank you so much for taking the time to answer! :)

It's all well, you two dont worry about this anymore :)

((((((Wayne & Carolyn))))))

Answer 1

I am writing you for Wayne, cause he is out of answers for the day. He had no intentions of hurting your feelings by giving you best answer and explaining what we were doing on that "if you know what I mean" raid, and asking you to join on the next fun raid. He was among his friends and he was among your many friends. He is very sorry for you being embarrassed that you didn't already know what kind of raid they were doing. No one expected you to know why we were answering that way. So I am pretty sure no one thinks that you any less for not knowing what they were doing. But you are our friend and he was simply inviting you to join us next time.

Wayne woke me up and asked me to send you this note. Now, please forgive him, so we can all get some sleep! - smiles

edit: Wayne just said to tell you "you didn't mess up, and no one thinks you made a mistake by giving a straight answer".

edit: Thanks "Moon", you are a doll, just like Wayne tells all our friends and relatives. -- It is night time here, but I suppose it is day light in Brazil. -- so have a good day, I am going back to sleep now.

Answer 2

Moon, that would of course depend on the relationship that you have with the friend. If the firend is good at taking advice AND if the friend looks up to YOU as a source of good information and advice then by all means, give him/her the warning. If not then follow the rest of the crowd and just be there to help pick up the pieces and help with the recovery.

BB,
Raji the Greenwitch

Answer 3

YO it depends on the mistake. Sometimes the thing we need our friends to do most is to pretend not to notice our mistakes. To give them the opportunity of finding out for themselves and then support them.

Other times we have to tell that friend because real damage would be done to that person by not doing so. BUT by doing so you are risking their friendship. They may not want to hear what you say. Other times your friend may be grateful that you showed them the mistake. Or angry if you did not tell and everybody 'knew'.

When we make decisions about what we see in others we have to be careful who we are 'protecting' if we are certain it is the friend, not ourselves, then we should accept that the friendship may be broken by taking the risk of telling them. This has to be considered carefully. If then you are certain it is worth the risk, then tell. Heartbreaking when the bet does not pay off, but still, that is what good friendships are about.

Only the person knows their friends. They should trust their own judgement on whether or not to tell is my only advice.

Answer 4

I'm not going to try to guess what this question is all about.... but I will say, that people do make innocent mistakes and very few people are as caring of the feelings of others as you are.

You set an example of thoughtfulness which is difficult (impossible?) to match .... but this ought not stop you from expecting just a little reciprocity from time to time!

Answer 5

Better a slap from a friend, than a kiss from your enemy, figuratively speaking. You seem to be a sensitive soul and not at all like a person who would want to criticize. Ask yourself if this is something you would want a friend to come to you over, and if the answer is yes, go to them in love. You are a treasure of a friend, and I hope this person appreciates you.

Answer 6

the first requirement is to pray for that person. intercede for them.

make yourself available to God if perhaps he would use you to speak words that would actually help that person.

but that is not the same as rushing in trying to stop them and blurt something that would only compound the problem.

if God ever used you.. he wouldnt give you a situation that would be beyond you. a situation that would cause you to not be sure of what you should do.

so if you dont know what to do. then you are not the one to say anything to them.

but you are the one strategically situated to pray for them. and believe God to send the right person to counsel them.

if you feel that you must say something... then tell them you will pray for them.

Answer 7

Well, a real friend should warn. But, it's still the person's decision if s/he follows or otherwise. If s/he makes a mistake, they are still friends so it's important to support her/him and not to leave her/him.

Have a goodnight sleep.. :-)

Answer 8

if i knew that my friend was messing up i would definitely say something...that's the way i am.

if you know that your friend is making a mistake you should go ahead and tell them. they might get mad at you at first, but if they are truly your friend they will realize it before too long.

bright blessings moon and good luck.

edit
(((moon))) i was going to email you but you don't allow it. so just let me say that you are among friends here. i don't know exactly what's going on, but we are all only human. it's o.k. to make a mistake once in a while, and friends forgive each other and move on. again...(((moon)))

Answer 9

that is just so wrong, they didn't warn me either.

and I never even got a best answer out of it.

I think that most of the ones that added the catch phrase were like me and did it by accident.

besides I thing your answer was great.

Answer 10

Yes it is ok, as long as you yourself are open that you may be making a mistake as well, and would be open to have this friend warn you before it is too late.

Plant seeds, as long as you are willing to receive planted seeds as well.