ok so i'm a virgin i have a great boyfriend, he's hot sweet sensitive and respects me and my decesions, but lately he has been asking me if we could have sex...i have told him i want to wait till i get married..but he gets mad...he has always done every thing for me and he said its time to give him something fo a change!!...should i make his dreams come true or should i stick with my religus thingy..i really dont want to but...uh soooo confused...and yeah i'm anly 14...yeah crazy! and i'm only in 9th grade! uh help!
2007-10-06 17:03:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your boyfriend respected your decisions he wouldn't be trying to push you so hard to have sex with him. He would have took NO for an answer the first time. Instead it sounds he is using the fact that he has done things or gotten you things in order to try and get sex from you, and you need to let him know that you are not someone who can be bought and that if he really loves and cares for you he will indeed wait and stop the pressureing you. And if he doesn't sweetie he has only one thing on his mind and after you give him what he wants he will move on. Maybe not tomorrow but very soon, and in the meantime you will notice a drastic change in his behavior, of how he feels for you. Stick to your morals and values and keep yourself for your future husband, because that is the truest gift a woman can give her husband. If you don't you will one day have regrets. Good luck, best wishes.
2007-10-06 20:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Gladys C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wait till you're married? What happens then when the two of you like different things in bed? You'll talk about everything but you won't do the most intimate thing to learn about it. Why not? Is something magical going to happen to you? I mean, you'll dig for information on compatibility about TV shows and movies, food, ambitions, and all that kind of thing, and then you'll buy a pig in the poke on sex. That doesn't even make sense. What is this, the 1800s? Do it. You might find out he's not quite right for you.
2007-10-07 00:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Sarrafzedehkhoee 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Gurl dont do it. Wait and give yourself to somebody that u truly love and respects u. Wait until marriage. Thats what im doing. If ur boyfriend cant respect your wishes and wait. Then honey its time to move on. Thats how life can be.
2007-10-07 00:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by latina flavor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns girlfriend! If he loves you he won't rush you. Only have sex when you're completely comfortable with your decision. Fourteen is really too young to be having sex I think...I'm not trying to be insulting...but you still have a lot of maturing to do and I think you should wait until you feel you can deal with any situations that may arise...ie. babies and stds! Seems to me that your boy toy is not really respecting your decision in this case. Don't let him pressure you. Everyone seems to feel that there is such a rush to have sex...really there isn't...only when you are ready.
2007-10-07 00:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by bomberhatmoll 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
uh u need to tell him to hit the road and stick to ur religious thingy as u say it will keep u from getting a std and when u get married youll be glad you waited and so will your husband ...do not give in to this boy if he cared for you like you say he wouldnt be pressing u to do this!
2007-10-07 00:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by Beverly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stick to what is right, your boyfriend is running on testosterone. Don't give in at your young age, you have a whole life in front of you. I understand you think he's "the one", but you are so young and innocent you have plenty of time to become the woman you can be.
2007-10-07 00:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by clarklhc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't ruin the relationship......you will completely stop even talking together if you start this.....
And listen to this....He can masturbate....he does not need to ruin your virginity.....
The male gender out there needs to RESPECT AND PROTECT woman-hood not steal and take advantage of her.....absolutely do not let him ruin you......again....he can masturbate for the well being of others.......and by the way that is love...caring for the well being of others.....
He can take your body in his dreams, not reality.....Your body is not his until you are married to him.........DON'T DO IT.
2007-10-07 00:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. you should never let anyone pressure you into something you're not ready for. i'm almost sixteen, a junior, and i'm still a virgin. sure guys have asked me to, but you need to stick with what you believe in.
2007-10-07 00:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by cee 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
okay you might love him and he migh love you but if he does he needs to respect your decision. and you should tell him this" tell him you know how i feel already, if your gonna keep doing things for me couse you think ill change my mid quicker than i rather you not do anything at all, also say "dont throw in my face you do things for me you do it couse you want to"
2007-10-07 00:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by **prIncEsS gIrL*** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not do it if you want him in ur life.
u r too small and its nt age to do tht all..
n if he givs u lots of things , then u can give him osme gifts n kiss if u wish....
once you do sex with him then u will lose him next day
god bless u
2007-10-07 00:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by saurin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋