I'm in my 30s & I recently went back to school. I'm only one of two black girls in the huge class. There's a girl in my class who is really rude. I asked her (in a very polite manner) if she could lower her voice b/c I was having a hard time focusing on my work. For the rest of the class, she kept making racist innuendos. The clever (and evil) thing about an innuendo is that it's not strong enough for you to prove that it's directed at you or that's it's rooted in hate. I can't get it off of my mind. I can't believe that someone will stoop that low. When someone can't make a comment about your character, they just make a nasty comment about your race. She has started to kindof bully me. She has said or done something rude to me almost everyday. The funny thing is that we are adults and we have a bully in class. The other adults say nothing or flock to her when she starts this, I think out of fear or just b/c they enjoy trouble. How do I handle her and the anger?
2007-10-06 16:46:53 · 9 answers · asked by mommabear7000 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thank you so much for reminding me to pray and focus on God. I prayed right now and I feel much better. God showed me some things as well. I was reminded of how I was talking to one of my female classmates about a mutual friend and as one of our classmates (a gay man) walked by, she shouted "yeah, he's GAY!". I knew this was to hurt our male classmate, but I just changed the subject. I didn't want to address her behavior b/c I felt that might hurt my male classmate more than if I just left it alone. And maybe that's why some of my classmates choose to say nothing about the bullying behavior I'm experiencing. I will try my best to stay focused on Christ and pray about this. This whole problem seems so small now. I don't want to be angry anymore.
2007-10-06 17:19:12 · update #1
Hmmm, since you asked how to handle it from a Christ perspective, how about trying to imagine would Christ would do then trying the same thing?
I wouldn't get down to her level, but I wouldn't let it intimidate me either. Ask her to stop nicely, in front of the others. If this doesn't work, you should talk to the instructor or superintendent of the school. If you are being made to feel uncomfortable, then this is called harassment. And if she does it to you, she likely does it to others as well. Although I am a Hindu, backing down and acting meek when a wrong needs to be addressed does not seem very Christlike to me . . . remember the moneylenders in the temple . . .
2007-10-06 16:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Runa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was not long ago that those same kind of Christians were saying that the Bible/God told them that Afro-Americans should not be able to marry Euro-Americans because it would "be an abomination." Now, they're using the same old BS to not let couples of any gender to marry the partner they love because it would "be an abomination."
That appears to be the Christian way and I guess you'll just have to live with it until such actions as were used against you are accepted by the majority Christians as true abominations.
2007-10-06 16:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by Terry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to find a way to play her game, right back at her. Take some time to think of some comments you can throw back when she says something rude, that will humiliate her & show her you aren't too passive to stick up for yourself. Even if you feel really uncomfortable doing it, the alternative is that she'll see you as a weak target, and make you life as much of a misery as she can. Being a Christian doesn't mean you have to be everyone's doormat. Jesus didn't take things he didn't agree with lying down - he fought for what he thought was right - you have the right to do that too.
2007-10-06 16:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by MJF 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Pray everyday that God will help her to find Him. Ask God to help you and give you the right words to say to her so she hurt your feelings. Bake some cookies or brownies for the class oneday.
2007-10-06 16:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How to deal with racism: Always remember that God is colorblind. Christ died for the sins of all people because each is precious to Him.
2007-10-06 16:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by TubeDude 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Christian thing to do would be to bake her some buns or dessert and bring it to her. She would be shocked and embarressed at your niceness. You'd think people are more mature than that. I'd probably swear at her, lol
2007-10-06 16:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Rockford 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask for strength
2007-10-06 16:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Sidereal Hand 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell her to piss off! Once she sees your no chump, she'll back off. Most people are all mouth, no action (wolf tickets).
2007-10-06 16:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
pray now
2007-10-06 16:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋