I still see and have sex with my ex. We dated for 2 years on/off. At one point we were so serious he was talking marriage to me, but I broke up with him. We started seeing each other again, but he left me for another girl who isn't really his type. He lied to me by telling me they were going to break up, to have sex with me. This hurt me so much that now (a year later), I still feel so hurt. I'm seeing this new guy but he's a freshman/I'm a junior (we're in college), and he doesn't seem too serious with me. Anyway, my ex is jealous of this guy and it's getting in the way of my social life (we have mutual friends, and my ex has a problem with me bringing this new guy to our clique's parties, etc). Now my ex is ignoring me. What should I do about both guys? What should I do, period?
2007-10-06 16:16:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump them both and look for someone new. If you concentrate upon study now, you will find that once you graduate, a whole new world will open to you that you will not have if you get too serious with anyone now. I don't mean not to have dates, but unless it is someone very special don't let it become more than a friendship. I don't know what you are going to school for but one study showed the divorce rate for those who married before and during college who went into law or medicine was something like 80 percent because of the change in life styles between student and graduate working in their chosen field, and it may be high in your chosen field as well so it is better to wait until you graduate to make a commitment like that rather than to have to get a divorce, or even break up for that matter, after draduaton. Good luck to you in your studies.
2007-10-06 16:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex does not want you and he doesn't want anyone else to be with you either. It is important to sort yourself out before you go into any relationship after a break up. You broke it off with your ex you must have had reasons for this. Having sex with your ex is not allowing either of you to move on to have a healthy relationship with someone else. It appears to me you are setting yourself up with your ex by remaining in the same clique and going to same parties etc. with the new guy. Of course this new guy is not going to be serious about being with you if you and your ex are still involved.
Talk to a counsellor
2007-10-06 23:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex doesn't sound like someone I'd be running back to...he lies and left you for another girl? You shouldn't care that your ex is ignorning you, he's actually doing you a favor! As for the guy you're with, you'll know in time if he's worth keeping. Maybe it's too early in the dating for him to be really serious...see what happens. If he continues to not be too serious, then talk to him and ask him where you think the relationship is heading. And if he's just having fun, then I'd get rid of him too...why waste your time?
2007-10-06 23:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by ne_gal81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey well I'm sorry your ex is such a sleaze it seems you sill like him. He obviously doesn't know what he wants (apart from sex) and is jealous that you have moved on from him and are not allowing him to manipulate you any more. if hes not talking to you, all though it might upset you id say its for the best. as for your new guy i think you guys should just be friends, you should be single for a bit and just have fun with your friends, seeing as youve said you still feel so hurt. you wont feel better straight away but dont be tempted to get into a relationship until youve healed. it isnt fair on you or that person your with. good luck
2007-10-06 23:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the new guy, go for it. Make new friends. There are other social circles. Your ex is TOYING with you to get in your pants. He's playing games with you because he knows that he can and that he can get away with it with NO consequences.
He obviously doesn't respect you and without that, there is no genuine care. Move on. If the new guy doesn't tickle your fancy, find a newer guy. Too young and there's TOO much going on to worry so much about a lying loser.
2007-10-06 23:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Meli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop both. Start over.
I was amazed when I read your question for I almost had the exact same problem 2 years ago. I ended up just dropping both and "starting over" with everything...I was going through this weird phase then though. Anyways, everything worked out for me. And don't sleep with your ex's. EVER. I learned that the hard way. If they're worth it, then it's worth a relationship. And if it's not, it's not. but you're NOT easy meat for them and he shouldn't think he can use you however he likes and dump all the responsiblity. Ugh that just makes me mad becuz it reminds me of my ex. Frickin jerk. So moral of this message: drop both, and don't sleep with ex's EVER. Good luck!
2007-10-06 23:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, this is a strange situation you got yourself in. First of all completely stay away from your ex he is using you. He is a jerk and should bury his head in the sand. As for the guy your going with, well its a judgement call if your interested enough keep dating him if not find someone else. Wishing you luck. But get rid of that creep he doesnt deserve to be loved by anyone.
2007-10-06 23:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by dreamer101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been there and he kept leaving and coming back, for 10 years.
Leave him. Get this toxic person out of your life forever so you can heal and move on. Actually, at this point its more like surviving rather than healing, because the ghost will always be there.
He has done more damage to you than you even realise now.
This is abuse.
You MUST get away from this person and have absolutely NO contact whatsoever.
You have suffered enough.
2007-10-06 23:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dump the new guy, you're giving in to your ex, and letting him control your life. If it comes to it, you should just stop talking to your ex. It's not like he deserves your friendship after what he's done. Don't let him think you still put him first, because he'll take advantage of it.
2007-10-06 23:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well they call them ex's for a reason. You should break off all contact with the ex.
2007-10-06 23:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by moscow1677 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋