For Muslim brothers:How common is it for Muslim men to divorce their wives if they get raped and pregnant by t

Question

the rapist and how many of you if you are married or were to get married would divorce your wife if she was raped and got pregnant by the rapist? I'm just curious because my husband told me that it's an option for the woman who is raped in Islam to marry the rapist. Also if a Muslim woman is raped and gets pregnant what happens to the baby? Does it go into the custody of the rapist or his family or is she allowed to get custody of it? I'm asking because I'm just curious about this and I would like to know how the child would be treated by the Muslim community if it was the product of a rape.

Answer 1

First, the woman is not allowed to marry that man unless he repents and changes. Allah says (in meaning)
[24:3&5] "The adulterer shall not marry save an adulteress or an idolatress, and the adulteress none shall marry save an adulterer or an idolater. All that is forbidden unto believers... ... Save those who afterward repent and make amends. (For such) lo! Allah is Forgiving, Merciful"
He's an adulterer and cannot marry her because she is innocent from this crime.

The child is called after his father because the prophet Muhammad PBUH said that the child is for the bed. Meaning, the child is called after his father "in bed" not the husband of the woman, if she was married, or to someone else (or no one) if she wasn't married. So, the child is called after his/her father (the rapist).

Howevger, the child should stay under the custody of the mother because she feeds the child and takes care of him/her. Also, the mother takes the child because the father does not have manners and needs to be "raised" all over again, so the father would ruin the child if he took him/her. Sometimes it is acceptable to give it to the father. I'll give you one example:
A girl who is really poor and got raped. The rapist was the innocent girl's neighbor. He took the child because he is also married (!!!) and his wife (she is kind and) takes care of the baby, but the main reason is that that girl cannot afford to take care of her child in any way.

If she was married, and her husband has got some sense, then her husband shouldn't divorce her. Yet, the rapist should be killed (stoned to death), but the judge should do that. If it was me (Allah forbid), I would chop that head off (the rappist), but I should be kind to my wife. It's enough what she went through. However, if she doesn't wear hijab and talks to men (that would never happen if I got married, but for the sake of argument), then I would divorce her because her clothes and the way she walks and talks may have been the reason(s) for him to attack her, or at least just think of her.

In Islam, the child is treated like any other child because it was rape, not Zina. If it was zina, he would be a son of zina (some call "ibn haram" son of Haram (forbidden) [way], or a bastard as per English). These have different rules such as inheritance and so on.

Answer 2

First rape is very rare among Muslims, so it is difficult to answer how common is divorce likely to happen. Second divorcing the wife is a very bad idea during the time she needs her husband most and it is cruel. The rapist has no right and he should be subject to the punishment set by the judge which could be death or cutting his hand and foot from opposite sides or to be exiled. Baby is for the mother to take care of. If it is very early in the pregnancy (less than 40 days) some scholars permit abortion, but it still may be a sin in the view of others. In most Muslim countries child born as result of rape is looked down upon although this is wrong as it was not his fault.

Answer 3

i don't know a man who divorced his wife after she was raped. it is possible that he would and he probably would. i know that some muslim men are still searching for wives that were kidnapped while travelling abroad and they still want their wives back even if they have no children. in islam rapists are punished, not married . who would marry a violent man let alone a rapist? why? women who were raped are less likely to get married , very little chance almost none , but they are not blamed by God fearing people although gossip about them will spread by those who are ignorant or friends and relatives of rapists. so yeah a woman will always be the victim , but islam doesn't say that she shouldn't marry or should be blamed , it discourages people from harming her even by mere gossip which has a very grim punishment. your husband may have spoken about a certain incident but it sure has nothing to do with islam. i'm a muslim woman and i just had a conversation with my friend , her sister is getting a divorce because her husband verbally abused her, he never even lay a finger on her. never think that sadists/rapists/criminlas are accepted by muslim women or islamic society , just maybe a few exceptions.

Answer 4

I've never heard of this before. I hope not. Nauzubillah...
Raped means you did not ask for or accept that sexual encounter.
If you are raped, would you marry your rapist? It's an option to marry the rapist? Where did your husband learn this?
If you are raped, go straight to the hospital to get spermicides and lodge a police report. But if there is a child, of course you'll get the custody. They have no rights whatsoever! The child is legally yours. Muslims never judge a child like it's a product of sin! They are as pure as any other child...

Answer 5

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too many things in one
please kindly muslims before you give an answer you should either check that with an imam or say"in my opinion"
it is a complicated question
the answers were nt acording to question
now there is two things
1 rape a girl
2 equal parts in the act (relatioship)
for rape this is a criminal act .thist act is not rewarded,if some one says that is a reward ,yes true so you will see that evry one who wants to marry a girl,then he find a situation to rape her,then the following day he claims her ,and got married.but the case is not so .
to both male and female single unmarried,who has a relation ship ,either they admit it or cought in islam they must be punished
to those married and have it done these must be stoned .but it must be witnessed by 4 adults who had seen the act,4 pple must see the things in the things.or the wife if she claims that her huzbend was involved in act,and she saw him,so her testification is enough to accuse her huzbend(of course or the wife)
lift the punishment off her that she (or he) give an owth four times that he did not do it .then the case is in gods hands
that is for relation ship for singles or married
now rapiest must not go with it
if wife was raped and got pregnant.now there are on tv some series for yusra the actress talking about the same thing
for this as in any other community the ups and downs of the psycho things which affect
and as any other community it takes too many sides to consider
you might see some pple try to conseal
others may have revenge
others would take it to police
now you talking about 1 400 000 000 muslims what reaction they say
but mainly the son which comes out of suich relationship is a son of marriage not any thing to do with rapiest,and he carry the huzbends name.
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comes your question to divorce wife because of the rape
i can feel the situation but i only saw that in films then later they overcame the situation