I Pray and Pray For a Mate?

Question

I have prayed many years for a mate, and my mom prays so hard, too. I am now 40, and am thinking of giving myself to God, not as a nun but wearing a chastity ring and being dedicated to Him in mind and soul only by doing good deeds, and working at the same time. I realize perhaps he doesn't want me to get married, and I prayed for the wrong thing. Your thoughts or know of anyone who has gone through this.

Answer 1

i am right up there with you,i find that when i pray i used scripture when talking to God being as i man i was wanting a mate for myself you are right for giving yourself to GOD first provebs 37:4 says "delight yourself also in the LORD and he will give you the desires of thine heart"just be patient and watch him work he is not a hasting God it took him 400 years to deliver the isrealites from bondage.now keep in mind it won't take him 400 year to give you a mate but it does take time,do yourself a favor look for your mate in church God will bless you for it.you'll be so madly in love with him and he with you that not even the devil will tear you apart just keep God in the picture and watch the blessings flow like milk and huney.May God bless you:)

Answer 2

I am happily single, so obviously I do not pray for a mate since I love my life as it is!
However, if you truly wish to be married, acquiring a partner requires more than prayer! You need to socialize, of course. Decide where you might discover the person whom you are seeking; if you wish for a relgious person of your own sect, then church would be the likely source for meeting him (I am assuming that you are female). There are other groups, too, where you might possibly meet a potential mate. I am hoping that you are not simply sitting at home praying as it is quite improbable that an available man is going to arrive upon your doorstep, although, of course, there are always possibilities inherent in plumbers, handymen, etc., whom you might call to solve household malfunctions! If you are praying so fervently for a mate, it may be that when you do connect with someone who appeals to you, the impression which you make is of one who is "needy", intense, or too self-involved; you must be an interesting prospect in the man's opinion and not seem to be a woman overly intent upon marriage!
I once read a quote which I regard as profound:
"If you want something and fail to acquire it, the reason is that either you did not truly want it or you bargained over the price!"
I always found myself "loving" or desiring unavailable or inappropriate men until I realized that I really did not really want the intimacy of a permanent commitment.
If you are truly unhappy with your unmarried situation, however, consider therapy to discover why you have not succeeded in having a lasting relationship with a man.
If you dedicate your life to God, you need to do so from a positive aspect rather than because you are depressed due to unrealized hopes for a husband! You should be enjoying the Quest of your life! Good luck from a contented agnostic!

Answer 3

Yes I do have a thought for you.

the bible say it is not good for man/woman to be alone.(mankind)

I believe that God has a mate just for you.
If you can fast for 2-3 days I believe God will give you an answer..
God heard Daniel the first day he prayed and satan held up the answer. Michael saved the day for Daniel.Read the book of Daniel.
There are times that you need to fast and pray until you receive the breakthrough. Do not get around people that say you need to be alone. If you need to be alone then God will tell you that .

I agree that a husband will come to you soon...Matt 18:18,19
when 2 agree it shall be done. There is someone just for you.
AMEN

Answer 4

God always answers prayers...yes, no, or wait awhile. You have been waiting awhile. I would pray a specific promise if I were you. In order to claim this you need to do what it says.
" In all thy ways acknowledge Him and He WILL direct thy paths." Proverbs 3:6
God cannot lie. (Titus 1:2)
I will pray for you to find someone if it is God's will. I would not say its the wrong thing to pray for....it is just that you need to be ready for whatever the answer is....and accept that.
40 is young. =)


† On-call Prayer Warrior †

Answer 5

Before you go off and join Jesus, you should really hear this story about my friend Greg and pray for him as well...Greg and I have been friends for several years now we went to the same church together and graduated in the same class. His senior year he was involved in an auto accident in which his arm had to be amputated. He was one of the most faithful people I have ever known and aftet that day he became obsessed with what it might have been that he did to deserve his fate...Later he became obsessed with praying that god heal his arm. It never grew back, he goes to faith healers and believes God will one day give him a new arm. Good luck finding a man, I think your prayers have a better chance of getting answered then Greg's.

Answer 6

Prayers are not always answered by granted the person that in which they ask for. Most often, prayers are answered by giving the person the knowledge and opportunity to achieve their goal themselves. You cannot expect to be handed everything you ask for.

Prayerfully ask for knowledge and the ability to accept God's Will. Once you stop expecting a "mate" to fall from Heaven, you will realize God's Will for you.

Answer 7

It's not that God does not want you to get married. Most Christians do not know what God requires of them when asking for a mate. First, you have to decide in your heart and mind that God will always be first in your life, even before your husband. Secondly, you have to make the decision you will be committed even if you never get a husband. Thirdly, what God has called you to do. If you don't know what God has called you to do, then you won't know what you are looking for. Your calling will be evenly yoked to your future husband. But if you are meeting men who don't know what they are called to do, and you don't know what you are called to do, then that just alot of confusion.

Answer 8

Why do you think God will send you a mate?

Wear a chastity ring if you need that as an excuse OR you could realize you don't need another person to complete you.

Answer 9

Pray for Gods will in your life. A good piece of advice given to me at an early age was to pursue God and not what you want from him

Answer 10

You need to pray for good judgement in selecting places to go to to find a mate instead of praying for a mate and for how you will pay attention to the people you meet outside your (mother's?) home to best increase the opportunities to find some one who might like you as a mate.