My partner and I were talking and we both agree that in the event that something were to happen to her that the best place for her daughter is with me. I've grown to love them both and I treat her like my own child, but since we're aren't married what would we need to make sure I don't lose them both in the event something happens to my girlfriend? My girlfriend doesn't have any close siblings, and she talks to her mother all but once a year. I was told I can not adopt her daughter until we are ready to get married since the real father (who hasn't been around since birth and had made it clear that he has no intention of ever caring for this little girl, but he has to sign her over I guess. So.. Since we're not married, I cannot adopt her daughter. What exactly would my girlfriend have to do to make sure she's not taken from me in the event something were to happen to her? (I worry about this all the time) Thanks!
2007-10-06 15:47:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Her letter won't mean jack.
Whenever an infant or small child is involved you can bet the local SRS will come in and cart her off to a foster home until they find a family to adopt her.
This same situation happened to a close friend of mine. His girlfriend had a seven week old baby, and she wrote out a will that should anything happen to her, he was to get custody of the child.
Now here is where it gets tricky. The will was never notorized by a notary public, nor was it drawn up by a lawyer, however, if it had been filed through the court and gone to probate he may have gotten custody or he may not have.
It all boils down to what the state feels is in the best interest of the child. btw, the child's father has also come forward and said he would like custody, although the SRS has taken his other children away from him because he is an unfit parent.
If I were you I would go to a lawyer and have a formal Will drawn up. That way you at least have a leg to stand on.
2007-10-06 15:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying, & start planning for your marriage.
You cannot inherit her daughter, she's not property.
Custody would be given to the next of kin, for young children.
That would be her natural father, or her mother's parents.
Your partner could appoint you as guardian in her will.
If the marriage is not imminent, go see a lawyer.
2007-10-06 15:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by Robert S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think we are. I do the dishes, the laundry, exchange the diapers, sparkling the domicile, and so on. i don't assume my spouse to be a infant production unit interior the hereafter nor do i believe that i will very own a planet, hmm, according to threat purely a continent or some thing.. i might suffice for some thing like Hawaii ;)
2016-10-06 05:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Posession is nine points of the law.To really make this concrete.All you have to do is get married and that way you become the girls legal gaurdian.
2007-10-06 15:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married and pray your lady doesn't die.
2007-10-06 15:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by NoGood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋