I'm A 16-year old brother who wants to fix the attitude of a twitched little 13-year old brat. Also, some things about her such as: she gets a meltdown when something she planned goes wrong, and if I say "get out of my room", she starts to get negative and crap, but she hasn't expose this to her friends yet, and i don't know why. She's just a 13-year old and thinks she knows everything and i can't do anything about it. She never respects other's privacy and she only wants boys that look fine or hot, and she's just a pain in the ***! Does she need extreme counseling??? or send her to the MAURY show or something??? She Is like this for about More than 3 years, even her parents say that her future is at risk and say that I have more hope. Can Somebody please help me???
2007-10-06 15:40:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
counseling wouldn't hurt
2007-10-06 15:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by suan b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure dude, people know they have their own problems they need to work on, and everyone has a family member or close friend they secretly wish would work on a big problem, it's a common thread in society. Everyone thinks about it but it doesn't get talked about. Focus on being a person that doesn't just avoid being angry, but also makes life better. That's the game of life, how much goodness can we create together? If you're worried about stuff, trying hard, that's a bad vibe too, it's just human nature. Just focus on being as fun and good to the community as you can. That's what is cool. Be independent, cultivate yourself fearlessly, do radical stuff that you're interested in, help other people achieve their successes, people will pick up on that. Not that you're trying to get attention, you just have to let go of everything and flow You learned a little bit, there's more to learn about being an awesome person, the world is infinite!
2016-05-17 22:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting situation hon. Sounds to me like someone has been putting these negative things into her head and that is why she is acting on them...they expected her to. It also explains why she doesn't act that way around her friends....they'll call her on her bad behavior. And that is exactly what mom and dad need to do. They don't need to voice their opinions that they believe you have more hope for a future, they also need to set boundries and consequences for her when she crosses those boundries...otherwise this just gets worse as she gets older. Right now it's not respecting others privacy and believing she is ALWAYS right, next it's going to be stealing the car and showing everyone how right she is.
A good way to start this is to focus on what she does good. If she's behaving, someone comment on it. If she's not, ask her why she has to act that way. Hold her accountable for her actions and make sure that mom and dad do the same. Eventually she'll figure out what is expected of her and start believing a little in herself too.
As for the boy thing, well that, hon, is every women's ideal. nobody wants some slob who is going to live in a recliner as a mate. She knows what she's looking for and she'll be the one who learns the hard way, as she goes through her phases, that beauty is only skin deep. But that is going to take a few heartbreaks.
Wish ya luck.
2007-10-06 16:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a lion or a wolf is angry, he does not think. When a man becomes angry as a result of provocation, he has a choice to control his anger or to respond to it as he has learned from the Qur'an and from Prophet Mohammad's teachings, or forget all that and become a wild animal. Thus anger takes place when we are not in control of ourselves, but the devil is controlling us. Anger in itself is a natural feeling, Allah has put such feeling inside us to react against what's harming us, for instance to protect our lives, our properties, and our families. Yet we shouldn't over do that. Meaning it is ok to feel angry, but it is dangerous and forbidden by Allah to surrender to your anger and follow it to as far as it takes you (for it might drive you to killing somebody).
Anger is a de stabilizing thought. It is the most dividing emotion between friends; it takes away judgment, leads to depression, madness and wrong actions that we would repent later on when we are not angry. But why do we get angry to begin with? It is either an unexpected provocation or unexpected situation which leads to frustration and an angry response.
During anger, one can physically or verbally abuse a person that he or she loves, hurt another living being like an animal, or during the dejection phase of anger, one can even hurt him- or herself and even commit suicide. Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) gave us the medicine for that saying:
"Shake hands and rancor will disappear. Give gifts to each other and love each other and enmity will disappear".
Also Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:
"A strong person is not the person who throws his adversaries to the ground. A strong person is the one who contains himself when he is angry".
The point is that the natural fulfillment of normal desires, whether in terms of food or sex, is a prerequisite for prevention of anger. There are many chemicals and hormones which affect our moods and behavior. It is well known that hypoglycemia and hyperthyroidism precipitate irritability when feeling angry. We must keep our hormones in balance in addition to facilitate our spiritual well-being.
2007-10-07 11:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by muslim-doctor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she may need counseling because if they say positive things about you and negative about her, she may be just trying to get more of their attention.
2007-10-06 15:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋