Be brutally honest with me, am I being unfair about this?
I desperately want to move. I'm not talking across the country or anything, just to an area that I like better It has better schools for our 10 month old daughter, housing is cheaper, and there are plenty of jobs for DH. I also think that if we are going to move, now is the time to do it, before our daughter is old enough for it to upset her.
DH says that he likes where we are living now, that it would be too much stress it sell up and move, that he doesn't want to move closer to my mother (haha!), and that he doesn't want to move away from his friends and family. He absolutely detests his job here at the moment, and there are so many opportunities for him where I want to move.
Am I wrong in wanting to move?
2007-10-06 15:25:12 · 8 answers · asked by Jade 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are not wrong in wanting to move but you would be wrong if you force him to. Perhaps try to get a newspaper from the area where you want to move to and show him some jobs that are available there and you might even list on paper the advantages of moving there - how much you would save on housing and if you see a job he might get that pays more than he is making now list that as well. If it is close enough, list how much it would cost to drive back and forth between the two areas for visits with his family - if it is close enough perhaps you could move and he could still keep the same job and the friends. Good Luck to you and I hope you can convince him.
2007-10-06 15:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it is okay to WANT to move but ultimately, you both have to be happy with the situation.
Have you owned the house long enough to at least break even if you sell it? Are there any concerns your husband has that you might not be aware of?
It is a lot to ask him to leave his family and friends. He may hate his job but maybe he feels that its worth the sacrifice to be close to these people. It would be unfair to make him move if he doesn't want to.
2007-10-06 15:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by RLW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're worried about schools for your 10 month old? I think you're stressing way too much. And he probably gets to decide where he works.
You're not wrong in wanting but you're not the only one in the family.
Terrible time to sell a house right now.
2007-10-06 15:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Middleclassandnotquiet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, the question is very good. I want you to understand and internalize only one thing - this is a very serious issue that can potentially ruin your relationship and end in DIVORCE! Many couples separate over this. I am separated with a girl 16 months old. I had many issues with my very controlling wife/ex and one of them was pressure from her and her mother to move to a big very expensive house from a condo worth half the cos. Now to be honest with you this is in my opinion one of the reasons why I say marriage is one big headache! I mean who needs that. I did not want to be in huge debt and work all my life paying that huge mortgage. I prefer being independent. So...good luck in solving this just wanted you to know I am with you it is just very very difficult "job" to be married and I will never ever get married again, no way.
2007-10-06 15:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your wanting to move is perfectly reasonable, if nothing else for the adventure and change of scenery, not to mention the reasons you list. Tell him it's really important to you.
2007-10-06 15:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by baw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Make the move yourself with or without him.
2007-10-06 15:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that whoever makes more money should have the final say.
2007-10-06 15:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by Barney Blake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to put it into perspective
2007-10-06 15:28:08 · answer #8 · answered by rae c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋