My daughter had her 4th birthday party today. Since she was born, I have made it clear to everyone around me that I didn't want her to play with Bratz dolls. I think the message they send to little girls isn't a good one. My sister in law (who lives in another state) knows of my feelings about this and has in the past commented that she didn't see any reason why I should have a problem- her daughter (much older than my daughter) collects Bratz dolls. I have never said anything bad about her daughter, personally, I have just stated that I felt these dolls send out a bad message.
My daughter got a package in the mail from this aunt for her birthday- I didn't look first- didn't think I needed to. When she opened the present at the party, it was 2 bratz dolls. I couldn't just take them away from her because that would have been wrong and I can't take them away now. I guess I'll have to let her play with them. But what should I say, if anything, to my SIL who I know did this on purpose?
2007-10-06 14:19:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think if you make it a big deal, your daughter will see them as "forbidden fruit" and they will be more appealing than they might have been under other circumstances. I don't blame you for being angry, but I don't think kids read into dolls the same thing adults see in them.
2007-10-06 14:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you definatly need to put the SIL on notice that you don't appreciate her intentionally messing with your parenting decisions.
Let your daughter play with the dolls for a couple of days until she gets bored with them, then disappear them.
My girl is 5 and I won't allow those things in the house either. And your SIL is the only mother I've ever heard express a different opinion of them.
2007-10-06 21:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by sdc_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she did this on purpose, almost any reaction would cause the fight she is looking for. Apparently, she took your comment about bratz as a criticism of her parenting technique. I would let it die down. If you don't make an issue of the dolls, in all probablilty, your daughter will be finished playing with them in no time and they can quietly "disappear" from the toy box.
2007-10-06 21:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by msmthtchr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing and unfortunately, you have to tell your daughter, why you are taking them and send them back to sil or donate them. Don't let others tell you how to raise your child. If you have rules stick to them! Its very important that the child see consistency in your home. If the rule is "NO BRAT", then No Brats. Plan and simple! Stand your ground and buy her an alternate doll instead when you take the other one back.
2007-10-06 21:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by lawgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know how you feel about them and give her reasons why you believe they are innapropriate for your daughter
2007-10-06 21:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by don'tchu know i'm loco? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋