shes older than me by like 2 years, nd she really is pretty. like gorgeous,(vry wierd for me to say) but yeahh like ALL of the guys in my grade drool over her. nd my boyfriend told me that he thinks shes pretty. but i kno he thinks shes hot. guys my age always come up to me nd are like, yur sister looks good today nd dont say anything about me. its not like im ugly. im actually really pretty(sry, i know i sound concieded) the problem isnt that my boyfriend thinks my sister is hot. its that i feel like all the guys think of my sister as like a godess nd im juss her sister. i guess yu could say im insecure.nd that i have marcia,marcia,marcia syndrome. but i wish i was gorgeous like her. i wish the guys would drool over me. what can i do to get over this? i feel like im ugly whenever my guy friends talk about her. i feel invisible. i wish i was prettier. i have a big insecurity problem. i cant help it. i juss feel this way. how do i get over this? nd how should i react when guys say this?
2007-10-06 13:49:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't use the word pretty... think, "physically attractive."
It might help to use different words, since words can both limit and exaggerate.
Your boyfriend picked YOU. So to him, you are the goddess- not your physically attractive sister. Its your personality that got him hooked.
We, as the female gender, probably all have that longing: I wish I was prettier. Those are my thoughts, sometimes. I just feel glad, however, that there are better looking people than I who I can visualize (I draw).
Please don't feel invisible. Smack yourself-- you're made of something solid. And the fact that you are, in fact, "really pretty," should help you-- you're probably better looking than I. Seriously. I'm not so illusion-ed. Just think of how good you got it. : ) Good looks, a boyfriend, a sister... c'mon, girl: wise up!
How should you react when guys say that? Say your honest feelings. "Oh, you think so? I know~~~" Yeah... I just so happen to have a, excuse me, "hot" (as people have told me- mainly girls. All girls, actually) brother. 2 of 'em. And 2 pretty sisters. -sigh- Would you like to see pictures?
I'm actually quite proud of their good looks. D: Is it weird?
2007-10-06 14:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Sister Hot
2016-10-19 03:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think any man that tells you your sister is hot, beautiful, cute, or any adjective that compliments her is an idiot if he does it more than one time. We all know men are sexually attracted to outside beauty and they need to grow up and realize how immature they are acting when they feel comfortable enough to continue to make those statements. I never understand people and why they don t think before they speak. I am sure he would get confused if you kept telling him how good looking his brother is. JUST PLAIN STUPID....you should be worried about his common sense.
2015-11-23 03:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by cindy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. And I promise you you're not alone. I don't have an older sister who's the "pretty" one. I actually am "the pretty one." LOL. I'm not being cocky, I'm just being serious. My younger sister is very cute and has the potential to be pretty, but she doesn't watch her complexion (needs to go to a dermatologist), doesn't wear make-up, wears sweats almost ALL the time, and never wears heels, unless there's a formal event. I do the make-up, the hair, clothes, and shoes. I'm always presentable (unless I'm at work; I'm a nanny) and I love to look my best.
I know I am an attractive girl and my boyfriend has told me numerous times how attractive he thinks I am... HOWEVER...
When we're watching TV, if he comments on how "cute" or "hot" the girl is, I feel extremely jealous, and like I'm not attractive at all. I hate feeling like I have competition.
I hate when other guys talk about women they think are hot when they're around me. It makes me feel like I'm nothing.
So yes, I understand how you feel. What you need to do is sit down with your boyfriend on a good day. Tell him you need his undivided attention and that you want to talk to him about something that has been bugging you.
First of all, it doesn't matter what your sister looks like. There are different types of attractiveness, and if your sister has "classic" beauty, that does not mean she is prettier than you. Never allow yourself to feel this way.
There is beauty to every woman, some just need to "develop it." Try a different hairstyle. Makeup books are fun. Learn what colors look best on you and how to properly apply your makeup to bring out your natural beauty. You are beautiful too, and you don't need to compete with your sister. Dress up once in a while. You'll gain some more glance. ;)
I've also noticed that sometimes the women that most guys think are "hot" really aren't all that great. They are oftentimes overdone, and guys are pretty dumb to think they ARE gorgeous.
Don't worry about your sister, and don't compare yourself to her. You are beautiful too, I'm sure, and you have no reason to feel like less.
I took my boyfriend aside and told him, "I know I'm not the only pretty girl in the world. And I understand that it's OK for you to appreciate other girls' beauty. Still, it makes me feel less beautiful and like I have competition when you talk about how pretty other girls are. I need to feel that I'm good enough for you and that you don't HAVE to look elsewhere to satisfy your eyes. I need to feel that I'm the most beautiful woman in the world to you, and when you tell me how "cute" my sister is, that really shoots down my self esteem and makes me feel insignificant and ugly."
Tell this to your boyfriend. How can he argue with that?
Any guy that would walk up to you and say, "Hey, your sis looks pretty hot today" must be a total idiot to realize that you proooobably didn't really care to hear that. Don't worry about the morons. Just shrug or roll your eyes. Or agree without giving it a second thought.
You are beautiful, so don't forget to remind yourself of this. Do something special for yourself. Buy some new clothes or some new makeup... try a new hairstyle. Do something different that will bring out your natural beauty and will gain you a little more confidence.
Oh, and you didn't sound conceited. There's nothing wrong with thinking you're pretty. It is GOOD to feel this way. But I know, writing it out, or saying it aloud DOES sound cocky. Oh, well. It's good to have that self esteem!
2007-10-06 14:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by ellenoid 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just think of them as immature and don't let it bother you. Once she gets out of school it may well be you that everyone is drooling after. Your best response when someone says something about her being pretty is to simply say, And I'm not?
2007-10-06 13:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first time i would just reply, , "yes she is, or I know", or whatever agreeably. If it comes up a second time...just look them straight in the eye and ask.."and your point is?...." If they are coming around you to get near your sister, you need to drop them at once and find someone who appreciates YOU. She may be beautiful but I'm sure you are also in different ways and you don't need to waste your time on players.
2007-10-06 13:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by Great Grandma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you like your boyfriend? Does he like you? Do you trust him not to hit on your sister? Everyone looks different and some people are better looking than others. If you have a good relationship with your boyfriend, that's a lucky thing and that's all that matters.
2007-10-06 13:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know that you are a very special young lady and in time i bet that you won't just be as pretty as your sister, i believe that you will be a very beautiful woman and all the men will be after you and forget all about the things that they said about your sister in their younger days. you just wait and see if what i say isn't true. don't let the things that people say bother you because those who think you are hot and fine are to shy to say it now, but later on it will all be told to you by that special man in your life.:)
2007-10-06 14:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell them that you agree that she is pretty but that she doesnt have time for the younger ones,that she has enough guys her age and older to drool over her. then go to your sister and ask her to give you a make over and pointers on how to help you look better in the guys eyes.
2007-10-07 02:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
uuggh God No, he looks like he is wearing his pants backwards,and puts on a whole act with his pose,his clothes and obvious attitude.He is trying to come off as "gangster,or cool" when everyone knows how fast a real "gang member" will knock him on his a*s faster than you can say owned.
2016-05-17 22:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋