I've been living with my Muslim girlfriend for a couple years now. I want to get married but she says we can't because her family's against it. I don't think she told them but I have a feeling her mom knows. What should I do???
2007-10-06 13:14:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am willing to convert to Islam but she says that wont help either since I am not Arabic.
2007-10-06 13:24:39 · update #1
First, she'd have to develop a backbone, and stand up to her family. Second, if she's from an Islamic country, she'll have to give up the idea of going home again.
But how devout can she be if she's been living with you for a couple of years? Why doesn't she simply convert to your religion or become an atheist or agnostic?
2007-10-06 13:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Muslim Girlfriend
2016-11-16 20:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is coming from a religious Muslim: either shes lying, cause she doesn't wanna get married to you, and if shes not, her parents are just being very racist (by the way i'm alos half arab), but yeah u gotta b muslim to marry her.
and can i give you advice? just by the looks of the things, i don't think she'll be the greatest wife, even if you were to marry her, cause she's dating, and living with a non-Muslim? no offense to you, but she should be ashamed of herself and really lighten up. you sound like a really good guy, who's willing to do anything for this woman.
tell ya what: study Islam, if you like it, convert. When you do convert, i think you should move on and try to start your marriage life with a more devoted Muslim woman.
i know i'm trying to be helping you on trying to find a solution to how you can marry this arab girl, but you won't be happy...and like the other answerers said, if she really loved you, she would stand up to her family! Islam is not about race, and they should no that. Do you wanna have racist in-laws that can't stand you?
i swear by Allah , i only want the best for everyone out there, and if you can be devoted to this girl, you can be a really devoted and good Muslim, husband:)
God bless everyone....Good Luck
ps: if you do marry her, have some patience, cause Arab woman can be a tough one sometimes.
i know, my mom's arab:) lol
2007-10-06 14:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Authentic Believer (SOA) 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In Islam, Muslim women are only permitted to marry Muslim men. Muslim men can marry women of the book, Jews or Christians. Basically, in Islam the assumption is that any children a couple has will be the religion of the father, so prohibiting females from marrying outside of thier faith is ensuring the growth of the faith.
You will have a very hard time marrying her, I wonder why she got involved with a non-muslim man if she knew she couldnt marry him.
I am very surprised she is living with you. Muslims are not even supposed to date, they just get married. I must assume that she is lying to her family about living with you and if so, why do you want to be with a woman who can lie to her family so easy, she is basically a coward.
2007-10-06 13:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
WHat the heck! You offered to convert and she said she still wouldn't accept you??! What a jerk (no offense). In Islam it is forbidden to make distinctions between Muslims based solely on their ethnicity and the prophet even said "an Arab has no superiority over a non Arab nor a white over a black etc..except in piety."
If you truly believe in God (the main part of Islam) and his messengers (even if u dont follow all the rules) I say go for it. But don't convert if you really don't believe, it'll screw things up.
Peace and good luck brother.
=)
2007-10-06 19:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by justmyinput 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off if she is really Muslim she shouldn't be having male friends or dating at all. Maybe she is Muslim in name only. Secondly you not being Arab has nothing to do with it. Maybe her family wants her to marry an Arab Muslim for some odd reason.
2007-10-06 16:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should not be dating, she should not consider to marry a non-Muslim. Muslim women are never (In Islam) to marry a non-Muslim. So the fact that she asks you to convert to Islam is a BIG reason why she would even consider you as husband material. It may cause shame on her and her family if you did not embrace Islam. We do not recommend non-Muslims to embrace Islam based on your love for a person in which your in-love with, rather you should investigate and want to be Muslim. Keep in mind that as converts we receive special blessings from Allah (swt) because we may struggle with some things much more. And realize its not just you- many converts may struggle and they have pure intention in their hearts towards the Islamic way. Islam may appear to have alot of hard to memorize stuff but you can easily learn it all in time. I used to carry around papers of what I am to say in Arabic as I do my prayer, until I was able to completely memorize it on my own. The quran seems to rhyme so it makes it alot easier to learn. Keep in mind also dating is haram (forbidden) in Islam so you really need to get serious. Stop dating, embrace Islam, ask her to marry you, tell Ebba to ask Allah forgive her sins. And do right. If Ebba did not regard Islam to some degree she would have never asked you to convert, obviously she does regard Islam even though she has been imperfect to follow all details... That would make you "man" of the house and you will need to make sure you stay strictly away from haram and keep the family strong. Why is this important? In life we are tested. And those tests we reflect they may be from bad actions we engaged in and the more bad things happen the more you start to gain fear for doing bad things this is what they refer to as the fear of Allah (swt).
2016-05-17 21:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is living with you... im a little confused... that is probably something they would not approve of either. Who knows sometimes I think women use their family as an excuse for not taking an action. I had a friend who tried to date this girl, but she said she couldn't because her parents didn't approve of interracial relationships, but turns out she just didn't like him. Not saying that is the case here, but its something to think about.
2007-10-06 13:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by scorch_22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me ...
Be a parts of her family then you will smoothly marrying your girl friend.
Knowing yourself and knowing your real God - the only God for human being then follows the God instruction to you is the best for you. Those all must come from the bottom of your heart.
Enjoy it !
Your family by the name of the God.
Syaifuddin Ma'rifatullah - Medan, Indonesia.
2007-10-06 13:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Study Islam,if you are convinced then convert and you can marry her.If you don't ,leave her.
2007-10-06 13:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ahmad 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋