I tried to get my ex girlfriend jealous...what should I do now?

Question

Me and my ex of 1 and a half years broke up 2 weeks ago. It was her decision and she wanted to stay friends, but she was probably just using me as a rebound and keeping me close till she found something better. She's already hooked up with a guy while she was drunk I love her soooo much and I decided to play the same game that she's playing. I started going out with another girl to get her a lil jealous and try to win her back and as soon as she found out I was with another girl she flipped out on me. Should I just let her cool down before we talk or how should I handle this situation?

Im not using the other girl bc I like her too...i just like my ex gf more bc she was my first love and she was my life

Answer 1

Games will make you lose out! Stop playing games. It is affecting innocent people who may be falling for you but you are trying to make some beyatch jeaolus who dumped you! She's upset? So freakin what?!

Answer 2

Your first mistake was thinking that you could be "just friends" with someone who you love in a romantic way. You should have put distance between the two of you as soon as things were final. You second mistake was trying to make someone jealous when they are no longer your partner. Why would someone who has no say in your life care if you are with someone else? You said yourself that she broke up with you and found another guy. Why would she care if you had someone else? Third mistake, thinking that you have to "handle the situation." You don't need to do anything. Continue to live your life. She's not your girlfriend and she's the one that chose to make that the case so let her be as mad as she wants to be. Truthfully, the only thing that she has to be mad about is that you were trying to play a game with her not that you have someone else. I would suggest that you break ties with her. You want her in a way that she isn't interested in and that's only going to hurt you in the future. Why put yourself through the ups and downs for someone who doesn't love you back? Don't ignore her if you see her. Say "hi" but don't jump ahead of yourself. If she contacts you, then just think of it as a friendly chat. Nothing more. By the way, you should think about trying to develop some type of relationship with the woman who you were dating to make your ex jealous. Maybe something good can come from that. I hope that you really had some feelings for her. If not, then you're just as bad as your ex for using her in that way.

Answer 3

Def let her cool down. and you should not be using other girls to make her jealous. Yeah she might get jealous but you may also push her away at the same time. After she cools down talk to her and tell her how you feel. That is all you can do. I know it sucks, but if she doesnt want to be with you and doesnt feel the same way, it wasnt meant to be. If she is out hooking up with other guys so soon.. maybe she isnt the girl you think she is! Just becareful.. dont make her mad at you.. cause then you might lose her forever.

Answer 4

Your case is a good example of why it is extremely important for a couple to communicate, not play stupid games with their partner's emotions ,and not mess with other people unless you are ready to lose the one you're with. I am sure you agree with me now .The way I see it , the way to handle this whole issue is to :1)talk to her in depth; when to initiate this talk depends on both of you since you are both to blame2)The talk should be honest, complete, open, and to the point.since neither one of you is totally innocent(although she broke up with you)3)ask her why she was upset with your indiscretion since she no longer wanted to be with you and also slept with some one first.4)decide if you guys wanted to resume your romance--more of her decision because you still love her and ,again ,she ended it.5) if the answer is yes and you guys truly want to get back together, then complete, total, and absolute forgiveness, is called for on both sides. That means for all intents and purposes, nothing has happened and it is as if you guys never broke up.No one can use the other as a rebound or somebody to date while you look for a different person; this calls for trust ,again , by both of you. However, if the answer is no, then neither one of you should concern themselves with what the other person is doing or whom they are dating or sleeping with. I am aware this will be more of a problem for you because of your feelings for her, but you will have no choice in the matter.As a matter of fact, you should consider that possibility within you as you have that talk with her. I hope I am wrong and you guys can find a way to rebuild your romance stronger and better than before.

Answer 5

Well, although it wasn't the best way to do it, you did find out that she still cares for you enough to be bothered if you see anyone else. What should you do now? That depends on what you want to have happen. Do you want to get back together? Is that a possibility? Do you think she will want to get back together with you? If you want to be with her, you need to be understanding and patient. Let her know how you feel after she has had time to calm down. Apologize to her (and you should apologize to the poor girl you used), and don't repeat the mistake again. But, if she is with someone else, it may just be time for you to move on. Good luck.

Answer 6

:thumbsup: Well played, she's wounded. Let her know you hurt her on purpose. She got whipped by somebody who plays the game better.

She only tried to play you b/c she didn't respect you. You gotta let her know, if she plays around on you while she still has feelings for you, she is wide open and you'll exploit it.

After a fight with a loved one, you don't leave them to die (that's what you do to enemies). You gotta help them heal and make that scar a symbol of something good. Let her know she is better off now than before.

I've been with some girls like this before, she is looking for answers and boundaries. Define them if you care about her. If you're not serious about her and you play her than leave, she'll probably kill you. Proceed with caution.

Answer 7

The two of you still want each other.
Breaking up is never easy to do.
Breaking up is hard to do.
You need to work things out....maybe you will still get back together.
By the way, if you've been through all that in 2 weeks, you are LIVING TOO FAST

Answer 8

well, its her lose then. and its not yer problem er fault that you two broke up. think about it...if shes gonna do this to you....are you RILLY sure you love her?? trying to make someone jealous by going out with somone else isnt always the answer. it usually involves hurting people. you could hurt yerself in the case of which she doesnt want you back, which ,still, is her lose, and you hurt the person that yer using to make her jealous. and you could also be hurting yer ex. i would just try yer best to ferget about her, but still try and stay friends if you can. follow yer heart.

Answer 9

honestly, I don't like the fact that you used another girl to make her jealous. That makes you no better than her. Both of you need a little separation time before continuing this twisted relationship

Answer 10

you are toying with another girls emotions just to make your ex gf jealous. how inconsiderate can you be? you are playing the same dirty game that she is playing and it won't lead anywhere. if you and your ex do hook up again it won't be for long. she obviously has no respect for you and you are desperate not to move on. im sure she loves how jealous you are and thinks sheas hot **** because of it.