My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now and have lived together for a little over a year. We've been discussing getting married a lot lately, and I want a real wedding like every woman wants. I have a large family, and I want them to all be there.
So, I want at least 50 or less guests. We might not be engaged for another year or so, but I'm wondering if I should set a bit of my paycheck aside for a wedding now?
2007-10-06 13:04:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not planning to have my wedding in a church. My boyfriend is atheist and I accept that even though I am Christian and baptized Catholic.
2007-10-06 13:21:58 · update #1
He's athiest, but he also believes in a creator. He just doesn't believe in the Christian God because he thinks the Christian/Catholic church is a money-making scheme (which is true...historically. Do the research)
2007-10-07 08:56:15 · update #2
You should be setting aside 10% of your paycheck towards savings, regardless. That way, you have the money for whatever you want, be it a wedding, a home purchase, or just towards your future. It never hurts to have some extra money aside!
2007-10-06 13:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by answergrrl3 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would if you have to money to start saving. It will make the wedding a lot easier. Just put some money in the "wedding account" every month if you can. If you are running low on money that month don't go bank rupt because you have to put money in this account. It will add up and by the time you are ready to get married the wedding will probably be almost paid for. But if you don't get married then you will have the money saved for something else!
:)
2007-10-06 13:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by stupidhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never hurts to put some money aside each week - it's nice to have a pool of savings. You don't have to go beserk with the wedding though. There are better things to spend your money on than a $50,000 wedding. Lunch time weddings are usually cheaper, as are sunday weddings. I got married for less than $6,000 and spent the rest of the money on a deposit for a house. Good luck
2007-10-06 13:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by The Kelda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i come from a big family too, and we r planning to get married 25th october next year with 150 guests. We have saved no money as yet and i want the farytale garden wedding, i want it to be a day to remember. So if i were u i would definately start putting your money away, dont be a fool like me, we r going to have to live pretty tightly for the next year, u dont want to do that...
2007-10-06 16:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by kyliefd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, enjoy spending your own money while you can! With you two shacking up, usually an engagement or marriage gets delayed, if it comes at all...
Wait til you have a commitment, then when the two of you are actually planning a wedding with a date, you figure out the budgeting between the two of you.
2007-10-07 02:34:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about my questions. Since you stated that you are a Christian, I assumed you intend to raise your children with your beliefs. Regardless of why he doesn’t believe in God don't you find that to be in direct conflict with your beliefs? Instead your response was that the church is a money-making scheme. Basically justifying his disbelief in God. Are there people who have taken advantage of others within the church? Sure. People are prone to sin. Does that mean true believers do not exist? No. As Christians we are called to follow God not men. The topic deviates from my original point that his lack of religious beliefs are in conflict with yours. Do you believe that the word of God is true? How are you going to raise your children? These are tough questions and not meant to put you on the defensive. It’s more so to make you think about the path you’re choosing.
2 Corinthians 6:14
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"
Deut. 7: 3 - 4
“Furthermore, you shall not intermarry with them; you shall not give your daughters to their sons, nor shall you take their daughters for your sons. 4 “For they will turn your sons away from following Me to serve other gods,"
2007-10-06 17:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do make sure you keep it a secret. Guys can be funny and if you start saving up before he's even asked it might freak him out.
Saving money is always a good thing so definately do it, I just wouldn't tell him yet that it's a wedding fund....
2007-10-06 13:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are able, put a little aside out of your paycheck for whatever reason so that you have the money put aside, and he should do that as well. having the money put aside is always a good idea regardless of what it is used for because it gets you used to having a budget and saving money.
2007-10-06 13:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always good to save whatever the occasion. Prices get higher every year so I think it's a good idea. My brother booked his wedding recently and isn't getting married until August 2009.
Best of Luck....
2007-10-06 13:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly wouldn't hurt to be setting aside a portion of your paycheck for wedding expenses. It actually would be a very smart thing to do, because most weddings are more expensive than you think they are.
2007-10-06 13:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋