A friend of mine says it is bad that only four or five nights a week my family has a family meal together. My fiance works and my little daughters have to be in bed by 7 so I give them and my 3 year old niece that lives with me dinner at 6. My soon-to-be-step-kids eat by 7:30 with me and if their father is home him too. On Saturdays and Sundays we are always all over the place and I can never cook a meal so I order out or make something in the microwave and we all eat at different times. Is this bad?
2007-10-06 12:45:55 · 9 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's going to make more of a difference once the kids are school aged. Kids who eat dinner with their families get better grades,cause less trouble, and are less likely to use drugs. There is nothing wrong with putting the little ones down first and then sitting down to eat with the older kids. It's the attention and the conversation that matter not whether the meal is takeout or not.
2007-10-06 13:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by teleduster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. Your friend was probably concerned that the kids aren't getting enough attention. It is important to do family things together and in the past meal time was typically the time when all family members were able to get together and connect with each other. These days, with so many varied schedules, it's not always an easy thing to do. Is it bad that you don't have a family meal 7 days a week? No. The important thing is that at some time during each week there is a scheduled family time so everyone can connect and feel a part of the whole. How you do that is your business.
2007-10-06 13:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't bad, but you should try to sit down and eat with all the kids, little ones don't like to eat alone. And on the weekends using a crook-pot is always a good way to go, you can throw a roast carrots and potatoes in, with water in the morning and let it cook all day. And then throw some peas or something else in the microwave when it is time to eat, and then the next day you use the leftovers for stew.
You do the best that you can, and that is all that matters.
2007-10-06 13:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. The fact that you do manage to get the family together at the table several nights a week is great.
Forcing a 7 meal a week rule on them is overbearing.
Give them some breathing room.
You're doing fine. Not to worry.
2007-10-06 12:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Stuart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be grea to eat together all the time, but its not always possible. tehre is a difference between not wanting to and nt being able to. Kids have a bedtime, and dad get home later than that..as long as wheever he is aorund u guys get all togetehr..thats great!!! it would be a whole different issue if you were all at home and having dinner in 5 different rooms!!!
2007-10-06 13:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by Kitiara_DSev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hate it if me and my family had meals together every night. Usually me and my sister eat in our bedroom and my dad eats at work... and my brother he usually doesn't eat at home. He goes to his friends house or the restaurant across the street (don't worry we are all big kids... we can do that lol.). We eat together on the weekends.
2007-10-06 12:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, that's a lot better than most familys, take mine for example, we haven't eaten together as a family in 2 years. Keep up the good work super mommy!!
2007-10-06 12:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no but try to do it earlier like five firty five or at six talk to your future step kids,or make it a six and let them eat a little snack like some carrots if they want to eat at seven thiry let them eat dinner just eat at six all together
2007-10-06 13:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-10-06 14:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋