Am I depressed?

Question

Ok well I am 13. I got in a big fight with two of my friends. They aren't my friends any more. One of them.. Mandi.. She talks to me sometimes so I think she is sorda kinda my friends. IDK. But the other one...Shaq... He won't talk to me at all. He deleted me from his myspace. He made a bet with someone that he wouldn't talk to me for two months. he will NOT talk to me.

Well he wasn't just my friend.. I had a crush on him.. still do. But I think I have become depressed. I cry when I hear a song tht reminds me of him. or i cry when I hear a song tht he liked stuff like tht. Almost every night I dream about him. I cry myself to slepp. I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get back to sleep. i think about him 24/7. I go over to his house to hang out with his lil brother.. But I also go there just to see him.
I feel worthless like i wanna die. i almsot killed myself once. and yes he is worth it!!

what are signs of depression? Do you think I have them?

Answer 1

Aww sweetie, I know this is so hard for you. You are 13 and have a long wonderful life ahead of you. I know you liked this boy, and by him treating you badly, you hurt. This is what a heartbreak feels like. It will get better, with time. And it will probably happen again, and maybe again. Its how you handle it that makes it heal, along with time. He showed you his true colors - this is his loss. Dont go to his house anymore, you have to separate yourself from him. Try taking your mind off him - if you hear a sad song either change the song...or allow yourself that one good cry. Then vow that that was it. There is no easy way to mend a broken heart, it will heal itself. You are soo young to be so sad, and its because you are young that you think he is worth ending your life. Hney, noone NOONE is worth that. You have to value yourself before anyone else can see your true worth. Love yourself enough to know you deserve and will get someone better. Be patient with this, and with yourself. Talk to someone about how your feeling, please. Someone at school, a doctor, even your parents. You need to feel like someone is in your corner. You will be glad you did. Try to relax a bit, you will be fine. Take care...

Answer 2

Well, maybe if you really did try to kill yourself. Everything else sounds like normal 13 year old stuff. The best thing you can do is to move on from this guy. If you don't actually like his little brother, then stop going over there. The more distance you put between yourself and this guy the better. Also find some new activities that this guy isn't involved in. Maybe get into a club or student government. Trust me, there are plenty of guys out there in the world. You're only 13 & chances are you aren't going to find the right one at your age. Both of you are still young and have a lot of things to learn about life and yourselves.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

Hi,
It's normal to have a fight with someone cause it makes us wiser and we can judge what is right and what is wrong.
let me tell you my experience:
four years ago i had a crushed on someone. she's a medical student and I'm jobless,hehehe. quite romantic right,hehe.
well,we met at a library and we talked a lot when we saw each other,chatting for hours. then,I love her. But she didn't reply my love. I love to called her 3 times a week,but I couldn't take her out because I don't have enough money. I asked her once,did she has a boyfriend? and she said that 'I don't have a boyfriend, but I want to make friend with you' And she always respons with the same way if asked her about it. Then 2 months later I moved to another island, but I still connected with her via e-mail. Then oneday she became annoyed. She got angry with me. She said "What's wrong with you?We don't even a couple of lover. so stop sending me e-mail,e-postcard which say that you love me"
So, I realize sometimes we can't force what we need to other people. And if I keep trying to annoy her, I might became depressed. So, I make my own busy time. you know, working, talking to friends, or sharing with other people like us right now.
So.... be happy,Love your family,your friends and teacher. you will find that love is surround you.....best regards

dimas aji
balikpapan,East kalimantan-indonesia
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Answer 4

I do not think this is depression. I think you are going through a rough time. It is hard when your friends do not talk to you. I was 13 once. I would be hurt if my friends did not want to talk to me for one reason or another. Most early teens make stupid bets that they will not talk to so and so or other crazy bets... that is something people that age do.

You are also having a hard time dealing with rejection from your crush. This is close to the feeling you will feel when someone breaks up with you. It is tough... but life goes on. You will soon forget about this (granted it, it is not going to a day or two... but in a few months you will forget).

Enjoy life, do not sweat the small things. There are bigger fish to fry out there. Maybe this is the time to meet new friends and walk a new path in life.

Talk to a good friend about how you feel. This will help you get over this. Talking is good therapy. And there is nothing in this world worth killing yourself over. What does not kill you will only make you stronger.

Answer 5

Depression has a lot of signs and symptoms, and some of what you said fits well. But a lot of it seems more like heartbreak and dissapointment to me.
If you feel like you are depressed, then i suggest you tell someone. A parent, teacher, counselor, your doctor. Anyone you can trust has your best interest at heart.
Chin up sweetie...I promise you, even if it feels like it now, no one is worth losing yourself over. No one! I have been there, and I would hate to see anyone go the way that I did for so long.
When you feel helpless, that is when you need to ask for help the most.

Answer 6

if you had deppression you would know about it. you seem to be going through a childhood crush and chucking ya teddy bear syndrome. if your mates were real mates they would talk to you, and the chances are your never see these guys in ten years time when you leave school so i wouldnt let it get to you and would goo seek new mates.

Answer 7

i think ur not depressed...
ur just inlove...
the things u feel ryt now are the signs of being inlove...

well, everyone feels that... espevially when they were inlove....

but don't worry... you will still overcome that...
im 14, i also felt the same but after the feeling had gone...
i am now alryt and... you're still young you can meet someone better than him...
goodluck!

Answer 8

Depression is a disorder that affects your thoughts, moods, feelings, behavior and even your physical health. People used to think it was "all in your head" and that if you really tried, you could "snap out of it" or just "get over it." But doctors now know that depression is not a weakness, and it's not something you can treat on your own. Depression is a medical disorder with a biological and chemical basis.

Sometimes a stressful life event triggers depression. Other times depression seems to occur spontaneously with no identifiable specific cause. Depression is much more than grieving or a bout of the blues.

Depression may occur only once in a person's life. Often, however, it occurs as repeated episodes over a lifetime, with periods free of depression in between. Or it may be a chronic condition, requiring ongoing treatment over a lifetime.

People of all ages and races suffer from depression. Medications are available that are generally safe and effective, even for the most severe depression. With proper treatment, most people with serious depression improve, often within weeks, and can return to normal daily activities.


Two hallmarks of depression — symptoms key to establishing a diagnosis — are:

-Loss of interest in normal daily activities. You lose interest in or pleasure from activities that you used to enjoy.
-Depressed mood. You feel sad, helpless or hopeless, and may have crying spells.

In addition, for a doctor or other health professional to diagnose depression, most of the following signs and symptoms also must be present for at least two weeks.

-Sleep disturbances. Sleeping too much or having problems sleeping can be a sign you're depressed. Waking in the middle of the night or early in the morning and not being able to get back to sleep are typical.
-Impaired thinking or concentration. You may have trouble concentrating or making decisions and have problems with memory.
-Changes in weight. An increased or reduced appetite and unexplained weight gain or loss may indicate depression.
-Agitation. You may seem restless, agitated, irritable and easily annoyed.
-Fatigue or slowing of body movements. You feel weariness and lack of energy nearly every day. You may feel as tired in the morning as you did when you went to bed the night before. You may feel like you're doing everything in slow motion, or you may speak in a slow, monotonous tone.
-Low self-esteem. You feel worthless and have excessive guilt.
-Less interest in sex. If you were sexually active before developing depression, you may notice a dramatic decrease in your level of interest in having sexual relations.
-Thoughts of death. You have a persistent negative view of yourself, your situation and the future. You may have thoughts of death, dying or suicide.

Depression can also cause a wide variety of physical complaints, such as gastrointestinal problems (indigestion, constipation or diarrhea), headache and backache. Many people with depression also have symptoms of anxiety.

Children, teens and older adults may react differently to depression. In these groups, symptoms may take different forms or may be masked by other conditions. Kids may pretend to be sick, worry that a parent is going to die, perform poorly in school, refuse to go to school, or exhibit behavioral problems. Older people may be more willing to discuss the physical manifestations of depression, instead of their emotional difficulties

Answer 9

No, I think you´re sad. Sadness isn´t so bad like depression.
I recomend you a psicologist
Good Luck!

Answer 10

This describes depression.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/clinical_depression

If you feel you are depressed you should see a doctor. If you are feeling suicidal call someone and tell them so they can get you help.