Sharing a bedroom with sis?

Question

Help! Me and my sis need space! Our room is so cluttered and we get so angry at each other! Our apartment is small because my mom died 2 years ago and she was making half of the money. We just moved in about 2 weeks ago. Me and my sis are getting on each other's last nerves! We do have the biggest room in the apartment and my dad and brother each have their own room. Me and my sis have our own bathroom, but it takes forever to get a turn. Is there any ideas of how to cope with my sis and sharing a bathroom in the morning? We have a bunk bed so it takes away some of the clutter but we have one desk and one laptop which we can't cope with because I (Maria) am in 10th grade and she (Kiera) is in 9th. Sure we usually get along but the room thing isn't working! If you have any tips please help!

~Maria~And~Kiera~

We both have jobs. We can't buy things for ourselves we are saving up for college.

Answer 1

you need to be creative both with time and space. Try to think of a way to rearrange the room and you may be able to make more room that way. If your dad can afford it, try to check pawn shops in your area for an inexpensive second laptop, or even go to freecycle.com in your area and put in there that you need a laptop and you may bet lucky that someone has one they would give you. Get a couple of tv snack tables perhaps and you can put the laptops on that to work on, or I even lay in bed to work on mine.
For the bathroom, alternate which of you gets to use the bathroom first each morning and which gets to sleep in a bit longer that morning and if you have to put on makeup or comb your hair in the morning in the mirror in the bathroom, get a mirror to hang i your room.
you may even be able to get a futon for each of you - a bed which folds up and becomes a couch - so that you would have that to sit on and work on the computer during the day and folds out to become a bed at night and get rid of the bunk bed
If you have things such as stuffed animals around the room, go to a sporting goods store and get a net to hang in a corner and put those things in that to keep them off of the floor and out of the way. Look around the room and try to think of creative ways to make it more liveable and you may get an idea that I could never think of here having never seen your room. I hope one or more of these ideas help

Answer 2

You both need to respect eachother, before you start getting angry at the other person, think how it would make you feel first. I am sure that alot of the frustration is coming from your loss, not just your mom, but the security of losing so much because of her death and also having to move to a new home because of it. Why don't you schedule alone time in your room with eachother, you have the room for an hour then move to another room in your home so she can have alone time in the room for an hour. Also make an effort to spend some time together, when your relationship is strengethened it won't seem like such a punishment to share. Good luck!

Answer 3

Start by reorganizing your bedroom... Use Shelves, u can look in garage sales, or maybe even built one yourselves..or just work with whatever u have. I am disorganized, so is my husband...but whenever i see clutteror a mess, i get all strssed..iut bothers me so much..we just start fighting... so I believe when thee environment u live in is clean and somewhat organized, he stress level diminishes and u can focus on other things and not on "your stuff is all over my things" . NOw with the bathroom issue... u guys gotta work it out (I have two sisters and one bathroom, one loves to take hour long showers and the other one applyes facials and lotions but wont leave the bthroom for taht!) sooo, just organize your own schdules, who ever has to leave earlier uses the bathroom first, she has has to get out at least 20 min later (or something like that) ... or one week one goes in first next week the other...just make sure to be considerate to each other and save time however possible (if one is onthe compter the otherone could take a shower and leave stuff ready for the next day)

Answer 4

rooms are hard to share what i would say to do is maybe figure out a way to seperate the space just dont go 2 extremes and bathroom time make a schedule for when you get to use the shower sink ...ect but if there is a problem with whose brush/comb/whatever it is i would suggest puttin all ur stuff in a basket when its ur trurn u take ur basket 2 the bathroom and when ur done u take it bck also dont get dressed or do anything in the bathroom that isnt absoloutely neccessary

Answer 5

Clean the room and don't fight about it. Then make a schedule on who gets the bathroom first for about 20 minutes then 20 minutes to the other one (I'd recommend doing it by age or have your dad decide.) Also set times for the laptop and stuff. Just make everything neat and fair.

Answer 6

well u could get a job and buy a desk and a laptop for yourself . or you could just deal with it i mean just think that what family you do have left may never be this close again after u go to college . so i say suck it up for 2 yrs and itll all be worth it. and work a deal with her, homework comes first then who ever get s to gab online can be a rotation thing.

Answer 7

Sit down and work out a schedule that both of you can follow. If you are willing to work at it things will work out but if you continue to argue and bicker nothing will get solved. Good luck with it all.

Answer 8

Sh1t! Who is looking after you?

Stop fighting. I've been in the same position and I know what I'm talking about.

Get on with it, or you'll end up like me and my brother...

10 months no talk....

Answer 9

Try to keep out off each others way, but dont ignore each other. maybe you are spending to much time together, try and make some space.

Answer 10

Just put tape down half the room and clam your side.