Not Soccer Moms Girlscout Moms!?

Question

My soon-to-be-step-daughter is a Brownie in Girlscouts and I have recently became co-leader. I've noticed that a lot of the moms are Girlscout Moms. They are like soccer moms but instead of saying "Oh my little Jimmy scored 8 goals" they say "Oh my little Sally sold 200 boxes of cookies. SO much more than anyone else." It is becoming really annoying and their kids act the same way bragging about everything and acting all snotty and perfect.

My co-leader is more in charge and has kicked out 3 girls for their poor attitude and we are kicking out another because she's always bragging. I want their to be a more easier way for us to deal with theese girls and parents. Any ideas?

Answer 1

Well, I am a Fast pitch softball mom. And it isn't any better no matter what kind of "mom" you are. The fact of the matter is, is that the first thing at each meeting the "rules" should be stated. And the leader should starting out with "I have noticed, as well as some of the other mothers that some of our rules are being broken so I am going to read them to you girls. Then we're going to talk about it." Then do it! Ask certain girls how they feel when others "brag." Ask the ones that brag how they would feel if someone bragging to them. Then as the leader, she should say. "So we're all clear on the rules and we're all going to try not to break them, right?" In Rec abll, I managed 4 different times. And there was always 1 or 2 girls that were brats. They were rude to their parents, strike out on purpose or yell for their water. I would just tell them, "hey, you don't need to be that way." Before a game, I'd tell them, "Girls, some of you are gonna strike out, some of you are gonna hit, some of you are gonna score and some of you are gonna get put out. But your here to have FUN. Your not here to give your teammates a bad time. If you can't say something nice you need to stay quite. I don't want any attitude either. Now lets go play." And they never gave me a problem. You got to put it out there.

Answer 2

You kicked girls out of Brownies because of their Attitudes?!?! You should be ashamed of yourselves! Being a scout leader is all about teaching these girls to grow up to be kind, good citizens, team players, and community leaders, and instead of doing that, you gave up on the girls that need you the most.

The fact is when people brag about the girls cookie sales, it is because they are proud of all the hard work those girls have put in. They deserve a little bit of bragging. The trick is to teach them how to be proud of themselves without making others feel bad. You fail there too.

You should give up leading and leave it to someone that doesn't resent everyone else's kids and wants to help each of those girls grow. Even the "snotty" ones.

Answer 3

Time to type up a rules slip. State that by joining they agree not to talk badly, spread rumors, engage in gossip type behavior about other parents and children involved in the activity and not to brag in a manner that puts others down. If rules are broken you reserve the right to cancel membership without a refund. Have a signature line for Leader, Co-Leader, Parent and Child. That way it is clear you are talking about ALL people involved.

Answer 4

My mom hates her life too, she always talks about death like it's the greatest vacation anyone could ask for. And maybe we're selfish for keeping them here? But nontheless, try to cheer her up. Do all the nice things any mom would want, remind her of all the happy memories. Be there for her. Give her a shoulder to cry on, watch tv with her. Just help her out. Best of luck<3

Answer 5

That is a wonderful question. I am having the same issues with the PTO in my daughters school...she is in Kindergarten. I don't know how to handle this. Everyone acts so snotty.
I wish I knew how to handle it. I wish I had some answers for you, and myself.

Answer 6

have the parents learn the honor!!
Make them say it over and over!! Then the girls!!!