How to deal with finding the perfect guy! and him leaving for Iraq?

Question

I found the perfect guy! tall, muscles, blue eyes! kind, funny, great kisser! we had a good friendship and both of us were impress with each other when we met! So he is leaving for Iraq as the third time. I am having mix emotions! I truly want to wait for him and be loyal to me! but he is telling me to go on with my life! and that we have no strings attach. I told him that I will be there for him when he is gone and when he comes back we start again. I am a reck because now I am wondering if he is telling me this because he knows something I don't, or he is trying to tell me not to wait for him in case he dies! its terrible because we talked about what to do in that case. Yes! I shouldn't think this way! I need to be strong for him and be positive for him too! but what about me? how can I deal with these emotions? anybody else has the same motions?

Answer 1

One thing people f up on in relationship is they get caught up being strong for one person or another, forgetting all about the relationship, whose going to be strong for that? YOU! So if he is still home, SLAP him, look him strait in the eye, and tell him the truth. That you love him, you need him, and you have EVER intention of being with him on the long run, and HIM talking this crap about going on with your life, is just like spitting in your face, then slap him again and say buddy make your mind up now, I'll wait for hell with you, but if you want this over I'm gone..... take it intense hunnie, because thats the way you feel, also feel free to put your own charater on that, I wouldn't always sujest the slap, but something to get his attention... a pop in the shoulder, a pinch, something that says HEY LISTEN I'M DEATHLY SERIOUS!! But if he is gone, the time has past, be patient, be true, and remember next time what you most do..... keep him from bs'in the relationship....