It's almost time to go outside, the kids that need to go to the bathroom are going, the ones that don't are just waiting, not told to be quiet (dont have to be quiet at this time) some of the kids are making noises with their mouth, like blowing their lips & their lips flap & make that BBBBB sound. (kids just being silly kids to me) the other teacher comes back in the room & says "babies don't do that & you are not a baby, do not do that"
I know it's not a horrible nasty thing to say, but I didn't see the big deal, they are 4 & silly, so what? I also think if she said anything, she should have just said not to do it instead of using the term baby, that annoys me.
Also, when a child gets hurts, like a lil bump, nothing serious, she just says "its ok" I think they need a "im sorry"
maybe Im just a big softy about certain things......
2007-10-06 09:54:34 · 7 answers · asked by samira 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
she is actually nice most of the time & the kids like her. little things like that bother me, though.
saying "im sorry" doesnt always mean you are apologizing. In that case it would mean "im sorry that happend" I would feel rotten If I got hurt & my hubby said "your ok"
2007-10-06 10:10:48 · update #1
if you ask me the teacher is humilating them by calling them babys that is not on and i would have something to say if it was my daughter whats so wrong about then blowing bubbles or whatever there kids and there bored
when a child gets hurt well when my daughter falls if i know its not a bad fall and she is ok i just say up you get and try again but i will help her and show her a safer way
if she just falls over trips etc and she is hurt i comfort her pretend she made a big hole in the floor give her a magic kiss or some magic cream if it is needed some teachers should rethink there profecion there in it for the money not the love of teaching kids
2007-10-06 10:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree... the appropriate response to a child being hurt is a respectful one. You wouldn't tell another adult who twisted their ankle, "It's okay." when you know it isn't. Young children need an acknowledgment of their feelings. A better response to a child who is hurt would be; "Where does it hurt?" or "I know that hurt. How can I help?" No one likes it when another person doesn't even acknowledge that you have feelings... it makes you feel unimportant. A little compassion and recognition of feelings goes a long way.
As for the time when they are making noises- yeah, she should have left out the insult about them being "babies". A more appropriate response would have been: "You may make noises with your mouth outside." or "Please keep your mouth quiet." or even, "Lets keep our sillies inside us until we get outside." Telling children what you expect of them (instead of only what NOT to do) can make a big difference in communication with children. As well as eliminating the words "don't", "stop", "no" and "can't" when speaking to young children. However, I would look at the reason they are making noises.... are they waiting for the other children who are going to the bathroom to finish before they all go out? Perhaps if they are not being taken to the bathroom, they could go on outside with a staff member so that they are not required to wait on others (waiting often causes problem behaviors due to boredom). If you are in a situation where there is only one staff member to 12 kids, and you all go to the bathroom together, try some distraction techniques... sing songs, etc while waiting.
I've often heard horrid things coming out of preschool teacher's mouths, and it takes a lot of retraining to get them out of the pattern of behavior they are in. It is a conscious, on-going process to modify your responses/interactions with children, but it can make all the difference in the world. Try some positive talk, and model it to the other staff member as well. Perhaps an inservice for your staff on using positive communication techniques to get children to do what you want them to do would be a good idea for your center?
2007-10-06 18:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to work with children this age and younger. While the questions you ask are legitimate concerns, and she was being too harsh on them. You might want to start dropping in just to check things out. What is the child/ teacher ratio? I was often either alone or with only one other worker with 23 18-24 months!!! There is no way that I could have been taking care of them the way I am sure that their parents wanted and rightfully, expected. Take your concerns to the director/ principal. Your child's teacher is more than likely stressed out and overworked.
2007-10-06 17:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by tryin4freedom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some daycare workers are heartless and I wonder why they are in this business in the first place. Little kids are little kids...let them be kids. When they get hurt, give them a hug...sometimes thats all they need to feel better. As parents, we need to hold day care centres to a higher standard than we do now....
2007-10-06 16:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the teacher needs some time off for bad behavior. they are just little kids and she needs to treat them as young children who learn by example. is she setting a good example for them?
2007-10-06 16:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby thing I agree she shouldn't do.. kids will be kids, but I have no problem with her saying, "It's ok" (although "Are you ok? let me see. It's ok," would be better) when a child gets a little boo-boo. No need to apologize if it isn't your fault.
2007-10-06 17:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Holy Macaroni! 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
talk to her about it
2007-10-06 17:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by Done 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋