I want to lose weight and so does my mom but it's more complecated than that.........?

Question

Ok I want to lose weight(14,5'1'and 147 lbs.)and my mom wants me to lose weight to but she don't buy healthy stuff even when I ask her to so everytime I eat something she's like "that's goin' straight to your A*s*s,but then she always contridicts herself saying my a*s*s is SO flat or she''ll say something like thats goin to your stomache,thats goin to your feet.But i feel like she don't love my as much as she could if I was skinny and fit and perfect.I have no self esteem and I don't even wonna leave my room much less my HOUSE and i DON't want to eat at all i want to starve my self but i know if I do that i could get really sick and if i do eat something it's gonna make me twice as big when i start back eating if i was to starve myself but what exersises can i do in my own room I have VERY LITTLE space in there.and what can I do to boost my confidence the fat is mostly around my stomache,thighs,and arms.

Answer 1

Will she buy you healthy food if you go shopping with her? If not then you should start trying to work out. I have a 9 month old baby and I still have a lot of the baby weight on that I am trying to lose, I HATE working out so I bought a jump rope today and Im going to start jumping rope every morning for about 30 minutes. You should do cardio to lose weight you need to get your heart beating fast and sweat. Start drinking lots of water too. Your mom sounds like a jerk (no offense) but maybe you should do the same thing she does to you and call her a fat a** and tell her that all that junk she eats is going straight to her butt. Good luck and by the way you arent really that bad overweight, you could lose about 10 pounds and fall in range of average for your height

Answer 2

Ooh, she is definitely NOT helping you. So you have to help yourself. Since you have access to the computer, go to Weight Watchers online. See if you can figure out for yourself how to eat healthy and stick to it, no matter what she says.

What they will tell you, as will any reputable diet plan, is that you need to eat a BALANCED diet, exercise PORTION CONTROL, and just get moving a little more, because every bit helps. Remember every day is a new day.

Three weeks ago I started on WW, and I have lost 6.6 lbs. You can do this too. By Thanksgiving, you could be at 135. By Christmas, under 130. So here's what I do:
breakfast: some simple cereal (not the sugary kind), with a little milk (skim), and some fruit on it if we have it, black coffee

lunch: salad, light on the dressing. A rice cake or a couple of crackers, and a piece of fruit.

dinner: a ww frozen dinner and a cut up piece of fruit and/or a tomato, one cookie.

At my age, I am not supposed to eat very much, but at your age, you can have more.

You can make your exercise WALKING. Walk everywhere! If you ride the bus, can you get off one stop early? Go the long way around the block, etc. Get the picture?

I am SO EXCITED to be losing this weight. Your mom and you could do this together and it would be easier, but if she is not ready, you just go for it. Since you are just 14, you are dependent on her, so you will have to pick from the food she provides, and if it is not healthy, you will have to do the hard work of making the best possible choices. But that is what it comes down to. That is what I have to do every day. For example, tonight we are going out to a restaurant -- Chinese, which is very fattening. I will try to order light and eat small portions. If I go over, I will compensate tomorrow. And in compensation, I am even going light all day today. But, you see, I really really want to be successful at this.

Good luck to you, and I hope your mom sees how important this is! :)

Answer 3

I'd suggest that you and your mom both go to the doctor for a checkup and some guidance as to a proper diet for both a young girl and an adult woman. You both need to know what's healthy and what's not.

I'm sure your mom loves you, but she probably just feels frustrated because she is unaware of what constitutes a proper diet and nutrition for herself and for you. Therefore, she makes jokes about it, to cover up her true feelings. I wouldn't take her comments that seriously.

You also need to develop more self-esteem and self-confidence. Why not join the "Y"? I think they have free exercise classes, or charge very little for them, especially if you're a member. You'll be able to make friends that way, and can encourage one another to reach a proper weight goal. The best time to start on a diet and exercise routine is when you're young, so that you'll establish good health habits that will stick with you all your life. Study up on nutrition yourself, and maybe lend a hand with the grocery shopping and cooking. When your mom sees the progress you're making, maybe she'll take the hint and start improving her own health habits. Good luck, dear!

Answer 4

Let me start off by addressing the misconception that if you starve yourself and then eat something it will make you twice as big. That is UNTRUE. Despite what people tell you, the caloric content of food does not change despite how long it has been since you last ate. But I want you to focus on yourself, and not your mom, since you cannot rely on her for support you need to worry about you and you only. In your room you can do sit ups, push ups, and crunches, which are the cornerstone to any body weight exercise. If your mom won't buy healthy stuff, then the only thing that I can suggest is that you eat what she buys but only in small portions, and if there is ever a healthy alternative to what she is making go for that. Another exercise is called the burpee. Start in a standing position, jump straight in the air, when you come down go into a squatting position, kick your legs out and do 1 pushup, then follow the steps back up to a standing position and repeat.

Answer 5

Okay, seriously you have to lose the weight for yourself not for your mom or anyone else. It is extremly unhealthy and could lead to a premaure death. You have to get out of your room and move around you will never lose weight just by sitting in your room. Walk, do stretches, do some excercises in your room...whatever you can to burn calories. Drink lots of water, try to do one ounce for every pound you weigh each day. So, that would be 147 ounces a day or almost a gallon. Do NOT drink any Coke/Pepsi, these are the worst for you and is like drinking fat right onto your body. Eat the best that is available to you. Just limit your quantity. If all there is to eat is chocolate, that is fine, but just have a little. So, small quantities of the best food that is available, move as much as possible, and no pop. You can find lots of info on the web that should be helpful.

Answer 6

There is a site out there for people who want to lose weight and it is totally free. It ahs alotof different articles and things to help you. Here is the adress for it. http://www.sparkteens.com/
Also I belong to the Sparkpeople and I have lost about 30 pounds in about a year. You will find a lot of support. Good luck. It's worth at least taking a look.

Answer 7

First, your mom is wrong. I am sure she loves you but her approach is all wrong and you already know that. Would she give you money to go shopping or let you come with to help pick out healthy foods? Is your mom overweight as well? perhaps she sees herself in you....
You dont have to buy "health food" to loose weight. try eating more veggies and drinking more water before eating so you dont eat as much.
Remember, your self worth is not measured by your size. There are so many women who have done amazing things in their lives and weren't a size 6! You need to find a way to brush off those hurtfull things your mom is saying and love yourself for who you are. It is important to be healthy just for your sake, and for your future families sake. You are only about 20 lbs overweight so its not a huge task. Plan on it taking about a year. Get out of your room! My favorite thing is to walk in a secluded park or woods. Just get out of there and walk.
My success has come from counting calories. Its very important to vary your calorie intake every day. My range was 800-1400. Shoot for under 1000 but by varying it your body doesnt go into starvation mode and you are more likely to stick to it since its not restrictive. When you start looking at foods and calories you will be able to find low calorie foods to eat and you wont have to feel hungry. Bread, for one, is very high in calories and doesnt stick with you, while fish fills you up and keeps you full longer for less calories. And veggies are almost free.
http://www.caloriesperhour.com/index_foo...
If you a glass of water 30 min before every meal, and when you feel hungry/snacky you will eat less and feel less hunger pains. Water is also essential to weight loss.
FYI staving your body will only make it harder to loose weight. A regular meal plan is essential. You NEED to eat at least 3 meals a day, and 5-6 small meals is even better. You should never feel actual hunger. Cravings are different, those are emotional needs that you should fill with other things.
Good Luck, Jen
p.s. The media version of a woman is very, very wrong and unhealthy. Most guys are not attracted to skeletons. They like health. Be healthy, be happy.

Answer 8

Would your mom let you do the grocery shopping?

Get exercise. Just go outside and walk for 30 minutes a day.

Does your school have a guidence counselor? You need help with self-esteem and mom issues.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Your Mom has it all wrong...she ought to support you and but healthy food....dont starve though...eat cereal and fruit for breakfast, eat rice fish and/or meat for lunch and meat or fish with lots of salad and veg for dinner...snacks should be fruit, raw veg, plain popcorn....drink LOADS of water and walk more....you will get there/