I have been with my boyfriend since 2005 we went to prom together and he was my first. But here lately all we do is fight and he's obsessed with the rapper "50 Cent" he carries his cd player everywhere we go. And i'm tired of it when we argue he starts singing the songs that 50 cent raps. He even says he as other women and i'm sick of it. I don't know if he's lien or not and then he starts calling me names. I keep telling myself i need to just move on or either take a break but we always get back together. He says he's sorry and i forgive him he promises he won't do it again but he does. I just wish i could some how stop having feelings for him because i cry alot over him. He Doesn't work or go to school all he wants to do is listen to that cd player. I'm currently taking online classes for Web Design. Now keep in mind we are both 20 years old i just need some advice because i don't know what else to do. I'm just so glad we don't live together or have children.
2007-10-06 09:31:17 · 11 answers · asked by babycheeks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You all are right he keeps doing it over and over he says he loves me then he cries when i try to end it he has fits. I forgot to mention he said his doctor told him he had schizophrenia so that's even worse. Anyone know a person with schizophrenia? And if so how has it affected your life? He always starts calling me when i say i'm done.
2007-10-06 09:56:26 · update #1
Sweetie, You need to leave him alone. He has nothing to offer you. And why the heck are you crying over him? He's a giant loser and you know it. You already want out - "I'm just so glad we don't live together or have children." That's you telling yourself that you don't want these things with him, so why do you stick around?
People only do to you what you let them do, and he is walking all over you. He has no respect for you because you haven't made your respect for yourself known. In this life, if you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything.
Raise your standards and leave him alone, he's dead weight and carrying his lazy behind around will only hold you back.
Good Luck with getting your degree! :o)
2007-10-06 09:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by this_girl_loves_the_80s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he wanted it to work, he'd make it work.
you want it to work, so you keep trying, even though he says mean things, doesn't work or go to school, etc.
when a good man really cares about you, you will know it. and if any guy isn't treating a woman right, she needs to leave him. if she stays with him, she is saying "it's okay to treat women this way." if she leaves him, he will either try really hard to get her back or know to treat the next one better.
if you're not ready to just leave him, you should take a break. and no matter how hard it is, stick to it for a few weeks. tell him if he wants you back, he'll need to get a job. or go to school, don't take him back until he does. he needs to put effort into this too.
after being with somebody for so long, you really do grow attached and being apart is hard. but when you're lonely, think about all the mean things he did to you and you'll begin to feel happy that you don't have to deal with that any more. and you'll start to feel excited that you're back on the market and are free to find a man who knows how to treat a woman well.
way too many women stay in relationships that they are unhappy with only because they are afraid of being alone. it's not all that bad; like starting a new diet or quitting smoking, just got to really want to break a bad habit and stick to it. it'll get easier in no time.
2007-10-06 16:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sancho Nelson Reiley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly you don't have to put up with him disrespecting you. if you start telling yourself that you need to move on, that's not a very good sign of the relationship lasting. you have to be strong and push those feelings for him aside and get the strength to get over him...its hard to get over a person that you have been with for almost 3 years...do you really want to end up with this guy?....at the end is he worth the fights, arguments disrespecting and the tears?
2007-10-06 16:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by *cc5507* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to split and find some one new. He does not sound like he has any goals in life.
2007-10-06 16:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go meet a new boyfriend, no matter what it takes. It will
hurt alot at first, but trust me, this dude will not do you any good.
2007-10-06 16:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by judy f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and i argue a lot. what should i do?
you are only 20 yrs old. don't invest in any more time with this guy. move on.
2007-10-06 16:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a new guy
2007-10-06 16:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a new guy that is nice to you.
2007-10-06 16:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by crasher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should find someone new sorry he's not the one for you
good luck
2007-10-06 16:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by disney stars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him
2007-10-06 16:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋