the other day he was honest with me and told me that he's slept with 4 girls before me! the thing is.. i was a virgin until i got with him and i'm finding it really hard to think of him having sex with that man girls before me. how can i get over it? how can i push it aside and not get upset about it? Thanks
he's 2 years older than me.
2007-10-06 09:27:00 · 22 answers · asked by cassy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about how the poor 6th girl will feel about it.
2007-10-06 09:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Narky 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You just have to get i out of your head if you really like him and if you have a future with him, or behaving like this he will end up telling you to clear off ! these girls were before he was with you. At least it wasnt 4 girls behind your back love. that would be worse what you think ? you seem to be a bit insecure with yourself probably by the fact you were a virgin, wanting to compete with the other girls he has had before you ? maybe he really likes you more that you were a virgin and that would make you even more special to him.At least its only 4 girls and not 44. I dont mean to sound mean by what iv wrote to you honey. You just need to believe in the relationship. my partner was a virgin b4 he met me and i had more partners than your boyfriend has had. I like the fact he was a virgin as i dont like the fact i had anyone b4 him as he is so special to me and we have a little girl now and only been together 2 half yrs. hope you feel bit better soon honey. xx
2007-10-06 17:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by falkirkmum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's really hard but you've just got to try and put it behind you. Everyone has some kind of past whether it's sexual or otherwise. You and this guy are together now and that's what you have to concentrate on, not whats happened in the past. Take it from me, doesn't matter if it's your first time or 5th time it's who it's with that makes it special not how many times you've done it before. Honestly it really doesn't matter whats gone on before you, it's you he wants to be with. Be confident and proud about this, don't feel bad because he's slept with other people, feel good about yourself that you haven't.
2007-10-06 16:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by KT_27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you need to let it go. These kinds of emotions are very damaging if you keep hold of them for too long.
Everyone has history - you might someday. You have to think 'that was then and this is now' - you're in a relationship which means he has feelings for you, so that's all that matters.
It doesn't matter how many partners he's had - as long as you both have healthy, satisfying sex you have nothing to worry about. Keep your communication open and let him know how you're feeling.
2007-10-06 16:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
You're going to have to get over it. It's inevitable that you're going to be with someone that has had sex with other girls before you. As long as he's being a good, faithful boyfriend now, it doesn't matter. You should, however, have him checked for std's.
2007-10-06 16:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by h1u4sxda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't accept this...what are you going to do the rest of your life? Look for someone who has been in a time warp?
It is not a crime to have slept with anyone. He is not immoral, nor is he untrustworthy.
I suggest you concentrate on the man in front of you and not some imaginary past that no longer exists except for in your head!
2007-10-06 16:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Is that all he has slept with? Its not a crime to have previous partners, you may not stay with this bloke, so you would be classed as having previous partners. Just stop thinking about it, everyone has a past before they find the one that they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
2007-10-06 16:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa T 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just have to accept that he has a past, and that's what it is a 'past', he's with you now, and it doesn't make him love you any less just because he's been with other girls,
in fact his past relationships may have helped to make him the man he is today, being more sensitive, and understanding to your needs,
please don't let this spoil your relationship, it will eat you up and destroy what you could have,
life is for living don't fret over the past, life is too short.
good luck
cathybaby x
2007-10-06 16:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by Qqq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your dating a 12 yr old your gonna have to get used to the fact your not the first!
2007-10-06 16:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'd be relieved. it means that he has enough experience to have a better idea of what girls i.e yourself, like. Also, he's not so experienced that he will judge your *ahem*.. skills.
Don't worry about it and just be glad that you're the one he likes now, those other girls are in the past.
2007-10-06 16:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by red_or_dead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you going to meet alot of guys that had sex with many women before you...we're human its totally nothing wrong with that as long as it wasnt when he was with u....its going to feel weird to you because ur mind is thinking of it differently but its not bad at least he was honest to tell you that...but dont hold that against him...just move on with the relationship because its u guys now not anyone else...good luck
2007-10-06 16:31:38 · answer #11 · answered by lilruby052001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋