I'm 20 years old, and I'm a junior in college. I like college, I like to learn, but lately I feel like I don't have a "social" life. There's so much I want to do, but not alot of people to do it with. I have a handful of acquaintances. I haven't found very many people that I just "click" with. I've always been a small group of friends sort of girl, or just one best friend. I do have a boyfriend of over a year that goes to school with me, and he is my best friend there. When he's at work and such, I don't do anything social. He's my only friend at college, and he keeps to himself very much so. I can be shy at first, but once you get to know me as a person, I'm not shy at all. I do work on campus and am involved in student organizations. Next semester I'm studying abroad. All of the on-campus events that I'd like to go to, I don't have anyone to go with. I know it's all about being yourself, and I am, but do you have any suggestions on how to make the most of college?
2007-10-06 08:36:36 · 6 answers · asked by LateBloomer 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
first of all, make sure you look approachable. a friendly smile, casual outfit and some simple makeup can go a long way.
if there's someone you often see around campus, ask him/her where your next class is (even if you already know), and next time you see him/her around, shoot them a smile, say hi or even strike up a casual conversation. baby steps, there's no hurry!
if you're involved in student organisations already, then that's a terrific way to socialise! it may seem scary at first, but try putting yourself out there ... if you have some big event coming up, ask someone to help you plan it, then go out for a quick coffee later (this is great since you seem to prefer one-to-one conversations).
also, make sure you start hanging out with your friends' friends. pretty soon, you'll branch out to all sorts of people!
sometimes, people will approach you if you look available. for example, sometimes when i'm sitting alone somewhere on campus, reading a book, a complete stranger will come and introduce him/herself. i've found some great friends this way.
get creative, look for new ways to meet people, and don't be afraid! good luck!
2007-10-06 20:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by yin yang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was similar to you when I was in school. I realized one day my friend pool was so small b/c I never initiated or asked anyone to do anything. You have to invite ppl to things too to be a good mutual friend.
Is there a show that you like? You could have a mini get-together at your place to watch it.
Invite a classmate to a study session for the next test.
If you in an organization, partner up with another member to complete a task. Like "hey I need to pick up decorations you want to help me pick some stuff out?"
It is tough at first, but don't give up!! 10 years later, my college Friends are my closest!!
2007-10-06 16:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Chievous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the events even though you're not with anyone. Besides, if you go with someone, you'll probably pay more attention to that person and not meet as many new people.
2007-10-06 17:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally value my college buddies much more than high school.
2016-05-17 10:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either tlk to ppl after class..join study groups and when u join groups talk with ppl and be very friendly...the more group activities u go to the more ppl u meet!
2007-10-06 08:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
strike up conversations with ppl after classes and see when they can meet for a drink or lunch..
2007-10-06 08:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋