Ok so here is the story..I have been best friends with this guy for probably about 3-4 years now. A few weeks ago, he asked me out. I, too, really liked him and was glad he finally made a move. So last night at the football game, ppl were kinda pushin him to hug me or do somethin so he put his arm around me, and I really wanted it but I was nervous about the crowd, so I pushed his hand off. I felt really bad, especially when he walked away and didn't seem to talk to me much the rest of the night. I feel really bad, and I really liked the image of his arm around me and how it felt, but I guess I am just nervous about the crowd and what people will think about me. Also, my friend had just gone out w/ this guy last night and they were already hugging and everythin, and I was going out with this guy for weeks and we didnt really make any moves. Should I just let him make the moves and enjoy it, or should I be a little bit nervous about the crowd? Help?
2007-10-06 06:49:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop thinking about everyone else and focus on you and your new bf. He's been a friend for a long time, remember THAT person and try to be honest with him about what you're feeling.
He's bound to feel put off by you brushing him off in front of all your friends. Apologize and explain, you owe it to him.
Start holding his hand when you walk together. You can take his hand, don't wait for him to make the first move. He already made the first move by asking you out and putting his arm around you. It's your turn now.
GL and RELAX FOR GAWDS SAKE! :D
2007-10-06 06:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to be nervous about the crowd. That just makes you a more private person than your friend. It also means you have a better self-respect for yourself than your friend who had no problem letting it all show. Be yourself when you are around your friends and you will always know that they like you for who you are, not for who you pretend to be. As for the guy you like, just wait until another opportunity arises and instead of letting your friends tell you guys how to touch eachother, just grab his hand and be done with it. You will know how he feels about you by the way he responds. If he pulls his hand away then you know not to bother again. But if he hold on to your hand and doesn't say anything then you are good to go!
2007-10-06 13:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by elephantlashes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was rude of you to do that to him, it seems like it really hurt his feelings. Apologize and tell him you were nervous, and if you want it let him make the moves. You have the right to be a little nervous, but dont let it get the best of you.
2007-10-06 13:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good that you are trying to take things slowly, but at the same time, I think you should try to be more flexible and not force anythying but not stop it either, unless it's something you don't fell comfortable with. There's no reason to be afraid of what the crowd may think, because the guy should be proud of you and you of him. It's better to take things slowly so it's less likely for you two to get bored of the relationship.
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2007-10-06 13:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by buried under the influence 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell him how you feel then work it out.
But you should let him do it if you want it.
The nerves just come with the crowd, but try the hugs alone first then move out into the crowd. this should make you less nervous
2007-10-06 13:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by HaRRo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you shouldn't have pushed his arm off in the first place if you wanted him to do it. stop caring what other people think, because now he probably thinks his advance was unwanted, so there is no telling when/if he will make another one now.
have a private chat with him about the reason for your reaction, and tell him why you embarrassed him in front of everyone.
2007-10-06 13:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by zero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shoulodnt be embarrased of him. if you really like him, you wouldnt care about what other people think even if some of them didnt approve? well who cares?? its your life. if him putting his arm around you makes you happy, then let him. it shouldnt matter what other people think. you dont have to move faster then you want to but let him know that u like when he puts him arm around you. if u keep pushing him away, the relationship probably wont last long and it sounds like u care about him and that u want it to last. good luck<333
2007-10-06 13:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should only let him make moves if u feel like your ready to have that kinda relationship , if u still dont want to be in that level then let him kno u wanna take it a little slower ..some people dont like public display of affection n maybe u prefer to be alone if there is goin to be affectionate moves..so before he gets mad explain wat u feel!!
2007-10-06 13:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear... i think putting an arm around you or even squeezing you a bit is not a problem if you enjoy it. Guys need it some times... and even girls need it.
But know your boundaries. If you don't like it, he has not choice, don't give him either!
After all love is not about putting his hand around you... so think carefully
2007-10-06 13:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by Sunet 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He put his arm around you only after he was dared? Hey, I heard the bell, time to leave the playground. Recess is over.
2007-10-06 13:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by Gabi ng Lagim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋