When someone speaks directly to one person about their personal issues and another person watching and not being spoken to. Is it rude for the person to watch the whole converstation right in front of them?
2007-10-06 06:31:55 · 10 answers · asked by Tara J 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We have a rudeness contest here. First, if one is going to bring up personal issues, one should do so in private, not in front of some other party or parties that aren't concerned in the matter. Second, if someone DOES start saying things in front of one that one has no business hearing, one should excuse oneself and leave, perhaps saying something like "Excuse me, I think an extra person here", a polite way to let "First" know that he is discourteously driving you away. One hopes that "First" has enough manners to respond with, "Oh no, please. This is really something Dave and I should discuss later, not now." But if "First" had manners, then he wouldn't have broached a personal subject in front of others in the first place.
That much said, let's not be too hard on "Second." If "Second" is an employee and "First" is the boss, it could have been awkward to leave. If it's a public place, like a cafeteria or workplace, you shouldn't expect "Second" to give up his place or interrupt his work; it's your place to tell "First" to zip it until you can so somewhere private. "Second" could have so surprised that he momentarily forgot his manners.
Deliberate snooping is always despicable.
2007-10-06 06:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it may make the rude list on both sides. If somebody is speaking on their own personal matter where others can hear, that makes the person that can hear feel uncomfortable. If the person who can hear doesn't attempt to rid themselves of the conversation wouldn't make them rude if they weren't going anywhere anyway. Buut It also depends on the situation. If its obvious the person talking is in a highly emotional and distressed state then the person who can hear should give them some privacy.
2007-10-06 13:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by the grand super C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a conversation to be private you shouldn't be talking in front of a third person. You are the one who is rude - what did you expect them to do? Walk away?
Next time ask the person you want to speak in private with to go speak in private somewhere else.
2007-10-06 14:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhhh yeah. This person is invading a personal conversation although if it really is personal they should speka quietly somewhere else if they dont want anyone to hear. BUt the eavesdropping person knowing that no one is speaking to them should not invite themselves into the conversation by listening.
2007-10-06 13:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Vicky Lovers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eating lunch with a friend at a restaurant.. He's talking loud so others can hear him.. He is acting like an authority on something he knows nothing about.. He is nodding to confirm what he says with other people he doesn't even know - sitting at a table closeby... I looked him SQUARE in the EYES and said: YOU"RE F'ING NUTS.... Got up and walked out and left the bill on him.. Wassss up with that, dude?
2007-10-06 13:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. It is rude to listen to people talking, but if it is about you, I think it would be appropriate to eavesdrop, just not to watch. However, it would be more rude in any occasion if you watched and stared, like it was a television show.
2007-10-06 16:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The speaker could ask the other listener to leave. If they speaker blabbers on, it's an open forum
2007-10-06 13:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no society lost lots of class recently.
2007-10-06 13:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really.
2007-10-06 15:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so
2007-10-06 13:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by cUTIE(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋