My son is hiding the fact he wants his ears pierced. I don't mind him getting them done, but I know he is frightned to ask. I have mentioned the topic twice and refuse to answer. He acts more gloomy than ever now and I know he will be happier if i get them done.
His school won't let him have it done, but that doesn't matter because he can just take it out.
What I want to know is, how can I confront him?
2007-10-06 06:21:45 · 15 answers · asked by dad m 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
You don't have to confront him. Make sure that your giving him signs that your receptive to his needs but don't pressure him. He'll come to you when he is ready if he really wants it.
He is lucky to have a father who is so understanding.
2007-10-06 06:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to confront him because you are giving him your blessing to get it done?
Ok, here is how you will become Dad of the Year. Ask him to take a ride to the stores with you. Go to one where he can have his ears done and pick what style he wants. Then he will know that you have had a idea all along and that you are not against it.
And yes, he can remove the earrings at school and put them back in when he goes out.
2007-10-06 06:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by kikio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a good and caring Father to notice how it is affecting your son.
Talk to him about how you see him acting. Tell him you are will to let him get it done and that he can just take them out during school. Let him know a lot of boys do it today and it is quite the fad.
Tell him more than anything you just want him to be happy.
Tell him you love him (of course you do or you wouldn't be so caring) and that you are always there to talk to him if there is ever anything wrong.
It may not even be the piercing, it may be something else that he is afraid to talk to you about.
Don't confront him, talk to him on a friendly level, confrontation is means for a fight.
Good Luck and I wish there were more good Dads like you out there!!
2007-10-06 06:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either just ask, or better still if you see some famous star on T.V who has it done, and ask his opinion and go from there. Just remember it takes at least 6 weeks for the ears to heal enough to take them out, so if he has to take them out for school, he'd be better off having them done next summer break (by then he may have changed his mind anyway)
2007-10-06 06:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop confronting, just let him know that no matter what, your there for him to discuss things openly with. That is your job as a parent, teens are difficult maybe he once wanted it and heard from one of his buddies that only fags wear them or something like that and now is embarassed about it you don't know what goes through your teens head.
Its nice that you have an open mind towards little things that many parents are adamant about causing more suffering for everyone for what its worth, in the sixties our generation's males suffered from wanting long hair, silly right.
Remember it is his choice and if he changed his mind let him know that is ok too, maybe he thinks you forgot about it or he wants something else now. Teens I loved my three boys to death but they can be moody and topic swinging what we think matters to them often matters more to us. Good luck
2007-10-06 06:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mind him getting it done, you could just say you're going to the mall and would he like to come. Then when you're walking near the ear peircing place just ask if he'd like to have his ears peirced...see what he says.
Only thing is...you can't take them out for 6 weeks. You can buy some small round bandaids to cover them until then though. That's what the kids do who have peircings and can't wear them to work...
2007-10-06 06:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the first six weeks after the piercing, he has to leave the earings in, otherwise the holes will close up. Perhaps you should think about getting this done over the summer.
2007-10-06 06:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by painfulcrepitus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should suprise him and take him there to get it done. That way theres really no talking involved and your the cool mom. His school on the other hand...he has to leave the earring in for a while other wise it will close.
2007-10-06 06:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha1029 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this probably isn't the answer you're looking for, but, i HATE it when a guy's ears are pierced! It looks SO DUMB! and it doesn't really turn a lot of girls on either if that's what he's looking for. Show him authority and tell him no. I bet he'll thank you in the end!
2007-10-06 06:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well I am a 13 year old girl and find some how attractive guys with one ear pierced. Tell him that some girls find it attractive. Also tell him that it is ok you wont get mad and if there is a reason he is getting so freaked out about it.
2007-10-06 06:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by FG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him. if hes says yes then go get them done during the summer so by the time school starts he will be able to take them out without them getting infected.
2007-10-06 06:26:46 · answer #11 · answered by melme_516 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋