Okay im confused now so i confess to leaving church? how do i put this?
Also i am still with my partner of 7yrs (my daughters father) the only reason we are not married is because i would not get married out of church. more help please
2007-10-06 05:37:11 · 15 answers · asked by nikita k 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well, unless you intend to correct the fact that you are fornicating ( having unmarried sex), you can't go to Confession.
If you plan to get married and give your daughter a committed family, you go to marriage prep with the priest, then you can go to confession beofre the wedding.
In order to make a good confession, one must truly intend to try not to sin again. Unless you move out (or he does) and you intend to avoid sex outside of marriage, you cannot go to confession validly.
2007-10-06 14:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's great that you want to return to the Church, and confessing this in the Sacrament of Reconciliation is not difficult at all. Just tell the priest exactly that - that you are a revert after having left the Church for however long you've been gone. It's that simple. If you are honestly sorry about leaving the Church, and you intend to become an active Catholic again, there's no reason not to confess this to the priest. He will be thrilled to hear testimony from a Prodical Son/Daughter.
If by "still with my partner" means you are living with him then, well, this is a sin. Since you've been together for so long, have a child, and evidently discussed marriage before, you should seriously consider getting married - if that's what both of you want.
What is your partner's objection (if there is one) to marriage in the Catholic Church?
Living together as a married couple, when you are no married is living in sin. If you wish to beocme Catholic, you must be willing to live the best you can be ALL Catholic beliefs and practices.
You have quite the test of Faith to contend with right from the getgo it seems. Whatever choice you make for yourself and your partner, I hope it's the right one.
2007-10-10 05:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by Daver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Is Catholic*
You are rather vague in your question so I cannot tell you if you actually "left the Church". You may have only stopped going to Mass and receiving the sacraments. You really only have left the Church if your formily joined another community or officially left, or officially apostatized. But if you just sort of fell away, you didn't really leave.
First thing is first. Get married. Have a small ceremony and get this done.
Now you can go to Mass right now, but you cannot receive the Eucharist. So do go find a place that is comfortable and then talk to the priest.
Make an appointment to see him. Tell him that you want to return to the Church and that you hope that this appointment will also include a confession.
When you see him, I want you to tell him all about what went wrong, why you left, your problems, and your fears on returning.
When it is time for confession, I want you to have gone through this link and keep the following in mind.
http://wdtprs.com/blog/fr-zs-20-tips-for-making-a-good-confession/
Notice that I am not making a big deal about you "leaving the Church" for that is hardly ever the main issue rather it just a cover for the deeper problem that you had -- that is what should be resolved and confessed in more detail.
2007-10-07 07:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Liet Kynes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your partner simply refuse to get married in the Catholic Church? What are his reasons? He does not have to convert to Catholicism in order for you two to be married in the Church, but you two wll have to attend catholic marriage preparation courses, and make a promise to raise your children in the Catholic Faith.
Is your partner willing to get married in a non-Catholic Church? If so, talk to the local Parish Priest about obtaining "Dispensation of Canonical Form," which means that your non-Catholic marriage will be recognized by the Church. In order for this to happen, you two will still have to attend catholic marriage preparation, and you will have to promise that you will raise your children in the Catholic Faith. If your are able to go this route, you can fall back into good graces with the Catholic Church, go to Confession, and attend mass and receive communion.
Obviously, the first option is the ideal situation that would allow you to return to the Faith.
Sometimes Catholics must bear a Cross, or be martyred in a little way, for the Faith. This might be the case for you. Who do you love more? Jesus or the man with whom you had a child out of wedlock?
2007-10-08 09:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not confuse legal marriage with religious marriage.
In our society, we have legal marriage which is a contract between two people. It basically provides legal rights.
Religious marriage is also between two people usually a man and a women. It basically provides religious rights.
Religious marriages are also legal marriages because the states allows priests/ministers the power to perform legal marriage.
Having said all that, you getting married in or out of the Roman Catholic Church is not the issue. Any marriage is recognized by the Roman Catholic Church but it is not a sacrament. Having another marriage perform in a Roman Catholic is a sacrament, not a legal or religious marriage as described above.
As long as you are unwed, you have the option of getting married in the Roman Catholic Church according to their rules.
Answer: You have not left "the church" if you believe that Catholic marriage is the only marriage. You and your partner need to reexamine your relationship with each other and as a family.
2007-10-06 05:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by J. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no guide to confession. Be honest about why you did, if you're sorry, which I assume you are or else you wouldn't be asking about it, then say so. Is your partner willing to get married in the Church? Talk to a priest, start the counseling to get married, and don't wait! For situations like this, assuming you are fairly knowledgeable about the Church, a priest can expedite counseling so you can be married sooner rather than later.
2007-10-06 05:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll assume that your partner will not become catholic. If he doesn't have a problem with being catholic then talk to him about how you feel. Marriage outside of the church in a civil ceremony is not the end of the world. If you are concerned about your soul,consider that your daughter was born out of wedlock. Speak to your pastor. Is your daughter baptized? What about communion and confirmation? What will you do when that time comes?
2007-10-06 05:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage license is a piece of paper issued to you by your County Recorders office, if you don't have that, your not married even if you do the ritual in a church. I doubt you can get married in a Catholic Church now since you had sex outside of marriage with a non-catholic. Select another church, Lutheran is possible and they don't believe its necessary to confess one sins to another person, just to God.
2007-10-06 05:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by Marcus R. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're living with your partner and you have a sexual relationship without being married then you are not permitted to receive the sacraments. You could confess and remain celibate with your partner but that doesn't seem very practical. If you want to return to the Church, you and your partner have to marry in it. Me Former Catholic
2007-10-06 05:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by Yogini 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as quickly because of the fact the Roman Catholic Church stops worshiping mary and returns to following Jesus in basic terms! in basic terms then will any actual Born lower back Christian step foot into the corrupted Roman Catholic Church!
2016-10-21 05:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋