Here is my situation, I am living here with my mom, I have been for the past year, well I do not want to be here anymore and then I asked her if I could live back with my dad and she said no and that she is going to be taking my dad to court and that I would have to live with her anyway and so I said that I had a say in where I want to live, and so she was basically like, yes you have a say in want goes on but you would not be living with your grandparents, (because that’s whose house I would be staying at if I go back to Florida, because my dad does not have a house because he is a truck driver.) anyway and she also said that she would win because she is my parent and they are not. So basically I am being held here agents my will and it’s very, very hard to wake up every morning because I miss my family and I am not happy at all and I have thought of killing my self because I do not like it here. So what do I do?
2007-10-06 05:20:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
at least you have a roof over your head and a parent that loves and cares for you very much. my daughters friend lost her house and the entire family is living in a motel. the father does not work and the mother just has a 1 year old baby that she breast feeds, and she is constantly leaving because she is an airline attendant. they only have 1 car that is broken down more than running, and when she leaves to go on trips she takes the car. did i mention that a few weeks ago she left for a trip with the car, and left no money, no diapers, and no breast milk for the baby? this is 2 adults and 3 children all under the age of 16 living in a motel. count your blessings. be thankful for what you have. sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side.
2007-10-06 06:46:23 · answer #1 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is hard. I've been through it. Up until you are 18 you have to do what the court says, because its law. When you are 13 the courts won't listen to you, because they see it like you are some whiny kid who isn't getting his way at one house..so you want to move to the others...basically, you are stuck with your mom..which can be fun. Im sure during summer break, and spring break she would let you go and see your family, she can't keep you from your family..that is against the law...especially if your dad has visitation rights. Don't kill yourself, make the most of it, and live life to its fullest.
2007-10-06 12:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Bevin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres what u do when u go to court stand up and say "your honor my mother is not a healthy enviroment for me" and give your reasons and then say " i would like to get a public defender to help me get to my father" now if ur over 12 yrs old in most states u have a say on which parent u live with . or the other thing u can do is walk up to the judge before or after the hear and explain to him ur postion most family judges are really good ppl . hop that brightens ur day , and if u cant wait that long , see if u can talk to a friends parent and see if they will take u to speak with the judge.
2007-10-06 12:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by djominous20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a way. When your mom takes your dad back to court have your dad petition the courts to let you decide on where you want to live. The jude will take you into his chambers and ask you some questions and if he likes the answers he will let you vice your opinion and eliminating a major hurdles,he will go along with you. Get with your dad and talk to him about it. It may not b easy to do but its not impossible to happen. Good luck
2007-10-06 12:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call it quits. The situation is not good, but don't end your life because of childlike behaviors on your mothers part. Try talking to you grandparents-they are probably you best source of what to do. Is there any one else you can trust? Are there legal aid lawyers where you live? They won't charge you a fee and they will give you lots of legal advice. Ask around without your mom knowing what you are trying to find out. Good luck. Thinking about you. Stay calm and collected-you have what it takes to get yourself where you want to be and things will totally turn around for you.
2007-10-06 12:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kiwi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, killing yourself is not the answer. So go to court. Tell the judge how you feel. Sometimes if you are old enough, the judge will let you make the decision.
2007-10-06 12:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by Laura Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur mom's just afraid t lose u n is hurting even more since u r chosin t b wit other family members rather than her. tell her u miss them n it's not about winning, but about ur welfare. ask her if it's ok t visit them. n killing urself should b the last resort k? just tell her how u feel n that her attitude isn't making it any better
2007-10-06 12:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually the courts do listen to the wishes of the child. SO write to your dad and tell him what you want.
2007-10-06 12:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋