Or do you place the blame for things gone wrong on others, before you've looked inside yourself?
And why?
2007-10-06 03:50:35 · 26 answers · asked by iamnoone 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Uncle Louie....I intended to give you a thumbs up, but I hit the thumbs down by mistake. I am so sorry. I love your answer, and I thank you for taking the time to write one that is so in-depth. Again, my apologies.
2007-10-06 04:42:43 · update #1
Only by identifying your own shortcomings can you hope to improve your life.
It is built in to many (but not all people) to wish to improve themselves.
2007-10-06 03:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am definitely someone to think about what's happened in my life and figure it out. I don't blame others unjustly nor do I "blame" myself. What would be the point in carrying such a burden ? It would be much harder to move forward. I think the key in looking back is to pull all of the good you can from the past and the "good " may just be a lesson you've reluctantly learned from it. If you can do that then you've taken a negative and turned it into something positive that may help you or enable you to help others down the road.
I have to say that I am a bit of a private person as well so i wouldn't necessarily talk to just anyone about my overall shortcomings. I enjoy a very open relationship with those I am close to and have met a rare few where things were so open right from the start. With these people I would openly discuss anything that came to mind.
If it were an immediate situation , maybe something that happened at work ... I have no problem admitting when I am wrong but I have run into people that seem completely unable to do that and have consequently suffered because of their lies. In these situations my immediate reaction is disgust and anger because it makes no sense to me .(I try to turn my reaction around very quickly). Life is too short to build it on lies but in the end I know it's not my problem.I can't control the actions of others. I've been truthful , I have nothing to hide and the snow always melts !
Take care : )
2007-10-06 04:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I am comfortable admitting my own flaws - it's part of what makes me "Me". As for laying blame, I try to access the whole situation first and determine whether or not I DO have blame in it. If I do, then I do what I can to make it right. Now, most of the time one can't make the situation go away, but the very least I own up to what I did and (IF I feel like it) apologize. There are certain situations where I am, definitely, to blame... but I did it on purpose and don't plan on apologizing. Depends on the situation.... I am VERY Stubborn when I want to be =) Just one of my shortcomings.
2007-10-06 06:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by River 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I look at how my life and how things turned out, somethings in my life are a result of others, but I have to get over that now and realize that I can take it from here and work on those shortcomings. Some things are just from myself and I know that- I can go crazy when I get andry over something, I didn't get that from anyone else but myself!
It is my life and things are ultimately up to me, I can either take responsibility for things whether I feel that they are there from myself or others, and change or stay the same way and blame others. I think I'll just try to change...
But, only that person can change, you cannot change other people if they do not want to.
2007-10-06 03:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I freely admit my short comings to myself. I freely admit them also to others, but if i am being attacked at the time for them it is harder to admit these shortcomings.
I look internally a lot, and sure i also lay the blame at the feet of other people or incidents but i do try to take responsibility for myself and my actions. Somedays I want to blame everybody but me but that feeling doesn't last for long.
I am here to grow as a person, spiritually, emotionally & intellectualy. Can I really grow if I don't recognise my own short-comings. There is a fine line though between admitting my own shortcomings and putting mysle f down. I try to be constructive when analysing myself.
2007-10-09 23:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Opalfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very good question, indeed!!
Some of the things in my life that have gone wrong were the direct result of stupid decisions that I made.
Then again, there have been times when I had quite a bit of help!
As I've gotten older, I've become more comfortable with looking inside of myself to see how I went wrong, and how I could have done it better...until it has gotten as comfortable as a pair of old sneakers. (And just as stinky!)
I think it is a part of the maturing process. At least, it has been for me.
But then, I've always been rather "laid back"...I can accept that I am not perfect, without having to "make excuses" for every slip-up.
I do believe that knowing that God loves me just the way I am does help me accept myself, while at the same time inspires me to keep working on myself to make me the best person I can be. (I want to be the person my grandkids think I am!)
2007-10-06 04:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think my placing blame is one of my shortcomings but I notice when I'm doing it and say "of course I'm just saying this because I don't want to take responsibility for it."
There's something liberating about addressing and stating your faults and still being able to love yourself and have others love you :)
As for people who have yet to grow up, they will learn one way or another. Likewise, I don't think that having a "bad childhood" is a good reason to let someone off easy if they commit a crime. There are plenty of people that overcome their trauma and live productive lives.
2007-10-06 03:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lollipop 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no i am very uncomfortable in admitting my shortcoming,
I thing it is a pride thing, and that is something I have to work on.
it is a common joke in the company that I work for, to say "that must have been my assistant" but we laugh about it and know that it was me.
for me it is better to admit that I made a mistake, and own up to it than try to lie about it, the truth is always easier to remember.
looking back on my life, I have made plenty, some because of my pride, others because I didn't know any better.
I was 35 before I started following the leading of the Spirit, and I have not always listened then.
but as I get older, I find that it is better to listen that to regret.
thank you for reminding me to look inside my self, I find that I like me better as i am now, than what I used to be.
2007-10-06 12:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not comfortable about doing it..but I'd admit my own shortcomings before blaming someone else for them.
My dark issues have been formed with help from outside influences. But I was the one who formed them. I can't get rid of them if I don't accept ownership of them.
2007-10-06 03:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm VERY comfortable admitting my own shortcomings. They are mine. I very rarely look to someone else to blame, be it human or divine.
I am the only one responsible for what I think and do. There is no one else to blame or give credit.
2007-10-06 04:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by Rogue Scrapbooker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Are you comfortable with admitting your own shortcomings, and why?" - No, but I still have to because that's who I am. Plus it only makes it worse not standing up to what you did.
Also as a parent I must teach my son, by example/deed as well as in words. My parents are this way, and I do not ever want to embarrass my parents/family.
2007-10-06 11:37:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋