13 years old...having girl troubles...?

Question

I am 13 years old (male), almost 14 (in a few months), and in 8th grade. I have a little crush on a 7th grader, 12, almost 13. My main thing is this. She likes another guy, not tons, but not just a little. I think she has taken a liking to me a little, although she might not conciously know it.
She is in the same band class as me, and she is in percussion with me, and 6 other morons. This is the only time we are together throughout the day, besides walking through halls. I don't think it would be right to say 'hey' to her in the halls tho, because I barely know her

What I've been trying to do is help her with stuff she needs (eg. when she is tuning the timpani by herself, I go over there and tell her that I'll hit the not while she tunes). I also try and make some jokes with her. She seems to enjoy it.

Here are my questions:
What are my chances of stealing her from the guy she likes, assuming the following. (please don't call me concieted because this is from what I've been told)
I am relatively good looking 7-8/10
I am extremely funny...most people can't stop laughing while they are around me, however, I can be serious as well, if I want to be. (good thing, bad thing?)

Also, what else should I do to try and get her? Suggestions?

"Dont think its gunna b serious cuz its not ...Sorry to be the bearer of bad new but its true!"
hahahahahahahahaha! You've never been to my school, apparently!!! Lotsa relationships everywhere...I know some people in my grade that have been dating since 6th grade and they go on dates like once a week. (and make out in the halls...when teachers ain't looking)

Answer 1

Just keep doing what you are doing but lets say wendesday tell her she looks nice today, flatter her a little bit each day with comments like that, but only do 1 or 2 a day and maybe skip saying it every 2 days so it dont seem wierd and after a while she will start flirting back with you, if she doesnt or even if she does ask her if you want to hang out after school or something. Then you two can have some time alone together and you can start to devolp a relationship.

If you do all of that you should be able to win her over from the other guy (who prolly doesnt have any interest in her) and you will prolly date her.

Best of luck

Answer 2

You know, this really scared me at first when I read this because this is almost EXACALLY the situation I am in. I was even in band with her and I was playing precussion! I am in 8th grade, almost 14 and she is in 7th grade. Just about the only differences are that I am not in band any more and I have no idea who she likes. Well, here's my advice. You really don't need to be having a girl friend right now, and the chances are that she isn't ready either. Personally, I don't think that kids should start dating unti they are about 15 or so. But just in case that doesn't change your mind, I'll try and give you a few tips even though I'm not doing so well either. If she plays any sports or does anything that you could go and watch and support her for, then go. For example, you are both in band. If you weren't in band though then you could go and watch her perform just to support her. Then after what ever it is that you went to is over, be sure to tell her that she did a good job. To answer your question though, funny is very good. Especially when you can get serious when you want to. Good looking doesn't hurt either. Just try being her friend before trying to be anything more. Then at least you will have something to go off of if you ever do date her. Good luck whith this.

Answer 3

It's pretty obvious that she doesn't really know what she wants. You're both at that age where you want a relationship but don't understand the gravity of an adult relationship. I personally wouldn't have a relationship at your age. Just think about it. I realize that hormones are raging and that you want to date but you don't have to. I waited until I was 21 and I'm so glad i did that. I'm a serious dater and while a lot of people think that you can love no matter what your age (I'm not doubting that) I think that you're too young to try to have a real relationship. That doesn't mean you can't hang out and go out for ice cream and the movies though. If you want to date her then keep doing what you're doing. Do say "hey" to her in the hall. She might not know that much about you, but she at least knows you a little from class.

Answer 4

Seriously: all these answers are the same as everywhere else and match each other. But advice from me:
When tuning the timpani, take longer than usual, and when she says, "its ok i can just do it myself" insinst on doing it, keep taking forever until she implores again, repeat. When she says, "but why art thou so obseesed with such a trifle?"
you say, "i am"
"but why?"
"i am"
"WHY!"
"BECAUSE I LOVE YOU!"
then you will most likely have the following exchange:
GIRL:
What are you saying?
Does someone really care for me?
YOU:(impetuously)
No one in the world loves you.
GIRL:
No one?
YOU:
No one except me!
GIRL:(laughing)
I had forgotten about your great love for me!
YOU:
Are you mocking me? Have you no heart?
GIRL:
A heart? Perhaps, but why do you ask?
YOU:
Oh, because if you had a heart, you would not joke about this.
GIRL:
Are you serious?
YOU:
I wouldn't deceive you.
GIRL:
Have you loved me for a long time?
YOU:
Yes, for a year.
One happy day, so ethereal, your image appeared before me,
and since that trembling moment, I have secretly loved you.
It is a love that throbs like the entire universe, bringing mysterious pain and ecstasy to my heart.
GIRL:
If that's true, then leave me, for I can only offer you friendship! I don't know love, nor want to suffer in heroic amours. I must tell you frankly and genuinely, that you won't receive arduous love from me. So find another and forget me.
No more talk of love then. Agreed?
YOU:
I'll do whatever you say. I'm leaving.
GIRL:
You're leaving already?
(giving you a flower from her corsage)
Here, take this flower.
YOU:
Why?
GIRL:
To bring it back to me.
YOU:
When?
GIRL:
When it has faded.
YOU:
Tomorrow then?
GIRL:
Very well, tomorrow.
YOU:(excitedly)
I'm so happy!
GIRL:
And do you still say you love me?
YOU:
Oh, I adore you immensely!
GIRL:
You're leaving?
YOU:
Yes I am.
(You kiss her hand)
GIRL:
Goodbye.
YOU:
Could I want anything more?
(You depart)

It always works. Be sure to tell me how it goes.

Answer 5

initially, you've got practically what it takes to do your task.

practically

if you were older you'd know that, the only thing thats keeping you back is your age along with hers. first of, your hitting on a younger girl a grade below you under the eyes of teachers and supervisors. not good, you may not care, but school is a place to keep a proper image. second about your age, you're 13, as well as your friends. its hard because at 13 i dont think anyone is really looking for love, at least not as seriously as others.

*sigh*

but if you really wanna "steal" (gawd that was so kiddy XP) her from him, be the more mature person. you say you're funny, good looking, your set for about anyone i guess. she's 12...so maybe not her boyfriend, but be a good friend for her because when she gets older (hopefully 13 i guess) she'll begin to wonder who she has a potential boyfriend

good luck

Answer 6

Im 12 and i normally only like guys i know pretty well. Get to know her better say hey wuts up? And sa hey in the hallways or whos class do u have next and then if u had that te acher last year say oh i had her i like that class or something. Ask her if she likes band or something. Anything 2 start up a convo like wasnt that funny in band when.........
HOpe THat HElpS!!

Answer 7

It sounds like you're doing the right thing. It's perfectly acceptable to greet her in the hall. She's likely waiting for you to begin doing just that, and she may be as shy as you are. And if she remains interested in her current friend, you may find that things have changed in a few months. She's going through as many changes as you are at this point.

Bear in mind that you may find the pursuit to be more fun than winning.

Answer 8

It never hurts to say "hey" in the halls, with a smile! You could ask her to join you for lunch and talk about music that you like. You could ask her to help you pick out a gift for your mother or sister (girls love to shop and give advice) at the mall. If you keep being funny and friendly and smiling, she will like you more and more.

Answer 9

hmerugh.. just be yourself. But do you really wnat a relationship? I mean, I'm in 8th grade too, and high school could be a big problem if you guys do date, and shee's stuck in middle school.
But anyway, just talk to her a bit more. Just carry out a conversation. See where it goes.
Good luck!

Answer 10

Please ...dnt rush da relationship ...Buddy you got da rest of dis yr. nd den you gunna be in HS.....she is just "practice" ...so just flirt alot ..eye contact ..look at her and smile. dont say anytin just look at her and smile... wen she looks ova give a head nod dnt let your friends kno just keep it b/w you and her..

Dont think its gunna b serious cuz its not ...Sorry to be the bearer of bad new but its true!

Good luck
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