When my son was just a little boy< I use to put hidden notes, in his backpack some morning reminding him how much I loved him. I did that so that what ever he may face at school, he would get that extra support of love from me< cause of course I could not be there in his classes with him. But I was there in thought. And when I would pick him up from school. he would have this huge smile, and he would say I got your note. So to me that meant that, he read it and remembered what I said.
2007-10-06 01:51:40 · 5 answers · asked by Deborah S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Listening to what the child says without interrupting or constantly correcting also helps. It tells them that you are interested in what they say, regardless of how they say it.
2007-10-06 02:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have done is great ! Aside from that, if in the event that a kid is already studying, it is a must that parents will ask their children about their school activities and what they have done upon reaching home since usually parents are both working. From that chitchat, parents and the kids still have open communication so just in case their children have problems, parents can guide them or give them tips in advnace how to react in diff situations. Also, parents must learn to childrens' story and not to act as too strict because the more they become strict, the more tendency that their children will be more secretive.
2007-10-06 02:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by chrizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a nice sentiment... I'm assuming that your son is a teenager now? Well, if he is that age is a bear with boys as well as girls. It can seem as though you are talking to a brick wall.. To keep communication open, instead of talking "at" your son it's best to talk to you son.. If you rarely eat dinner as a family start- sitting and eating opens up the table for discussion. Ask about school, teachers, extra curricular activites.. Want to get involved... Instead of taking a "parental" tone soften it up and ask questions about what your son does who his friends are and things of that nature... Have your son invite his friends over for pizza/soda so you can see him interact with them. Just let them know that he can talk to you about anything and you won't get mad at least at that second... Give yourself the 24 hour rule where if you discusses something "big" with you that you won't fly off the handle for at least 8 hours? Something like that ..... good luck
2007-10-06 01:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sitting down for a meal together with the answering machine on and the TV off is a great opportunity for our family to talk things over. I love hearing my daughter say "Mommy, can I tell you something?" I stop what I'm doing and give her my full attention.
2007-10-06 01:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lyn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(1)Be receptive
(2)Be attentive
(3)Be kind at the same time be firm
(4)Descend to his level to make him at ease
(5)Spend time with him
(6)Make him feel that he is important to you
(7)Do-not let him down before others
(8)Encourage his good activities
(9)behave with him in such a manner that he develops confidence in you
finally(10)give him gifts at regular intervals
2007-10-06 07:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by pavamana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋