I am looking for husband on line. The guy interested in me is 50,I am 53. He calls me all the time,from Canada, I am in USA.
He is willing to buy me air ticket to come and meet him. It has been about 2 weeks. He has not sent his photo. He is separated and says it is about 4 months for divorce to lagalise.
What do you think? Should I go to see him or ask him to see me? Is it a good idea,safe to see a "separated man"? What should be the correct suitable solution? The reason is that he seems suitable for me,except that he is SEPARATED RIGHT NOW. What precautions should I take? Should I tell him that I can see him only after he is divorced?
I need your help how to pursue this relationship safely and truly.
2007-10-06 01:05:06 · 6 answers · asked by Amina L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should tell him you want to wait till his divorce is final...and thats final....
2007-10-06 01:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Oldmansea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't know if what he is telling you is the truth or not. Be very careful. Have him meet you and make sure you have friends around the first time Do not let him stay at your place. If he can afford a plane ticket for you, he can afford a place to stay when he gets here. Tell him you think it best the first time. Check on the Internet at all the horror stories and you will agree. He could be on the up and up but it sounds suspicious that he hasn't sent a pic. Can you call him at home anytime you wish? This would be a sign that he really isn't attached. Ask for his home phone # and see what he says.
2007-10-06 01:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jodi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you just be careful. If you are having to ask opinions here then I think you should consider it more. I have a friend that if he offered me this and if the circumstances were right, I would be there. I would never ask anyone's opinion because I trust this person completely.
It sounds to me like you do not totally trust this person to whom you are referring. Maybe by the time his divorce is final you might be more sure?
You should probably meet him in a public place until you are more sure?
Again be careful no matter what choice you make
2007-10-06 01:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by FallenAngel© 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact he is only seperated is bad yes...But more importantly for you at this point..is no pic...only two weeks?
HOney, there are to many men you can see upfront..are single..and you won't need to ask questions of trust about..to settle for this one...
2 weeks and already trust issues! I would say..that is your answer there!
The best precaution you can take..is to be selective..and be demanding of only the best for yourself...expect a good man for yourself....the old seperated line..has been so beaten to death..im sure even in Canada!
YOu need a man you can say..oh he is this and that..NOT I wonder if he is this and that!
Pursue a better relationship...I bet you know you should!
GOod luck to you..plz be safe..i promise waiting is worth it!
Blessing to you,
Rue
2007-10-06 01:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by Unitsi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get ahold of you when everything if final. He could be married, and trying to have an affair. Protect yourself, and when the divorce is done, tell him to come to your city, at least you will be on safe ground. What happens after that only time will tell. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve.
2007-10-06 01:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should tell him to wait til his divorce is final and if hes still interested then he should give u another call.Goodluck
2007-10-06 01:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋