my mom is in assisted living only because of diabetes management and other meds. my brother had a b-day get together at a local restaurant and everyone was invited except my mom and me and we all live within 5 miles. we didnt find out until after the fact and my mom was told it was no big deal that it was no big thing and also it was her responsibility to ask if there was to be a get together b/c she is his mother..please help with some answers as i have to deal with this situation to try to keep her from feeling hurt.
2007-10-06 00:43:07 · 11 answers · asked by lisa W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her to cut him from her will as he is thoughtless to other's feelings. and I'm sure she raised him better than that.
2007-10-06 00:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by kimba 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a nasty little man. I take it he is a grown up? Fully adult? Does he need his mammy to tuck him in at night and wake him with some eggy cup and toast soldiers in the morning? No is the answer i guess.
I would speak to some other relatives and get them to speak to your bro and explain what a dumb *** he is being. Then mamy can get an invite and never needs to know what a heartless son she has.
He sounds very immature. If you can emotionally blackmail him or get his wife to do it because ive found with people like that no amount of serious talking will work. But your mum probs knows what he's like.
good luck
2007-10-06 00:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by plucknhammer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off it was not her responsibility to ask, second your brother is a jerk. It might not have been a big deal for him, but to his mother it was. That is her child, and it is a celebration of life, and one that she helped make. No matter what you do, or say will not change the fact. Let your brother handle this one, he caused it.
2007-10-06 00:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is going to feel whatever she is going to feel. While you want to protect her, you can't change the world (even your brother) to suit her into a good mood. Accept that she is hurt, angry and saddened. Comfort her the best you know how, and tell your brother (and wife/girlfriend if be it the case, she should have talked sense into him, otherwise, she may have cojoled him into NOT inviting either of you) that what he did STUNK, and he should be formulating an apology to his mother for his inconsiderate actions.
Above all, TELL him that you forgive him (Jesus calls us to it) for excluding you. That whatever reason he did not want you or mom there, you would hope he make it known and forgive you two. (Jesus calls him to it)
2007-10-06 01:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i was your mom i would be hurt to. Its not her place to ask if you are having a b-day get together, you should ask her in the first place she is your mom. No matter how old you get you are still her child and what you do or dont do hurts her very much
2007-10-06 00:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by redishong 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop the hurt she felt, you can tell your brother that he is a selfish and insensitive idiot. What he did was cold and mean, and then to try to put the blame on her that just shows you how selfish and shallow he is. My son did something simular so when it came to his b-day i ignored him and gave him a piece of what he did to me. He didn't like it, but it made him realize what he was doing. Someone need to inform your brother that no matter what she is still his mom and his behavior is disgusting.
2007-10-06 00:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Moe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, I'm sorry this happened to you & your mum, i think it was way out of order, i'm not sure how you can prevent you mum from being hurt, because i know how i would feel,but i feel she is very lucky to have someone like you that cares about her feeling's, if poss why not treat your mum out for a meal ,and sod the rest of then your the one's that matter, and it 'their loss not inviting you, hope thing's turn out o.k. susie
2007-10-06 00:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by susiesnowdrop 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you cant pick your family deal with it the rest of us have to
have a lovely day with your mum , go for a meal or a walk and try to forget about them
2007-10-06 00:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by stacey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your mother out to eat. And invite no one else.
2007-10-06 00:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you ask the people who didn't invite you?
2007-10-06 00:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Laeticia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋