whats the best time to leave between kids, we want a second and my little girl is two in november?

Answer 1

i would start straight away because the girls at work would be well chuffed and you want them to be close so i think you should start tonight hun

Answer 2

The best time is really up to you.
Close in age has its pros and cons. Such as both in diapers-line them up and change them. Nap time schedule-try and put on the same schedule but kids are different (so good luck). Playing and getting things will not always be FAIR. They can share the same friends, be best of buddies themselves, maybe able to relate to each other better and have a great sibling relationship. They may be very competitive with each other, get into fights often (happens with all siblings no matter what age difference).

Far apart in age also has its pros and cons. Large age difference, you do not have to worry about both needing a nap, diaper changing for two, lugging all the extras around x2 (stroller,car-seats, bottles, diaper bag, etc.). The first child is old enough to help get items for you. Is a little more understanding about the extra attention that a baby needs and loves to help giving the extra attention as well (in hopes that it will quiet the younger sibling, lol). They will not have to be competitive. Will not have to worry about sharing friends. The younger child will get a lot of help and advice from the older one. Will get along great together.
The main contributing factor here is how you will be raising your children and what works best for you. Good Luck and hope it all works out in whichever you both decide to do.

Answer 3

I don't think there is a cprrect answer for this...is my opinion if you feel ready and feel like its right then go ahead...I'm one of four and I'm 21..got 2 brothers 15 and 12 and a sister who's 8...there's 13 years between me and my sister and sometiems I wish it was a shorter age gap but most of the time I'm happy with it....I'm 21(22 wen baby comes) and 5months pregnant with my first child and my boyfriend is 24 (25 wen baby comes) and we've decided that we want to have r second child when our first is about 3 and starting nursery...I'd like them to have a close age gap but I'm goin to make sure I do everything to make sure I don't get pregnant straight after my first lol but hey lets see if everything sticks to plan...I think your daughter is at the right age to have a brother/sister cos in 9months times she will be a lot older and she'll love to help and will learn responisibilities and because she is that much older she has a little more independence and won't need constant attention leaving more time to be focused on the newborn! good luck xxxx

Answer 4

There is no right answer, but you may wish to consider the following:

Do you want to avoid having to get a double buggy?

Do you mind having 2 in nappies at the same time?

Do you want them to be able to play together and with each other's friends?

The gap between my 2 boys is 3 years and 3 weeks. I find this to be perfect and wouldn't change it. They are close enough in age to be good friends, and to argue, of course :o). But they are not so close in age that they are competitive, and when I had a new baby, the older one was old enough to be a little more sensible than if I had had them closer together.

Answer 5

My little girl Natalie is 3 in November and our second little girl is due 2 weeks before. I'm hoping the age gap they will have is good, Natalie is potty trained and feeds herself all her meals and is quite independant which is always good, at the same time is also young enough to relate to her younger sister and for them to play together when they're a bit bigger and I know Natale will look after her little sister perfectly. So I would say go for it now!! Good luck

Answer 6

Ive got a 10-9-7 year old the 2 youngest get on like a House on fire id say 2 years is good timing

Answer 7

There is really no right time it depends on your lifestyle and everyone is different. I have two years 9 months between mine but found 2.9 years tricky as my son wasnt at nursery yet and was still going through terrible twos etc. Also mobility wise he was still very slow walking going to shops etc and he had to grow up quickly as couldnt take him in the push chair any longer. Looking back i felt it was a shame for him and a bigger gap would have been better.
My other gap was five years and much better as my older child was more independent, out of nappies etc and was able to amuse themselves more. They also have greater awareness / understanding of needs of baby and it is easier and safer to get them to help out with new baby. I found greater amount of jealousy with 2.9 month gap and i had to watch older child constantly as didnt understand he couldnt pick baby up himself etc.

Answer 8

From my experience with my family and friends I would say 2 years apart is perfect. They can still hang out with each other and there isn't to much of an age gap between!

Answer 9

i have a 5 year age gap with my 2 n i found it easy with 1 at school n out of nappies pulse the older 1 can help out with the younger 1

Answer 10

well most people leave one year gap i.e 1, 3...
Some leave two 1, 4
I left none 3,4 but waiting 4 yrs for next , was originally gunna be two but stuff happened

My Sisters: eldest 38, 37 - 34, 33 - me 24 and my lil sis 23

Answer 11

I think its the right time to have another one now because they will be quite close in age so they wont get lonely, as i know my friend has a brother who is 17 and she is only 9 so she has no one to hang round with.