The proper answer is yes, but only if you allow it to. You are ultimately in control of your own feelings and actions. The best thing to remember is to learn from all that happens in life, and use it to your advantage later in life.
2007-10-05 23:46:51
·
answer #1
·
answered by tom 3
·
1⤊
0⤋
Simple answer: No, it cannot. You are in charge of your own happiness.
Complex answer: although in charge of your own feelings, and responsible for those, a past event can bring great sadness, which may be very difficult to overcome. If the event was strong enough, it could alter the chemistry of the brain, and that would need to be corrected before you'd have a chance of coming out depression.
Generally, most people will be only, "sad," about something bad. Grieve over it, then with time, let go of it. The event will not be forgotten, but time takes your further away, so it doesn't hurt so much.
The old saying that time heals all wounds is totally incorrect. It only puts distance between you and the event. If you need help in overcoming unhappiness, seek counseling. Don't try to take on something which may require more skills than you have. A counselor can help.
So, "No," a past event can only make you unhappy if you don't or can't find a way to overcome it. There are people who care and will help you.
2007-10-06 07:14:06
·
answer #2
·
answered by Bob T 2
·
0⤊
0⤋
Yes if you allow it to, it doesn't have to be a major trauma either, one thoughtless remark, can damage our confidence, so much so, that everything we try to do or attain can be tainted by whatever has been done, or said in the past, our self esteem can become so fragile, that every new venture is doomed to fail, even before it's begun, compounding the lack of confidence, bringing real unhappiness, and sometimes clinical depression!
the worst thing you can say to a person suffering in this way is, pull yourself together, or get a grip, or some other useless inane advice!
Emotional support, and sometimes professional counseling, is the only answer, if a person received a physical wound of some kind, then they would go to hospital for treatment, after the wound healed, it would probably leave a scar, I believe it's very similar with the mind, whatever event causes the damage, or wound, without treatment, they simply don't heal, and even when they do, they leave a scar! Unfortunately we have a memory, and it never forgets past slights and trauma, how the individual deals with those memories, is I believe the key to successfully coping with the knocks we all have to take in life!
2007-10-06 06:35:27
·
answer #3
·
answered by speedboat 3
·
1⤊
0⤋
Without doubt a single moment can alter your life forever and can make you unhappy or certainly put an edge on your life. Speaking from experience there was one moment 8 years ago when I went to the bedroom to collect some washing and found my little one blue in his cot having only put him down to sleep 10 minutes before that has changed me forever. He suffered a cot death. Before that moment I was laughing and singing and having a wonderful time, after that, certainly for the next few months is an abyss.
With the right support you can smile again so maybe you aren't 'unhappy' for the rest of your life, but you never look at things the same way again. I was fortunate with friends and family who helped me through but its always with me, a catastrophic moment like that is with you in your mind and replays over and over.
For some yes, it does make them unhappy forever. Imagine if you lost your entire family in one moment, you may smile again but maybe you would be so caught up in that that you can never cope - some to the point of taking their own lives so in that aspect yes, it would make you unhappy for the rest of your life. Speaking for myself if I hadn't had a loving husband and two beautiful children to live for maybe I wouldn't have been able to keep going. Others are just lonely and miserable but live out a natural lifetime.
As for happy forever, well, I'm not so sure about that. What do you classify as 'happy'? Constantly in a state of joy? Then no, life will always through spanners in the works no matter how perfect your life is. One moment can bring happiness into your life forever - say you meet your soulmate - that moment will mean that potentially for the rest of your life you have happiness in it, but life is never going to be one long bed of roses.
Sorry for the depressing post, but you did ask ;-)
2007-10-06 06:57:25
·
answer #4
·
answered by Amanda W 2
·
2⤊
0⤋
I guess it would have to depend on the person. Some people can find humor in a heart attack, others wouldn't smile if they won the lottery. I've taken paths that I would have bet $ on, that they were wise and sure directions to where I was supposed to go in life. Yet sure enough that one word pops out of my mouth a couple days later. "Ooops"! Some paths you can just back up and start in the correct way, but others there are no returns, no refunds. You made your bed so-to-speak. At that moment in time, that exact moment, you have a new choice. Accept and make the most of it, or sit and stew in pity and self degradation. Truthfully I stew for about 10 seconds, then poke fun at myself for being a dweeb and start to modify the bad move with as much damage control as I can, whistling a tune the whole time. No use being unhappy, it won't make the journey any better. Reminds me of a book I read a long time ago called "Pilgrims Progress by John Bunyan". Cute reading but I have to warn you, it has religious references so tightly packed throughout, that you are probably going to walk away from it.
2007-10-06 08:50:31
·
answer #5
·
answered by delux_version 7
·
1⤊
0⤋
yes, a single moment in time, my death of my mum and dad makes me feels unhappy for the rest of my life. Happy forever? not yet come.....
2007-10-06 06:55:04
·
answer #6
·
answered by LadyAnis 4
·
1⤊
0⤋
The moment I got married (first marriage) made me unhappy from that point forward.
Nearly 9 years later I got divorced. That moment made me happy.
A few years after that I re-married. I've been happy ever since.
2007-10-06 06:45:56
·
answer #7
·
answered by T J 6
·
0⤊
0⤋
Yes, in my experience, and im only in early teens!, one moment can ruin the rest if your life, unless you have good friends and try your hardest to forget about it and move on, and look on the bright side, just be optimistic! and don't be unhappy forever, you only live once....
2007-10-06 06:36:10
·
answer #8
·
answered by Anonymous
·
1⤊
0⤋
Oh yes, it can. "Happy forever" is an ideal state, practically impossible to achieve. In fact, that's life and that's life's fate. It is so easy so "reach" / "find" that particular single moments that ruin our happiness, unbelievable...all we have 2 do is to fight for us, and live on. Changes come to all of us.....
2007-10-06 07:44:58
·
answer #9
·
answered by farhire 3
·
0⤊
0⤋
It can make you sad periodically, but as others have said, you have long term control. A perceived moment in the future could possibly make you happy for ever. I'm more into "now" anyway. I think I have a crush on your brain! : ) peace
2007-10-06 07:58:41
·
answer #10
·
answered by Pilgrim Traveler 5
·
0⤊
0⤋