Hi,
I have just taken a pregnancy test and I am pregnant! God I am so scared.
I been feeling sicky in mornings but put it down to a bug I thought was going around. I went food shopping yesterday and bought a home pregnancy test ...
Then I taken it about 30 mins ago and it positive and now I crying as so scared!
I lost a little boy in 2004 whilst 18 weeks pregnant.
I too scared to tell boyfriend as he wants no kids yet.
Stupid me.
Lx
2007-10-05 23:13:28 · 33 answers · asked by SunshineApple 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I know you are all right and I do need to tell him but how ... do I make it special like wrapping up the pregnancy test or is it more a sit down I got something to tell you and make it seem a problem thing.
I want the baby but scared he will force me to get rid of it if he not ready for children.
2007-10-05 23:19:16 · update #1
BTW the baby I lost was when I was in a relationship with my EX boyfriend ... my present partner and I have had no kids or pregnancies.
2007-10-05 23:21:58 · update #2
......condoms.
2007-10-05 23:15:30 · answer #1 · answered by Emily 4 · 0⤊ 6⤋
Okay, it's a shock. I had a similar thing happen, with my 3rd child, but one I was never planning on having. And I cried. And I was too frightened to tell my husband.
I got a daddy card, wrote a short note in and held my breath. I let him open it in private, so that he could react how he needed to. It took him a few days, but he was fine.
Why did you lose your last baby? If it was because you weren't taking proper care, you can start today. If was just nature, then that baby wasn't supposed to be born and there's no reason to suggest this one won't be fine. If it was a nedical problem, get to your doctor ASAP and take every scrap of advice.
When the shock wears off, I expect you will find you already love this little life and you will manage and enjoy it - whether your partner decides to or not. If he loves you, he will come round to the idea, even if it doesn't click immediately. And don't beat yourself up - it takes two to make a baby!
Good luck - I really hope it works out. Keep us posted!
2007-10-05 23:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by jo :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you are NOT stupid for being pregnant. You do need to see your doctor as soon as possible to make sure everything goes well this time.
I would suggest you tell your boyfriend soon, even if he does not want children, the fact is, he is going to be a father. I am sure you would rather raise your child together, but if your bf is not happy about your pregnancy, he may walk away leaving you to bring up baby alone. If this happens, it is not the end of the world and help is available out there.
Congratulations, you are going to be a mum.
2007-10-05 23:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by cadenza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all try sitting down and coming to grips with the fact that you are pregnant and you need to think carefully about who your going to tell fist your partner or your parents? it is reall y scary when you find out your pregnant especially when you did not think you were. you and your partner need to sit down and talk through how you both feel about bringing a baby into the world as its a big comitment. you did noy say how old you both are? or if you work full time it all depends on your circumstances and how much a baby will change the way you live now. good luck whatever you choose to do.
2007-10-05 23:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
at the first place.. both of your did it right?, even if you dont want it the fact is your having a baby. And it is a wonderful blessing. Dont be afraid, the things you are expriencing now is normal. Dont forget to go to a doctor for check ups. its very important. Dont cry it affects your baby.. try relax and look in the positive side. Always tell yourself that you are a strong, responsible and loving woman. as for you boyfriend better talk to him.. now. as in NOW> you have to make decisions for you future , together ok? He loves you right? so do it. and go for it.. Hope I helped.. God bless..
2007-10-05 23:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by einra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have anyone you can talk to apart from your boyfriend? I think if you explain it to him the way you have to us he should understand and if he doesn't then would you want children with this man anyway? Unplanned pregnancies happen all the time and it is not your fault, becoming pregnant takes two people, he has as much responsibility! You need to talk to your doctor to set your mind at rest r.e. the previous miscarraige and you need to talk to your mum or friend about how you feel if you really can't talk to your boyfriend, I really hope everything works out for you xxx
2007-10-05 23:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by Yoyo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK listen to me.
BREATHE. Take a deep breath in, let your body get the needed oxygen, and take a deep breathe out, remove all the anxiety and worry. Repeat 5 times.
Second. You are not stupid. Ok. Youre not stupid. Never berate yourself, you havent committed a federal offense.
Third, I want to extend my condolences to your miscarriage. They are just truly unfortunate events.
Now lets get onto business.
When guys say they dont want kids....they dont want kids. And when a guy says they dont want kids...run in the opposite direction if there is even an ounce of maternal desire in your soul. Because the 2 dont combine. When a woman is ready to have a baby, shes ready. No man can come between that. However, a man who doesnt want children that is coupled with a woman who does, is a relationship that is so detrimental to the health and welfare of mom and baby.
Lets start on the most obvious. Get rid of him. Now. He cant bully you if you stand up for yourself and your desire. Its your body, your baby, your decision. Even if he is the sperm donor. Big deal. There are men out there, lots of good men, who would love to be a dad, who dont discriminate against women with children.
However, until you get a hold on your self-worth and self-esteem problems, you will never meet those men. You will only attract jerks and losers, because thats how you view yourself. So stop it, right now. Stop degrading yourself, stop thinking your worthless, and stupid, and no good. You are none of that.
You should NEVER be scared of a man, let alone a boyfriend/husband. When that emotion of fear courses through your veins, thats your soul's way of saying "Get outta there, he is NOT the one for you" A good man doesnt make you scared, he makes you feel secure.
And good men arent hard to find....you just have to be in a state of mind and spirit that is ready to receive that kind of love, because the Universe sends us what we send out, its a mirror.
There are many good resources out there that can help support you through this time, to get you and your baby ready for labor and delivery.
I can tell you, the absolute worst thing you can do is to stay with this guy, because if he doesnt force you to abort, you will miscarry, or worse, the baby will pick up on everything, and why do that to a child? In the womb, a fetus hears everything that goes on. And when there is a situation of great stress, such as yours, potential domestic violence, it causes actual changes in the way your baby develops, both biochemically, psychologically and physically. It would be better to raise your child homeless and on the street than in the situation youre in. Seriously.
I dont think this is a bad thing for you. I think this is a wake-up call, the Universe is giving you a big light to say "Get out!" You deserve more than this hell.
Lastly, any man who doesnt want children, wont ever want them....and if they ever change their mind....They will always put the blame on you and the children for "ruining" their life, because these types of men are inherently narcissistic as well as controlling. A man who cant see himself as a father is a man who has issues with his own life and his own problems.
You deserve more.
2007-10-05 23:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by ownlyanangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about the loss on your son but congratulations on your news. There is nothing to worry about here just enjoy this exciting time and share your news with your boyfriend andif he's happy then great and if he isn't well then you'll be fine on your own with your baby that is all that matters.
well done once again hope it all works out x
2007-10-06 09:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by LOUISE P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poo rite ere
Well tell him but dont listen, I was pregs with a kid to a asian guy he wanted me to get rid as he already had one toa girl his own culture that left him with the kid. I was with him two years before this happened. Course now he is with another (dizzy) white girl but has been contactin my mums (after 5 yrs)to get hold of me as I moved down south, and I just blank him off.
It's like why care now weather I had it or not ?! I think he only wants to know cos his current gf wants kids.
I havn't got it due to summat that happened
So yea, tell but keep it
MiSsY XxXx
2007-10-05 23:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by missy k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's just normal..
be sure to be careful.. and also eat lots of fruits and drink lots of milk for the baby's development..
don't worry about your boyfriend ...
it's your life and it's you that is carrying the baby not him..
don't be afraid if he won't accept the baby that only shows that he is a coward..
and if he insists on getting rid of the babby don't let that happen..
you already lost a baby 18 weeks old..
are you ready to lose another baby again?
2007-10-05 23:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by earthship_angel0612 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him NOW and get to a DOCTOR or you are asking for trouble. The problem won't go away by ignoring it. He still has legal resposibilities if he isn't man enough to stay with you. You'll be fine. Act like an adult.
2007-10-05 23:18:16 · answer #11 · answered by hawkinthehouse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋