A friend of mine asked me for to have sex with him because it would "mean the world to him." I do not want to but everytime I turn him down he trys to put me on this guilt trip & basically says i am a bad friend because I wont do this "one thing" for him. He keeps saying that if I were a good friend I would have sex with him because it would mean to alot & make him really happy. All he says is I have no idea how much this would mean to him and that he would do anything for me so I should do anything for him.I really don't feel comfortable with doing anything sexual with him but he wont drop it. In the past he has also tried really low things like saying he is going to killhimself & his last dieing wish is to have sex with me.Thing is he is alot older than I am & I can't help get the feeling that he never had friendship on his mind to begin with. Should I just stay away from this guy?
2007-10-05 22:38:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, I definitely think you should stay away from this guy. No friend should ever ask a question like this - no matter what.
A friendship should be a mutual thing, based on trust & loyalty amongst other things, but nowhere should the issue of sex come into it. Especially when you are being made to feel guilty and under pressure to have sex with this guy. Once sex is brought up, the friendship generally has two places to go to - into a sexual relationship or plain over!
The fact that he is a lot older than you is also worrying. I'm not sure of the ages involved, but really this guy needs to find someone his own age and stop preying on younger girls.
An ex of mine used to use the "i'll kill myself" line on me too so I know how devastating it can be to hear that. The most important thing to remember is that you are in no way responsible for this guy. Any threats he chooses to make or carry out are his own actions and you have no control over them. To say that his last dying wish is to have sex with you is very unhealthy and dangerous. This is a guy who has issues and probably needs help fast.
My advice is to give him a call, explain that your friendship has become too complicated & that you no longer feel comfortable being his friend. Ask him to respect your decision and stop contacting you. Then I think you should tell a responsible adult what has being going on. Having someone looking out for you will make this easier.
2007-10-05 22:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any guy that has to ask for sex is bound to be a lousy lover. If he can't see to it that nature takes it's course and makes you want him so bad you can't stand it, then you certainly don't want to do anything that will give him an opening. (pun there)
This guy is a loser. Get away from him and stay away. The depression / suicide line is as old as mankind. He is trying to say or do anything he can to get your pants off and get his rocks off. What a JERK !
You will have sex when your mind, body, heart, and spirit are ready. Accept nothing less. Tell this moron the sympathy trick won't work with you and go ahead and kill himself so it will be over. Tell him to leave you alone.
2007-10-06 05:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should DEFINITELY stay away from him, unless you want to shortchange an excellent friend for a HIV dispenser.
He is just short of money and want a free lunch. If he really need sex, which is normal, he could go to a sex worker. Instead, he is out there to spoil the friendship.
Never befriend people who do not know the meaning of friendship.
2007-10-06 05:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely no. You should really really really stay away from this guy. He dont have the intention of friendship in the first place. All he wants is just to bed you and you already gave him the many opportunities to get you to the bed by continuingly allowing him to persuade and ask you all those sick requests.
Please wake up. The next time he ask you for such things, and you dont want to do it, reject him . Reject him hardly and make him understand that you dont want to do it. If he doesnt, stay away from him, ignore him. Else, one day, you might really end up in bed with him. Which i dont think that this sort of outcome is something that you wish for.
2007-10-06 07:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kitano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN, DO NOT WALK, RUN AWAY FROM THIS GUY!!! He is a pervert, and a demented soul. Why would he ask for sex if he's your friend? I would strongly suggest a restraining order for this man, since he seems emotionally unstable, and could very well be a stalker. Get yourself as far away from him as possible!!
2007-10-06 05:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by blackmask278 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like the hot potato social deviant that he is. If it is a homosexual thing report it to your parents, school counselor or the police. This guy is a sexual predator and only wants to use you. If he wants to kill himself then it is a problem solved situation. Don't ruin you life because someone can't control their hormones. He can masturbate as many times as it takes to cool down that hormonal drive. Please do not oblige his wishes!
2007-10-06 06:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by Rickity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true friend wont ask u for sex. sex come from mutual understanding n out of the moment. he just using the friendship u n him for his sexual desire n dats all. dnt b taken by him. go far away frm him. n incase he wants to commit suicide ask him to do so as it will do u alot of favour.
2007-10-06 06:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Khai N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right. You should be willing to do this for a friend. I have this really fat, hair-lipped girl who is my friend and she tells me the same things. Even tho I would rather not, I usually give in and it means the world to her. Be a true Friend!
2007-10-07 05:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by amazingcrisswell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would mean the world to me if you slapped him for trying to pressure you to have sex with him. True friends won't make you do something you're not ready for.
2007-10-06 06:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by h1u4sxda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends like that are not friends..... and if he would do anything than he can stop asking and thinking about it! Run and get away from him no matter what he tries do not feel guilty for his sick ways
2007-10-06 05:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by truely human 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋