I speak not of our friends, per say...
But more so of the person who catches our eye from across a crowded room.
The one who instantly intrigues us with just one answer or one question here...
What does this say about us?
Are we these traits?
Do we want theses traits?
What do you think?
2007-10-05 21:25:16 · 5 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Nothing.
The attraction is not us but them.
We learn nothing about ourselves and want to learn everything about them. That is what attraction is an appetite for the sweetness we perceive the other person posesses in abundance.
Some forces are greater than we can control or comprehend.
I don't see this as a psychological problem per se.
It just is what it is, attraction.
2007-10-06 00:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That other person, a stranger, has a certain look, voice or X factor and your system has somehow been attracted to. But one has to take great caution that on the very first meeting, it is not a 'crush' situation and that the attraction does not develop into something you or he may not desire. It happens very often with teenagers as well as with adults. It can also happen that this stranger possesses something very unique that you become enthralled. In some cases this is an illusion and both parties only regret later on. Beware of such a trap as it can befall anyone.There is a possibility that there are 10 more of these very unique persons whom one can idolize.
2007-10-05 21:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by Dolphin-Bird Lover8-88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be but i heard that you and the other person you attract are like a plug and socket. no matter how good or bad you are for each other, there is something you both give to each other. example, an abuser can be attracted to a nice gal because she allows him to dominate her therefore, they fit perfect like a plug and socket. it may not be healthy but these traits will keep them together til she strengthens up and no longer is a socket for him (metephor speaking).
2007-10-05 21:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people we attract in our lives have a lot to do with our past experiences. Some experiences may be related to our upbringing, culture, childhood. Some people may remind us of those by whom we were reared, such as parents and or family members and others who may have had some influences in our lives. We don't necessarily have to share the same traits as those people but we may be attracted to them because of some past events in our lives that forced us to relate to them. Occasionally, we may share the same characteristics as they do. Remember "the chicken of the same feathers flock together" theory.
Sometimes, we may get stuck in our past and attract those who remind us of our past. I know I am guilty of such a practice. Those humans in my past were not cool.
For instance some people who had narcissistic parents tend to attract narcissists in their lives or run away from narcissists. We either reject things and or/humans that remind us of our past or run from them. Different humans react differently.
Sometimes, we need to ask ourselves why we attract certain humans in our lives? The answer may be right there inside of us.
What do you think?
2007-10-05 22:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by lili dauphin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
booooooooring
2007-10-05 21:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋