i been together with my man for about a year now. we been doin pretty good. but he has a very small penis. about 5 1/2 inches maybe 6 (doubt a 6.. but maybe) anyhow he has tryed to become a better lover and do new moves but nothing is working. it is just too small. it is hard for me to even feel it. he is the 2nd person i have ever been with. the first was a guy who had a 7 inch. I find myself comparing. even though he treats me much better the other guy's penis felt so much better because of his size. what should i do? sex is very important to me. but so is he. but how for him to please me? i get tired of oral and want, crave, need penis. help me!
from,
sexually frustrated
2007-10-05 20:53:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Hi.. I am not sure why some of these women seem to be putting you down based on your opinion in what you like.
The answer to your question is honestly quite simple. You must ask yourself if you love him enough to accept him (small penis and all) and learn to adapt to his short comings and be willing to find new ways for your sexual gradifications.
Or.
You you may feel that he in a whole is not worth the effort. You may feel he is much less important in your life then what sex means to you.
When you ask yourself this you will get the answer. It is only in your hands. I know it's hard... If you do love him then this will be a very tough call. I know that sex is very important. So this will have to be left up to you.
If I were in the same boat I would go by how much I loved the person. If I loved them with every breath in me I would stay with them and accept them no matter what. But if I felt we just didn't have a connection and other thing's weren't going well in the relationship as well, then it may be time to let go and move on.
Hope you find the right path to take. and good luck!
2007-10-05 21:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I am going to try to answer this question honestly because it was at times difficult to read without laughing and I sometimes doubted the validity or sincerety of this question. Here it goes...
While I understand that sex means a lot to you and obviously size may be of importance, one must also understand that there is more to life than just sex. As well, 5 1/2 to 6 inches is considered average for the male penis, so if you consider that small, and you decide you want to break up with your current boyfriend and go find other guys to have sex with, chances are half of the guys end up finding are going to be typically average as well (statistically speaking), unless you end up lucky on your first try, or if you continue that search for the "perfect penis" to fit your needs, which may constitute with sleeping around with too many men to find what you are looking for. To me, that is a sex life without any sort of substance, and I don't think you would be happy in the long run. Sure, your sexual desires need may be fulfilled initially, but that sexual gratification won't outweigh any of the needs you will yearn for deep within by having a nice guy hold you close, sweep you off your feet, and make you feel complete as he counts his lucky stars that he has you in his life. That companionship is something that cannot be won over by over compensation in mindless, pointless sex. If you don't understand that now, you'll understand it soon enough. I hope that realization will not come to you at a time when it is too late and you're all alone wishing someone cared for you and not just for your body. Sometimes it all finds a way to come full circle, so as petty and harmless as it seems, being superficial about your boyfriend's penis size and finding the right penis size to compensate your needs can all come back to haunt you.
With all that stated, I would look over the superficial aspects of a penis size (unless it is an 100% must for you or else) and keep the guy you have. especially if he is a great boyfriend and loves you. If you can get past his lack in an inch and a half (to your 7 inch standard) and see him for the great guy he is and will become, then I say stick with him. Who knows, for all you know he may think your breasts are too small or your butt is too big, but nobody is perfect. Love sees past these little physical imperfections and amplifies what is in the heart.
All that stated, if you think you can't get past it and you may astray and cheat on him, then just save him the trouble and break up with him now. Don't lack integrity just because of something superficial like a penis. I hope you have better character than that.
I may not have given the best answer on here, but I hope the answer I provided shows you that life is more than the superficial things we value. Sure, his penis may be average, but he never told you he was a porn star.
2007-10-05 21:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by dfilm4_t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully your boyfriend will smarten up and ditch you for someone better.
There's more to a man than his penis size. If he treats you well and doesn't cheat on you, then you have it made! To me it's about the motion in the ocean and NOT the size of the boat! I think you are so fixated on "size" you're not even giving the poor guy half a chance to please you! How would you feel if he typed a posting stating how your small breasts just don't do it for him and he's thinking about dumping you? Think about it....
If this is how you feel, then cut him loose before you hurt him any more than I am sure you already have. Let him go and find a woman who will be happy with his penis size. You go and find a 747 to hump on. K?
2007-10-05 21:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
Please break up with this guy. He will never satisfy you. Why waste your time when there is a guy out there with a 16" job? He is apparently the only one in the world. I'm sure if you work at it that he will be happy to have you. You have to set your standards high. Why worry about relationships and love and trust and companionship and friendship when there are inches to consider? Above average should never be enough! Go for the best. It is your destiny. And there couldn't be anything wrong with you! It is normal for every woman to get out the ruler and compare. And be dissatisfied with above average.
And some day you will be a very lonely old lady with a really big dildo.
2007-10-05 22:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by nobodyinparticular 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you need more wood, then that's that. Find someone else.
But it reminds me of the "Sex and the City" episode ("The Awful Truth" where Sam tells a guy during couples' counseling, "Your penis is too small!" and he says, "Oh yeah? Well, did you ever think that maybe your vagina is too big?"
Love Jack
2007-10-05 21:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 05:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been there trust me .. but you guys can learn together .. maybe he isnt better because you are boring .. you guys need to try to connect more on a mental level that makes sex better .. and if you are going to break up with him over sex you are really shallow and maybe he deserves someone who is going to appreciate him for who he is small penis and all .. relationships are not based on sex and if they are then they dont last long
2007-10-05 21:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by Cami♥ 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
5 1/2" i believe is the average length for a mans penis.. google it
2007-10-05 20:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by monkeystoneart 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his size is perfectly normal.
I think the main thing is how you feel about him.
He obviously cares enough about you to try harder to satisfy you. Perhaps you could try harder to stop comparing him to some other guy and give him a chance.
2007-10-06 01:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by Julie R 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
true. i've had sex with a very small penis guy and i could hardly feel it. but i feel bad because i'm not perfect either. i have small boobs. but that's so different from not being able to feel anything down there. if you love him alot stay with him and use a vibrator.
2007-10-05 20:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋