i can't figure it out, does it mean that they are weak? or are they strong? is there a hidden meaning? does that mean they will let themselves be used? i just don't get what that means.
2007-10-05 19:01:48 · 8 answers · asked by Nikki 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Everyone needs to be needed, even the strongest person wants to be needed. It is not weakness it is just in human's nature.One can't be a strong person if nobody needs him. If someone needs you it means you are an important person.
2007-10-05 19:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Needing to be needed... can be a problem. Being needed to an extent is good, but if a person feels useless or unloved unless they are needed, then they may have an issue.
It's not a weakness or a strength really, it's a psychological problem, where the person doesn't feel wanted or worthy if they are not needed by someone.
And yes, some people pick up on that personality trait and they will use nice people who like to be needed. They take advantage of it and the person who "needs to be needed"ends up doing all the working, care giving, supporting..etc. and get nothing in return.
Best I can do.
Hope that helps.
2007-10-06 02:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by gemma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means they're not secure enough with themselves that they believe they NEED another human to make themselves complete. Being needy is very undesireable - it's annoying - it's not attractive, it's tiring and it's suffocating.
a person who needs to be needed has pretty much the same dynamics. Most caretakers and a lot of parents (mostly mothers) have this going on and it's really sad - it means the person attains self-worth only by what they can give others.
Needing and being needy are different sides of the same dysfunction -
2007-10-06 02:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends. I have been manipulated by a weak person in the past. Then I got it and ended it. They were very smart in hindsight... There is also co-dependency. Where 2 people are needing to be needed. Then there is Van Munching by Proxy {sp?} where someone is really sick and needs the attention of caring for the sick person... Then there is the lazy weak who need someone to blame for their own shortcomings. It is all not healthy. Regardless of the conditon. People should be able to stand on their own feet.
2007-10-06 02:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, people need to be needed.........but it's normal, because human beings crave affection....
it's not bad to want to be needed........i mean, some people think that if they're not needed, then what's the whole point of living? because one measly person (themselves) want to?? that's what some people think, and i know it's terrible, but it's true.........that's why we need to make people feel needed, because some people feel so useless, that they aren't needed, so they do terrible things to themselves.
anyways, it doesn't mean they're weak, strong, or anything that's hidden somewhere..........they're just human.
well, ask yourself. if everyone you love hates you, thinks that you're not needed, and the whole world turns against you. who're you gonna turn to for help? who's gonna help you through this terrible time where you wish terribly to be needed?
no one. so, it's a very terrible thing to feel.
2007-10-06 02:47:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
needing to be needed is when a person feels validation when other people seem to need them, either for services or advice or support. anything, really. no hidden meaning, it's just a reference to a person who feels better about themselves for being needed by someone else.
2007-10-06 02:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It means they are normal. They need love and human affection. HOWEVER, if someone complains that you need to be needed what they might be saying is you are needy. Being needy usually means you are sort of clingy, or very clingy, and driving the person nuts. It means you are trying to coerce them to want you more than they actually do. In my life, when a man has been really needy, I dump him. To me it is a way of abusing me and forcing me against my will.
2007-10-06 02:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by moondrop000 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
love and need...i think they go hand in hand...
personally I am most likely inclined to need people i love.
it's alot better than needing the people I hate.
therefore i guess...people feel somewhat loved by the people who needs them.
2007-10-06 02:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Slide♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋