How do you feel about the woman proposing marriage to a man?

Question

Night ya'll!

What would you prefer personally?

Answer 1

Fine. Why shouldn't a woman propose marriage?

There's so much attached to this.

Why should a woman take her husband's name? That's gossly insulting. It goes back to times when women were considered property. How many men would take their wife's name?


Why should a woman be expected to be virgin on her wedding night? Why do we excuse promiscuity in men while condemining it in women? A woman who has casual sex is usually considered to be cheap; a man who is equally promiscious is usually congratulated on his prowess. If a woman cheats on her husband she's called a whore. If a man cheats on his wife, most ppl dismiss it as a trifling matter.

Women still have a long way to go.

And there's much cruel and inexcusable predjucice against men.
A few instances:
If a man is abused by his wife and reports it, he's likely to be ridiculed. For obvious biological reasons, women are far more often the victims of physical abuse, but sometimes men are the victims. A bully is a bully, regardless of gender. I tried to help a man who was being abused physically and emotionally. He was so deeply depressed and humiliated that he just gave up. So I reported it. Every policeman I spoke to thought it was funny. It wasn't. He nearly died. (I was able to help the abused children.)
Men have died of prostate cancer who might have been alerted to the danger in time were the subject covered in the media as breast cancer has been.
Men who stay at home caring for their young children are stigmatized and ridiculed.

If only we emerged from our complacency and recognized that women and men are different (thank goodness! :) ) AND equal this would be such a better world.

Answer 2

I don't think there is anything wrong with it at all, especially if you and your partner are on the same wavelength. A man risks just as much by asking a woman to marry him as a woman would by asking a man. I see nothing "desperate" about it. Actually, depending on the relationship, it might just be appropriate that the woman asks the man. I honestly don't think that too many people would put themselves out there and ask someone to marry them if they even had an inkling that they would say no when asked. Go for it, ladies!

Answer 3

I don't find anything wrong with it, and it does show courage, as a woman proposing may run the risk of him saying "no" or "not yet".
However, Gnu Sense made an interesting point...if she were to ask, would she also be the one to pay for the rings? As it is customary for men who propose to do such.

Personally, I have nothing against the institution of marriage, but don't find it necessary to have a committed relationship, just my opinion.

Night to you too. :-)

Answer 4

My answer to your proposal is YES< YES< YES. It sounds wonderful when a woman just gets up teh nerve to get her man and ask. Sometimes a guy is too shy to ask and if a woman does the job for him I bet there would be more YESes in this world. SO ask for I have said Yes already

Answer 5

I'm fine with it. In fact, I think a lot of women do, in a sense. I've known quite a few ladies that were in long term relationships who had to pressure reluctant bachelors. You know, turn up the heat a little, milk from the cow for free and all that. As much as that behavior seems 'desperate ' to some, asking someone to s.hit or get off the pot is perfectly acceptable to me.

So, in a way, it's the same thing, just less formal. Women do make their intentions known, and leave it up to the guy to make up his mind all the time.

Answer 6

Is there a written LAW somewhere that says a woman CAN'T propose marriage to a man? NOPE.... so why the hell NOT????? if the man wants to marry a woman but is too CHICKEN to ask (and a LOT are)... then why shouldn't the woman ask? the man can always say no (just like we WOMEN can).....just because it's not traditional doesn't make it WRONG.....

Answer 7

It might be the smart thing to do, if they have been involved for some time and the man who really does want to marry her, but is afraid he's not financially prepared to handle the responsibilities that come with marriage. It can be the woman's way of saying, "I'd rather marry you and work through these things together, than continue waiting, hoping that things reach the level of the your comfort to make that commitment. It could be a very good thing indeed, especially if the man has concerns the woman feels are irrelevant to the vows of marriage. Life changes in ways we can never be adequately prepared for. We can only rely on our character and our faith to maintain in times of adversity.

The vows of marriage are superior to the momentary conditions a couple encounters throughout their lives. That's if you really believe in your vows. Marriage was meant to be transcendent. Nothing, no one and no experience is to supersede it.

Shingoshi Dao

I'm just waiting for a 6'2" redhead with green eyes, freckles, a wide mouth and nice @$$ to pop the question on me. But that'll never happen.

Answer 8

I see nothing wrong with it at all.

I can't say I "prefer" it anymore than a man proposing. I just think both should exist. There is nothing wrong with a woman popping the question. You women need to start mustering up some courage too.

Answer 9

Yes I can't see any reason why a woman shouldn't propose marriage. If more women would let there desires be known I think they would get what they want more often. If a man has to guess constantly and get in trouble or get called stupid or insensitive because he guessed wrong then he isn't going to try guessing very long. We men want to know what women want we just don't want to be pressured into it. And to the people who think men are too chicken or anything like that. How brave would you be if you had to risk everything you worked for your whole life and future children and income just to give some one what they want. And for those who think pressuring a man into marriage is fine. I thought that using pressure to get what you want was abuse? I guess that applies only if you are a man huh.

Answer 10

There is a tradition in UK anyway that a women can ask a man to marry her on the 29th February. My ex. did and we got engaged. Just look at the mess we're in now.