This is a sensitive question. So I hope you ladies wouldn't mind me asking. Bearing a child is a daunting process that is extremely painful. Having the child during the months of pregnancy is also inconvenient as you have to be careful of taking care of the foetus and you will have headaches.
So, why do you still want to give birth? Is it not better if you live your life childless?
2007-10-05 17:08:07 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Even though my pregnancy and delivery by c-section was pure hell it was so worth it. I would not change having my son. I love him more than life. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me and all the pain in the world was worth having him......
2007-10-05 17:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pregnancy can be rough and all women are different so some have awesome pregnancies and some have morning sickness most of the time. Every pregnancy for each woman is different too. The only problem I have w/this pregnancy is lower pains when I walk and I can't roll over in bed but I know it will soon go away and it's worth having the pains to have that precious bundle of joy in your arms and having someone love you and soon will start calling you mommy or daddy.
There are days where it would be nice to be childless so I can do things and go places and such but I wouldn't trade it for anything. Until you have kids you don't know all the experiences that mean the world to you and only you and other mommys and daddys know.
Plus giving birth doesn't always have to be very painful. They have drugs for that and some have high pain tolerence. Plus it's not as painful as you think..your body kicks in and helps the pain process. I had a c-section w/my daughter and ya I was in pain from the incision for a few weeks but I was tough enough to get out and walk around and still do things I needed to do starting the next day afterwards.
2007-10-06 00:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by shortysml 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When I was pregnant with my daughter, I had no problems what so ever. Every pregnancy is different. To feel that wonderful creation growing inside of yourself is the most miraculous thing in the world. My husband wished that he had the bond that I had with our daughter.
That birth was a c-section. I remember that I was in pain at first, but I don't exactly know what the pain was like anymore. Just like when I had my gall bladder taken out, biopsy done twice and surgery on my wrist. The same would be for someone who has broken a bone. Yeah...you remember that it "did" hurt, but later on you can't exactly remember what the entire experience felt like. If a person did, can you imagine how many paranoid people there would be out there who would be too afraid to go outside in fear of breaking something again?
Which is why I am pregnant again. Me and my husband are over joyed with having another little one. Our daughter is such a great joy in our lives. I can't imagine not having her in our lives.
This pregnancy has definitely been different, but I enjoy it all the same.
2007-10-06 00:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mutton w/ dumplings 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, to the outsider I am sure it looks like a pain to be pregnant. My sister has had 4 children. I can remember looking at her like "Oh MY GOD!" Now that I am pregnant (and I have a horrific cold right now), I see that the joys outweigh the aches. I am coughing like a maniac, but when the baby moves, I just stop to feel him. It's a wonderful feeling. I have also had a miscarriage in the past, so it hasn't been easy. In fact, sometimes it doesn't feel real. It is the most selfless thing that I have ever done in my life and it is really a huge accomplishment. I have yet to give birth (due in 4 weeks), so we will see about the pains of labor. I am pretty sure that it will all be worth it once I see his face. I am the happiest and most health conscious I have ever been in my life. So, yeah, I hope I answered your question.
2007-10-06 00:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Brooke S 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why would a man spend time building a car? Especially a broke down classic car that need restoration?? I mean you have to spend all that time & effort,, sweating,, dirty,, time,, money,,you could get hurt,, you could break your tools,,someone might order the wrong part.. would'nt it be easier to buy a newer smaller cheaper car & never own a classic?? The car will never care who owns it,drives it, but you sure will love that car wont you??Wont it feel good speeding down the road knowing you built that engine under the hood,, you put thoes tires on the rims?
A child is not a car -- You will never fully understand that viewpoint till you are a daddy yourself oneday. But for now,, as a Mommy & a girl trying to speak man that is as close as a ah ha momement as I can give you. The very 1st smile is worth every momement of labor,, I thank God for every temper tantrum I have to handle,, every headache,, & God in Heaven knows I would not have a life if it were Childless..
No nothing would be better without children,,, I bet if someone asked your mom that question she would cry..young man. I really hope one day in life you have a chance to feel the same way & understand why... I hope you love a child so much you understand why....It's so worth it..
2007-10-06 00:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by Turtle1 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Having a child is like no other experience in the world. When we're pregnant yes you have to becare about things that you do, but most of the time you just go about your day to day things just like everyone else. Then to give birth, yes its painful and its hard, but its so worth it in the end. You get to love and nurture this beautiful person. Even though not all babies live and grow, but its still an experience you'll never forget. After all if your mother thought like you, you wouldn't be here to ask this question.
2007-10-06 00:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Class 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Eventhough we go through so much pain in the process, babies are little miracles. I am 6 1/2 months pregnant and I love being pregnant. Yes my body hurts all the time I always have headaches, but in the end it'll be worth it. As soon as I see my daughter's precious little face it'll all be worth it. A baby is something too people create together. If we didn't give birth to these wonderful little miracles the world would come to an end!!
It's the most wonderful experience a female can go through!!
2007-10-06 00:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
The kind of people that want to know this, are the kind of people that don't want children, and there is no convincing them that it's something you want and you are willing to do anything. You obviously don't want children, or can't understand the concept and that's fine, and I seriously doubt any person's answer is going to convince you other wise, but with that said;
Every pregnancy is different. Some women have it harder then others, but that doesn't mean the want is gone, just because something is "hard" or difficult doesn't mean it's not worth doing. To women that want a child, it's neither inconvenient, or better to live your life childless. To them being childless would be the worst thing, not any pain that they go through with childbirth, not any morning sickness, not any swollen ankles, not anything.
Children are not an inconvenience to people that want them.
2007-10-06 00:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Someone asked a question a couple of days ago about what it is like to be pregnant. Here was my response... maybe it will give you a little bit of an understanding of how wonderful yet how horrible pregnancy can be. This is my first so I can't really speak about the labour part:
Pregnancy is different for everyone but for me it is so many things
It is scary... knowing that I have another life to care for, even if I can't see or hold him/her yet... everything I do from know on will effect this little being inside me. Even when my beautiful baby is born I know I will always be scared for him/her. ut I know I will have to let them learn some things on their own and be their for them to encourage them when things don't go their way... be it a scraped knee, a broken relationship or a failed exam.
It can be frustrating... having to limit what you eat, drink and do... no alcohol, no fair rides no soft cheese mmmmm
It can be horrid... when you are crying for no reason or yelling at someone you love for nothing more that the fact that the asked you a question or tried to help you with something... or when you are stuck with your head in the toilet at 3am in the morning
It is exciting... when you feel your baby move for the first time, or when you see cute little baby outfits or that first ultrasound.
It is overwhelming.... when you realise that you have a life long commitment ahead of you, responsibilities that you can't just give up on.
It is amazing... when you realise that all of the above means you will have unconditional love, never ending hugs and kisses, oppurtunities to return to your own childhood and finger paint, sing silly songs and play 'silly' kids games.
Pregnancy for me, is every single feeling rolled into one but so far in my life it is the most amazing experience I have had
2007-10-06 00:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by ஜBECஜ ~Mama to Lucy & bump~ 6 · 8⤊ 2⤋
You are obviously not a parent. If you think being pregnant is an inconvenience, you are of a different thought process. Many actually think the experience is great, sickness and all. Those looking forward to having children don't mind at all. You just have a different point of view.
2007-10-06 00:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
If anyone chooses not to have children, then the term is "Childfree", not "Childless".
Remember that most people don't plan to have children. They just do it on accident. They tell themselves, and others, they wanted them, to justify themselves.
People are also so subject to peer pressure, that they will go though the pain to be like everyone else. Pathetic isn't it.
2007-10-08 14:20:15 · answer #11 · answered by Marvin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋